Not all lucky (filipina neighbor at Singapore)

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Halu halu everyone! Today ill share a story about our filipina neighbor at Singapore. You know everyone that all my articles are based on my own experience. Its just that I have enounter a lots of people wherever I go. Its not easy to work abroad, if you only knew the real meaning of Domestic Helper.

So wayback 2013 when Im at Singapore for a work, I meet a lots of friends there such as filipina, indonesian, myanmar and indian helper. But most of our neighbors is filipina especially the next door is also a "BISAYA" like me. They are 2 actually, thats why were really closed until we finished our contract. Its Lyra and ate Narsing.

After few months, Lyra tell me about a certain filipina helper just 5 blocks from my employers house. Her name is Lalaine, her employer is very abusive. We know that we have unlimited works everyday. We need to cook,clean the whole house, do the laundry, fetch the kids at school and of course our part time cleaning at the house of our employers siblings/parents. But take note not all helpers can recieved extra money for that. So far I know the rules and rights of Domestic helper. Its against the rule that you will work or part time job with the other employers.

Lets go back to Lalaine. Lyra said she want to changed her employer but she dont know how to tell to her employers coz she cant speak fluent in English. So Lyra want to help her and she also dont know how. As a matter of fact its my 2nd employer and I tell them how I escaped my bad madam(my 1st employer). So heres our convo with Lyra..

Lyra: Jean we need to help her or else she will commit suicide for herself

Me: Oppsss! Why so quick decision.

Lyra: she cant stay longer their coz they always nagging and scolding Lalaine even she do her works.

Me: hey I see her scrubbing the floor at 11:30am under the sun and its too hot outside. I supposed to buy a wanton mee for my Shi Xin then I see her outside while im on the road using the mountain bike of Shi Sue. Im shocked Lyra you know, my eyes gets bigger!

Lyra: thats the reason she want to transfer to another employer. Shes very tired everyday plus nagging at her always. She's very stressed Jean.

Me: okay i'll make a draft in a piece of paper and let her memorized everything. Hope it can help.

A message for her employers..

Mam/ sir I want to go back to my agency so that I can apply a new employer. If you will not agree, ill do nothing everyday here in your house until I die without eating.

Few days later:

Its miracle we never see Lalaine outside the house of her employers especially in the morning. Were praying that Lalaine really do what im saying. The one who teach me how to escaped my old employer is our Chinese neighbor at Changi. Then my 2nd employer is living at Pasir Ris just near at the beach only.

House of my 2nd employer:

The next door is Lyra's employer

Authors thoughts:

Dont ever think that being a Domestic Helper is an easy work. We struggle everything, the adjustments, the foods and the environment. Were not like a millionaire as what you thinking. They are 2 options only we have. To survive or we die because not all lucky, to have good employer that can treat us as human being. Im just lucky with my 2nd employer and they treat me as a family also.

Be reminded also to the family in the Philippines, dont demand always to your mothers or sisters of domestic helper for a big money to buy the things that you want. You dont know the story behind of the helper if they buy also for themselves.

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Thanks for reading and blessed Wednesday to all my read.cash fam. Keep safe always there.

December 15,2021

11:46am

Wednesday

Philiipines

The fighter mom,

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Congratulations on your new job! May this work not depress you and not tire you out.Patience, strength. And let you always have time for the most important things in life!)

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2 years ago

Thank you my friend and god bless you always.

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2 years ago

I salute all Domestic Helpers. They endure everything just for the family. It's not easy to work abroad, knowing that they have a different culture. Lalaine was unfortunate for having such employers. No one deserved to be treated like an animal. It's just that those people who think low of domestic helpers don't understand the things that they go through. Sana lang talaga wala ng DH ng ating bansa ang nakakaexperience ng pagmamaltrato sa ibang bansa.

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2 years ago

Salamat sis at nkakaawa talaga yung c Lalaine. Di mn lng matanggol sarili nya ksi di msydo marunong mg english. Ganyan kadalasan sa Singapore pero di nmn tlga mayayaman ang lahat ng Singaporean don. Yung amo ko nga sila ng dlwa may trbho para mkpagpa aral ng apat na anak.

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2 years ago

Kaya nga. Mabuti nga nandyan kayo para sa kanya.

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2 years ago

Uo sis at kung hindi namin natulungan nku bka mgpakamatay na yun. Hirap pg malupit amo mo don.

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2 years ago

Magandang pakinggan ang salitang abroad pero mahirap kapag nasa katayuan kana talaga

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2 years ago

Tama ka dyan sissy na kahit mabait pa amo mo my times pa din ang masaktan ka diba. Kya laban lng lagi.

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2 years ago

Pag talaga sinabing nasa abroad, para sa karamihan, ibig sabihin lang nun, masarap ang buhay. Malaki ang sweldo eh, pero hindi nila naisip na hindi madali yung malayo sa pamilya. At pag minalas pa na mapunta sa mapangmataas na amo, aguyy.. Ang saklap nun sis.. Mao jud nang saludo ko's mga OFW na nanimpad gyud para sa pamilya, bisan lisod ug dako ang risk nga ilang i.take..

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2 years ago

Tama jud ka sis.. Feeling nila hayahay mga ofw nya datu kaau hahaha. Wa sila kabalo unsa sd kalisod didto ug swerte na lng jud ug buotan ang amo ba.

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2 years ago

Mao lagi. Daghan na pud ko'ng stories nahibaw.an about ana.a sis. Maong makaingon jud ko'ng pa.swertehay jud ning uban nga naa sa abroad..

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2 years ago

Uo sis labi na ug buotan imo amo na pirmi ka inspired sa imo trbho kda adlw ky wa mn ky kahadlukan kung patyon ba ka or dli.

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2 years ago

Haha.. atud pud nang patyon sis uie.. Pero, naa bitaw ing.ana nga cases noh.. Arang kalooy intawn..

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2 years ago

Ui tinoud na sis.. Confirm nko na sa sg pko kanang di dw sila katulog ky bsin dw sudlon sila sa kwrto ug patyon.. Buwis buhay jud mg ofw.

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2 years ago

Akala kasi ng marami Sis pag nasa abroad magaan at malaki ang pera, sitting pretty, di alam kung ano ang hirap na dinaranas, actually pa swertehan nga lang ng amo na mabait e.

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2 years ago

Tama ka diyan sis.. Advance mg isip ang iba kya kala nila masarap ang buhay ng ofw. Dapat matigas puso mo pg gusto mgtrbho sa ibang bnsa.

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2 years ago

Kalouy ng ingon Ana sis ba, swerte2x lang jud kung mapunta ka sa maayong amo. Hays di jud lalim ng ingon Ana tapos Usahay naa pay pamilya nga demanding din pataka lang ug gasto sa kwarta

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2 years ago

Swerte na lng jud ang mtwag ba buotan ang amo ky sko sauna bsta di lng ko mapasmo nya buotan ako amo wa jud prblma mga traBahuon pero nko mhurot ug limpyu ky by schedule ang pglimpyu sa bnyo ky lima kbuok sis ui. Nya ako usa ka alaga himoshhh kaau cge mgpaubn nko.

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2 years ago

Kanindot kung ingon Ana sis, kaso naay mga abusado na employer oi.

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2 years ago

Kaya po ako saludo sa lahat Ng OFW dahil kahit anong trabaho o layo man yan sinisikap po nilang pag trabahohan dahil para sa pamilya.

Naaawa nga po ako dun sa magulang ng kaklase ko dati ang mother niya po ay ofw tapos siya hindi man lang ma appreciate ang ginagawa ng kanyang Ina. Lagi po siyang nasa gulo tapos pinspatawag sa guidance.

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2 years ago

Kaya di biro ang buhay ofw talaga kaya sana nmn makita din ng mga kapamilya nya ang pagod at tiis sa kanilang amo tapos mgpapasaway lang ang kapamilya. Hanep din ah. Nasa huli ang pagsisisi pg nasa kapahamakan na ang mga mahal nila sa buhay.

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2 years ago

I don't know how to mistreat a human being who works for me. The lady who works for me at home has been doing it for more than 25 years. And when I get sick she is the one who comes to take care of me and it is for her own pleasure because I do not demand that she takes care of me because it is not her job. She does it out of affection and also because she tells me she doesn't want to lose her job. Lol.

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2 years ago

Woww 25 years is too long services for you and shes a filipina? Its very rare to an employer to be closed to the helpers. But we can treat both as a family coz I loved the kids of my employer too. Good thing is she take care of you when your sick.

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2 years ago

She is Venezuelan. She never wanted to work with anyone else. And she loves us very much. She tells me about her personal problems with her family and she loves my son too. I don't know what I would do at home without her.

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2 years ago

Ohhh Venezuelan, coz in Singapore they like filipina helper coz they know how filipina works when it comes to cleanliness and they have a good heart to the employer. Thats why their kids dont want me to go home and they accompanied me even at the airport. They really cried and shouting "auntie jean dont leave us"... I really cried that time.

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2 years ago

Saludo po talaga ako sa mga OFW dahil nakakayanan nilang umalis at manging bang

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2 years ago

Grabe talaga sis nuh. Yung iba kaawa-awa talaga. Ang sakit sa pakiramdam at ang sakit isipin. Grabe yung suffer nila sa mga na experiences sa mga amo nila. Dami akong nakita sa social medias. Naiiyak talaga ako.

Swertehan lang talaga sis nuh at magdasal talaga palagi kay God. Siya lang nakakatulong sa tin anytime.πŸ™ Buti naman sis na yung ikalawang amo mo ay mabait na sila at itinuring ka nilang family.

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2 years ago

Yes sis ang saklap ng tadhana pg amo mo ay malulupit. Di nga nka car wash sa amo ko non ksi dami ko na dw trbho. Masaklap sis pg di ka mrunong sumagot ng englishan ksi lugi ka sa labanan. Kahit di ako kasing talino ng iba pero marunong ako lumaban ng englishan nmn. Nkkaawa c Lalaine non nkabilad tlga sa araw which is di ko naranasan yan don.

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2 years ago

Ganun ba sis. Pag nanakit ba sila sis hindi sila pwede ireklamo? Kakatakot talaga sis nuh. Yung tita ko sis nasa labas din, thankful kami kasi sobrang bait ng amo niya lagi siya binibigyan ng mga gamit.

Ganun ba sis. Kaawa awa naman.πŸ₯Ί Utos ba yun ng amo niya sis na magbilad sa araw? Saan na siya ngayon sis? Nakauwi na ba siya sa bansa natin?

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2 years ago

Di talaga pwede manakit sis kasi pwede silang kasuhan or di na bigyan ng helper sa ginawa nila. May limit din mga agencies don na pg umabot ka ng 5 na helper na puro nagchanged employer eh automatic blocklist ka na sa agency nila. Nagscrub the floor c lalaine sa labas ng bahay sa may garage pero walang bubong yun kya grvh ang init non. Nalaman nmin sis na may bago ng helper yung kapitbahay namin. Di rin nmin alam kung nkauwi sya or andon pa sa sg.

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2 years ago

Oo sis kasi para sakin ireklamo talaga yung ganyan kasi di na makatarungan. Kakaawa yung mga DH.

Ganun ba sis. Naawa tuloy ako sa kanya. Sana kung andun parin siya sa Singapore ngayon, mabait na amo niya.πŸ™

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2 years ago

Mahigpit ang singapore sis pero may nkakalusot pa din sa pananakit lalo na pg tahimik ka lng at ayw mong mgreklamo mas lalong abusive sila. Wla na kaming bLita sa knya ksi ala nmn syang cp sbi ni lyra. Sana okay lng sya.

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2 years ago

Ganun. Grabe naman nuh bat pa sila nag aano ng katulong kung ganun man lang. Depende nalang kasi sa tao yan. Nasa ugali din nila.

Ganun ba sis. Sana okay na siya ngayon. Mas better kung sana nakauwi na siya dito sa bansa natin.πŸ™

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2 years ago

Masydong matapobre ang ibang amo sis ky kung mkpagsalita sa helper parang hindi tao kundi hayop kaya dami nagpapakamatay don. Di na nkayanan sis kya mg isip isip talaga bago mg abroad. Im sure nkauwi na yun sis sa awa ng dios.

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2 years ago

Oo nga sis sobrang nakakatakot. Yes tama ka sis dapat pag isipan mabuti before mag work. Sana sis naawa ako sa kanya.πŸ™

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2 years ago

Swerte swerte lang talaga ang pag aabroad, sa awa ng DIYOS lahat ng mga naging amo ko ay hindi mapanakit.

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2 years ago

Yes tama ka sis. Pero grvh sa saudi tlaga, ang lupit don. Yung 1st employer ko ksi napaka nagger pero di nmn nanakit physical.

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2 years ago

Hays saludo talaga ako sa mga OFW ! My dad and the rest of my aunts are an overseas Filipino workers and thank God mabubuti lahat amo nila😌πŸ₯°

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2 years ago

Yes... I salute all ofw at ofw din ang partner ko kya ako na lng nag aadjust pg umaatake ang trantrums nyaπŸ˜….

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2 years ago

Kahit saang bansa pala sis may mga amo talagang walang puso , akala ko dito lang sa middle east yung mga ganyan na nanakit ng katulong kaya nga bago mag desisyon na maging domestic helper pag iisipan muna ng mabuti kasi hindi talaga basta basta yung trabaho na papasukin natin.

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2 years ago

Nku sis kahit saan meron tlaga yan. Don sa singapore ksi malakas lng sila mgmura pero di sila pwede manakit ksi malilintikan sila sa government don. Kya kwawa tlga yung ibang dh don lalo na kung di marunong sa englishan tpos sabihan kang ill kill you at sasagot ka lng ng yes.. Kaloka diba?

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2 years ago

This is very informative and good for those kids that they have family who are working very far to have money. That they should pay back for the hard works of their parents like study hard and everything.

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2 years ago

Thanks sis. Kala ksi nila easy lng ang buhay sa ibang bnsa. Dami kaya trbho don pero laking pasalamat ng iba pg mabuti ang amo at di minamaltrato. Sanay nmn sa pagod ang mga ofw bsta wag lang apihin.

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2 years ago

Oo lalong lalo na sa mga batang wala pang kamuwang muwang kung ano ang salita hirap.

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2 years ago

Tama ka dyan sis.. Buti na lng ang eldest ko non hindi demanding kahit the only one ko pa sya non. 5 years old pa sya nong iniwan ko.

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2 years ago

Good to know sis πŸ₯°

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2 years ago

Kala kasi nila ate oag abroad mayaman na agad, di nila alam ang hirap na dinanas nila sa ibang bansa.

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2 years ago

Tama. Advnce msydo mg isip silla dong pero di nila alam kung ano sitwasyon nila don.

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2 years ago

True jud ate.

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2 years ago

Kala lang talaga ng iba sis madali ang aboard na sinasabi,pero Yong tiis at hirap walang kapantay

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2 years ago

Tama ka dyan sis kya sinasabi ko din sa knila mgtry kayo at ng makita natin kung hanggang saan ang tibay ng dibdib mo don.

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2 years ago

Totoo yan tapos kala pa e pinapala lang ang pera ,pag Di mapag bigyan eh masama kana

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2 years ago

Sinabi mo pa sis tapos sikat ka na agad ksi ang damot mo hahaha.. Yan ang linyahan ng mga demanding.

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2 years ago

Totooyantapos mga kamag anak mo pa baga ,talagang makapag sabi ka na e try nyo para malaman no ang buhay aboard

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2 years ago

Buti na lng sis wla akong mga kamag anak na nag aabang sa sahod namin mgkakapatid. Tatlo kming ofw non. Di nmn kmi umaasa ng tulong sa mga relatives nmin yun kung baga sarili naming sikap kung pano kami nagkaroon ng trbho.

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