So I Was Cheated On All Along
January 17, 2023
I was on the bed getting ready to sleep. I decided to check my social media accounts to see how is it going on. When I checked my Facebook, I saw my ex-boyfriend's profile picture changed. He got married. Honestly, I was really happy for him. That was my first reaction.
However, I got curious who the girl he is married to. I checked the girl's profile and there, I found out everything. I was stunned to see pictures of them together since 2020. We had a relationship since December 2017. Although, I was not yet fully convinced of how they were because they're officemates.
As I stalked the girl's profile intently, it's starting to get suspicious and I found one photo that answered everything. It's a photo of a bouquet of flowers with its caption "Consistent si Mayor for 3 years!".
It confirmed everything. There, I found the answer to my question before. During the breakup last June 2022, he didn't open up about his true feelings. I wanted him to answer to my questions but he was timid. So I respected him and just last night, I found the answer.
I was stunned. I felt betrayed.
The first 2 years in the relationship was full of love and passion. Of course, it's honeymoon stage. But when the pandemic came, we started to grow apart. Distance was the main issue and we also have to follow strict health protocols.
We didn't see each other for a year and 2 months. March 2021 when I had to go to Davao go attend my goddaughter's christening and birthday. He fetched me and we spent the night together there. To my recall, I felt genuine emotions of us missing each other after a long time.
I thought it was real, but it turns out to be just all for a show. I was such a fool believing that we're still in love with each other. Poor Jeaneth.
I felt disrespected.
I can see why he began cheating now. But then during the entirety of the relationship, it never crossed my mind that he will cheat. I realized that being too trustful or naive doesn't help. I was so stupid. He did not just take that for granted but actually went all out!
You see, I'm actually not angry of him getting married months after we broke up or impregnating a girl but what feels so heavy is the betrayal realizing that he made me such a fool believing time and growing apart were just the main reasons of why we broke up.
He disrespected me. If he's not okay having a long distance relationship, he should've told me right away instead of doing things without my knowledge! He's such a coward boy. He should have been honest with me. It will always be a choice, for goodness sake.
Cheating is not a mistake or a result of temptation. It's a series of choices you make in every situation disregarding your partner's welfare.
I wonder how cheaters are able to sleep at night knowing they're being dishonest with their partners? Right, they can because they're masters of manipulations. When I found out everything, I don't know how to feel. It's mix emotions of anger, betrayal, bitterness, gratitude, and relief at the same time. Pretty random, right?
Gratitude. Relief.
Why am I relieved and grateful after finding out I was cheated on? Well, that just goes to show that God or the universe has prepared something better for me. I'm glad that I got out from that empty relationship.
To be fair, the first two years of our relationship were the ones I would cherish though. I've had happy memories with him too. It did not turn out the way I pictured us together but the happy memories will live in me.
I have to learn this the hard way for me to be wiser and stronger in the future. I'm also grateful I have finally found the answer. That way, I wouldn't have to question myself anymore if it's who has the problem. Definitely, not me.
So what's next for me?
Well, I'm gonna move on with my life. I'm better off without him. I guess this is the closure that I needed. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise for me because that answered everything.
Thanks for reading.
Keep safe everyone!
Hala uy, ka bastos sad nya madam noh. True gyud nang kung nanglalamig na sayo may pinag.iinitan nang iba. I don't think a guy who are very interested to be with you will suddenly get cold. Pero it's still a win win for you madam, at least you are free from a cheater.