Are You With A Man Or A Boy?

Since the month of love is about to end I would like to discuss a simple thing that may question your mind especially to married or girls who are in a relationship right now. But before that let me just remind you that this month is not the only time to show love to our fellow, we must show it everyday because it may inspire others or give hope to others to continue living their life.

Entering into relationship can be good and bad. Realtalk that's the outcome that may happen later on as your relationship goes longer. In some ways it can bring better outcomes but at the same time it can bring bad outcomes which we don't want right that's why before entering into a such situation you must keep in mind to check whether you got the right person or not.

Especially to girls as I said in the first part. You must determine if your partner is a man or a boy, you can that by observing his doings and decisions in life. It may take a while before you can observe him especially in your married days but it will surely come out later on.

What I will write here is just based on my opinion and I hope you'll read till the last paragraph.

Based from what I observed from the males I know such as my uncles and husbands of my aunties. It's been a long time since they were married and when they stay here I noticed something about them which made me doubt if they were a boy or a man.

Well for me a boy is someone who's mind is not that mature enough to take things seriously. They may take things head on but they will just make fun of it and will treat it as a mere game. He can't make proper decision when it comes to important things. He can make decisions but can't stand it.

He doesn't know his top priority for example, his family or other unimportant things such as hanging out with his friends drinking liquor while his kids don't have anything to eat. He doesn't have the will to look for jobs when they are short in money and just waiting for blessings to fall down from a tree. In short a lazy one who just want an easy going life. That's how I can describe a boy from a man.

While a man on the other hand is he's responsible to his duty as the foundation of the family especially to his top priorities. He don't wait for a blessing to fall down, he look for it. Knocking each doors finding different opportunities that can help him to save the day. He will never make his woman cry. He will do the initiative of lowering his pride in order for their relation to be intact.

Taking things with the proper mindset in order to resolve any problems which may arise unexpectedly. He make certain decisions and stand for it especially to crucial situations. He don't give up on his family no matter how vague their relation is to each other.

That's my view in a boy and a man as a partner. So now my friends can you determine which of them your partner belongs to. I know the thoughts about it is not that complete but I guess you can already get what I want to say here. You can comment below where they belong to or your thoughts about it.

The reason why I'm able to compose this article is because of the current situation of one of my auntie. Her husband now is showing the description of a boy and I see her suffering from it. My grandmother is also worrying about her and making her angry to her son-in-law.

I don't want to judge someone but what he's doing to his family is just absurd. I'm controlling my temper towards him because if I want I can punch his face for him to come back to his senses. He doesn't have sense of responsibility as the foundation in his family.

My aunt already seek help from me because she knows that I have a means of generating income. It's just making me sick that his husband is just sleeping there all day and he doesn't even have the initiative to find job in order to feed his family.

There are many guys out there who can't even stand the vow they took infront of the altar. I can say that they are the one reason why a family is being destroyed. They are the reason why many woman out there are suffering and don't have time to take care of themselves.

That's why I'll make sure that I will not end up just like that one and I hope to every guy out there who plans to build their own family in the future. I also make sure that my 4 male cousins will never be like that. Those guys don't deserve those balls because they are acting like they don't have balls.

Author's note

You're a guy and single now, better make up your mind before planning to have your own family. Right before courting a woman, you must stand for what you will promise to do to her in the future especially if you're proposing to her, want to make her your wife. Also to all girls out there, make sure that you know well your suitor before giving your Yes or accepting his proposal as your husband to be. Because at the end of the day both of you will suffer. Not only you but your future children also. Nobody wants that righ? So better be careful in choosing the one.

There's no point in one relationship if it's only sweet at the beginning and the ending will be suffering.

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