I still feel pain in my hand when I remember that handshake. I held out my hand to him, and then I felt such a strong handshake that I could not prevent the exclamation that expressed my uncomfortable feeling. He ignored my exclamation, strictly sticking to the protocol he was supposed to do at the job interview.

He was the manager of the sector in which I applied for a job in a position within the company where I work. During the conversation, he tried to ask as many questions as possible that would put me in an inferior position, while it was difficult for me to concentrate because of the pain in my hand. I felt he wasn’t feeling well because I was looking him in the eye. He avoided looking at me, in order to keep his superior self-confidence at a level suitable for a manager.

He would not allow me to finish the sentence, interrupting my thoughts. Again I realized that it was hard for him to concentrate because I was looking him in the eye. He was nervously trying to end the conversation, and I was thinking that in the end I would have to give him my hand again. Although he tried, he failed to put me in an inferior position and my self-confidence was reason enough for his even stronger handshake to show me he was superior. After this interview my hand was almost broken. I still feel pain.

Yesterday on the street I again had a painful handshake, that inspired me to write this article. It was a handshake with my friend's husband.

I was thinking about it and tried to figure out what doesn't allow people to shake hands normally. I will try in my own way to explain a few different types of handshakes that I recognize in everyday life. I would like to read your experiences as well. Let me know if you have experienced any other type of handshake besides the ones mentioned.

Strong and painful handshake

When a handshake is strong it is possible that it is a person who has a lot of self-confidence, but if it is too strong, it can be the opposite. If it is so strong that it causes pain and almost a broken hand, it is probably a person who has a lack of self-confidence. Maybe it is an inferiority complex or some other complex, but it is definitely not a strength.

Limp handshake

When someone gives us a hand so lightly that we have to hold that hand to keep it from falling, it is possible that it is again a lack of self-confidence. Sometimes it is matter of listless and unmotivated behavior.

Slanting handshake

When someone holds our hand during a handshake by moving it slightly to the side, obliquely, I think that means they want to dominate. In these situations, sometimes I need to put my other hand over their hand, because I think that way they will return to their normal position and stop showing me that they want to dominate.

Normal handshake

It is best when you have a normal handshake. The way it is natural. Such handshake will be neither too strong nor too weak. It is best when you do not think about what your handshake will be like and in that case it will always be natural and normal.

How is your handshake?

Thank you very much for reading.

In the end, I would like to give my hand to @Lucifer01 and thank him a lot for the support and sponsorship renewal. 😊

Article is original and mine. Lead image is downloaded from unsplash.com.