I believe that we all have toxic sides that we are unaware of. I'll admit that I'm one of those nasty and bitter individuals. I can really connect to ate @Ruffa 's article "The Ugly Side, The Effect of Diffidence and Envy" and feel like I was her after reading it. When I read her article, I feel like she's describing me because everything she said is so relatable.
That is why, after reading it, I came to this conclusion. I decided to write an article about how to avoid becoming toxic.
How To Be A Non Toxic Person
Contemplate first, then react.
It's time to reorganize your priorities if you're the type who reacts first and thinks afterwards. After all, if you're a highly reactive person ( things irritate you frequently), you're likely to take it out on those around you. You don't want people to feel like being around you is like navigating a minefield. That is something that no one desires.
Making other people responsible for predicting all of your emotional requirements is unhealthy.
It takes time to learn to take things less personally, and it starts with a foundation of self-confidence that you may need to develop. It doesn't bother you if someone makes you feel stupid because you know you're smarter than that. If you're insecure, a simple teasing at you won't set you off.
Forget about your ego.
A toxic person is determined to keep a certain image, even if it means being defensive or even assaulting people over things that don't make sense. No one can keep a flawless image all of the time. It's crucial to learn to put your ego aside. It eliminates toxic behavior, which can manifest in a variety of ways.
If you put your ego aside, you'll find that you're much more relatable to others, and you'll be able to tap into your vulnerability.
Don't put others down; instead, build them up.
We all want to be surrounded by people who makes us happy. If you're seeking for methods to drag others down, the it's better to stop those actions. Why? What are the consequences of retaliating against or dismissing others? The ego is out of whack if it's a sense of superiority. It's probably time to reconsider where your values come from and what means most to you.
If you feel assaulted. Don't respond to the 'attack,' no matter where it comes from.
Learn to be happy with someone else success.
Learn to be happy at someone's success and accept defeats. Rather than becoming envious or believing that your friends do not deserve to be happy, be inspired! Take heart in the fact that your own friends are experiencing such joy in their life — and see it as a sign that it is possible for you, too!
I understand how difficult it is to be happy for other people when your own life is falling apart. We're just human, after all. Take some time away from them if you can't seem to separate their situation from your own. It's all right. If seeing someone's post something positive on Facebook makes you upset, block their profile from your news feed. Don't provide yourself with fuel to keep you down. It's better not to think about them at all if you can't think of anything positive.
Never use someone's past against them.
Never use someone's past to your advantage.
The most disgusting thing a person can do is use someone's past against them. If we know something about someone's background, we should keep it to ourselves because we have no idea what they've gone through. You're only reminding them of their previous errors. Never use emotion as a weapon; it has a far more powerful impact than you may realize.
Be more thankful.
Take a moment to be grateful for what you have. Taking a break is sometimes a fantastic approach to get back on track and feel better. You'll have to think of things to be grateful for, and the break itself can be an excellent reason to be glad. People who practice gratitude are happier and healthier than those who do not.
Signs of a Toxic Individual
You look for and anticipate the worst in others.
You're always getting into fights;
You choose arguments about things that aren't important to you.
When you're upset, you tend to lash out at the people closest to you;
You never give the benefit of the doubt to anyone.
People are hesitant to speak up around you.
Author's Note:
I'm sharing this article with you since I'm trying to get rid of my toxic aspects. I get easily jealous over small things. Jealousy seems to be eating me alive. Right now, I'm using jealousy as a motivator to work even harder in order to obtain the goal that I desire.
Let's avoid becoming a toxic one by focusing solely on the positive side.
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I was brought up being told, treat others as you want to be treated. I also listen first or observe then act, don't just shoot from the mouth immediately :) And be positive, it works.