My Issues With My Relatives

We see our aunts, uncles, or even cousins as our second mom or dad. We look up to them because they are suppose to be the example of a good person. They are the one who will guid and care for us in our lives besides our parents.

But it is not always the case. We sometimes have arguments with them. There is no perfect world for sure. This is just normal for us humans to have different beliefs in lives but sometimes, it is crossing the line already. In relatives situation is not an exemption. I personally experience it too, and I know most of us do.

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In this article, I will be writing about some of my relatives that really hurt me most especially psychologically. Even though they treat me like this, I will still respect them because they are the sisters and brothers of my parents. I do have many lovely relatives it is just few of them that I really do not agree with and affecting my mental health.

1) Pushing me to their religion.

Like I said over and over in this platform, I am not a religious person but I have a God. Maybe because there are malpractices of the church in our place. I see a particular church in our place that targets poor people. They gave them money in exchange of being a member of their church. And then after that, they will agree of giving fraction of their salary or else they will be cut from the church. These are some of the things I saw that's why I lose my faith in the church or religion.

My aunt is a very devoted to their church, I do not like to mention it. They always make a mass whenever there is a celebration and it annoys me. It was suppose to be a simple prayer and not a mass that takes 1 hour. The celebration is New Year. It is spoiled because of it. I am not against praying but please, do it in a proper time. We all have time for everything but do not make it to a point that everything is about your religion. It is also disrespectful for people who are not interested to their religion.

2) They still treat me as a 9 year old kid.

There is a time that they try to bribe be a freaking chocolate haha! Like, I am thinking that I am still a 9 year old me in their eyes? I think they should move on that I am an adult now and I have my own opinion and own thoughts on things. I am not that kid that all yes in all things that they say. The one thing that I learned growing up is to say no when you do not like something. Do not settle for things that you do not like or you will ended up hating it.

3) They always ask me on how much is my salary over and over.

Asking the salary is okay, but when it is over and over? I do not get it. They should know that asking your salary is a general taboo. Just because you are my relative, you will ask how much I earn over and over and then judge me based on the amount of what I earn. From that day own, I did not talk about anything about money or monetary related stuff. It will just bring up the salary issue. I generally do not like talking about money, it is just not my cup of tea.

4) Comparing me specially my other cousins.

It did hurt me when my own blood makes me feel bad by comparing me to someone, specially with same relatives. We have different wants in life and it is not necessary that you have to be a doctor, a pilot, a nurse, etc. It does not matter how much you earn. What matters is that you are doing what makes you happy. I will not become a doctor like my cousin just because she is earning a lot. I will not be a teacher just because your child is a respected teacher. It is a no for me. Sometimes I just wish that I do not open up that much to some of my relatives so that they cannot judge me.

5) They do not respect the hard earned things that we own.

One time my aunt is back to town. They have a house near our house. And so, because they are away for a while, some of the things are broken because no one is looking for the house. It is natural for us to lend hammer, sickle, and tools that we can offer to help them. We expected that these tools to be returned in the same shape and form after use. It is so sad that they will return the tools broken or has missing parts after use. Sometimes they forgot to return it and we cannot get it because their house is locked. Just because we are relative, you will not say sorry or do not amend your wrong doings. It is just so disappointing.

Final Thoughts

I do not mean to say that they are bad all the time. These are just some situations that really annoys and saddens me. It is just 5% of all of my relatives. I do not like to voice it out because the culture here in the Philippines is that, when you want to say what is in your mind, they will tell you that you are disrespectful. In the Philippines, you cannot correct the older people. They will always be right in whatever they do. How I wish this kind of mentality will be diminished because the world is changing!