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Do You Find Love or Love Finds You?
When it comes to love, are you hopeless romantic? Are you the type of person who has constant hope of living their fantasies in love? Do you have standards to check on someone? Or you are just waiting for love to happen and be open to whatever love has offered in front of you? Regardless of what it is, what's best for love? Do you find it or just wait for it? This topic somehow talks about fate versus will. Love is an emotion that drives you to do something for it. It takes action to let the person feel what your intentions are. If you are someone who looks for love but finds it difficult, here are the possible reasons why love doesn't happen even if you feel that you're almost there: **Commitment** is a huge sacrifice for you. I mean, commitment is such a big thing. It just means to say that you will share your life with the person you'll have a relationship with and for that, you fear that everything will change. Perhaps, change or adjustments of schedules will happen of course because you will invest time to be with them. You invest emotion and energy towards that person. If you find these things challenging then it's going to be hard to find love. Especially in our generation today where dating has become modernized by which you face uncertainties and are afraid of labels. **Not** open to making efforts. Have you ever been so in love with the feeling of being in love? You really want to know how it feels to be in love but when you're at that moment, you turned your back against the person because you're afraid to compromise and meet him/her halfway? Since it is already modern dating, it's so easy to find someone from afar behind your phone. You talk every day, you have built connections, you are slowly getting to know each other, and you both discover things what she/he likes or hates. You've been talking for a while now and you start asking, where is this going? Are you both ready to make an effort and see each other? To see if there's a specific wavelength you both share. But then you find yourself scared of taking a step forward. How can you find love if you're not willing to make an effort? We can never be so sure but at least you tried, right? **Trust** issues. When you're surrounded by people who had failed relationships or broken marriages, it leads to trust issues about love. More so, if you had experienced it yourself. I cannot blame you for that because no one knows how deep that wound is but I hope in time, you give yourself that freedom to be happy and give yourself a chance to feel in love again. **Too** high standards. It's never wrong to set ideals for someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. External forces like watching vlogs from successful couples or Kdramas have set the standards high for love. It's more of my future lover "should be like this and that" rather than accepting for who he/she really is. It's not about you are settling for less though, it just means that you are willing to compromise and you choose not to change the person because they're not how you wanted them to be. You are losing your chance of meeting the right person too because you are too busy looking for your standards when that person has something to offer that could have changed your perception about love. Someone who will make you feel what love truly is. In my case, I believe that love found me. During my early adulthood, I was not looking for love. My main mindset was just to work and provide for the needs of my family. My intentions were clear. I had specific goals that I thought I'll never compromise for something that is not my priority. Just as I thought, I met someone who changed my perceptions of love and in life in general. It just happened. I never met someone so sincere, kind-hearted, trustworthy, respectful, understanding, family-oriented, and mature like him. So here we are going strong for 4 years this coming December 11. I hope and pray for us to stay committed to whatever circumstances we may face. ***When you stop looking for love, that's when you meet the right person for you.*** **But, it is still on a case-to-case basis. It's just a matter of what works best for you.** **Lead image source** https://notanothermillennial.com/2017/06/23/hopeless-romantic-memes/amp/ **Reference** https://hackspirit.com/cant-find-love-remember-this/ Thanks for reading. Keep safe everyone! ❤
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Ayiee, advance happy anniversary sa inyo madams! When ba ang wedding, hehehe Ako naman, I don't look for love. Kusa na lang sila dumating, char! Saka deapite my failed relationships before, i still believe in love. Nagkaroon ng trust issues lero nawala din agad.
Hehe. Puhon pa madam. Diba? Best things happen when you least expect it.
Yup madam, korek ka jan..
D ko na hinahanap yan madam 🤣
Na feel ko emotion mo dito madam. Haha
Alam mo na yan 🤣
Everything happens for a purpose. Each one of us has a right time. The time that we meet someone for us. There are some tendencies too it's just a temporary. I know each one of us has a perfect time to be committed for the real love. Yes sis that's true. Each one of us has a different reasons why love doesn't exist. It's depend of a person on how to handle the situation. The reasons why some people afraid to be committed to someone.
But I guess we need to move on and just learn from the past experiences.
Yes sis, that's the right thing to do. Move on then start a new beginning.
Well, in my case ate, kung sino yung dumating at free naman ako at naka move on na sa ex, go lang ng go hahaha. Patuloy lang kikilala hanggang matagpuan na si the one.(Pero I wish yung current jowa ko na haha) Ang sarap kaya magmahal, hindi ako natatakot masaktan kahit maraming beses na naranasan haha. Kasi it's a part of love. Happy for you po! Stay strong sa inyoooo! :)
That is so true. If you love, ready ka rin masaktan kase love is not just about happy moments eh. Stay strong din sa inyo. Hehe
After I had my break up with my long time boyfriend, I told myself na ayoko na. Parang sumuko na ako sa pag-ibig. Parang tinanggap ko na lang na tumandang dalaga. Marami kasi sa mga auntie ko na tumandang dalaga at may same experience sa'kin. So sa isip ko baka ganun din maging kapalaran ko. But my partner came and everything changed.hihi
Aweeee 🥺 He's the game-changer. He proved to the roots of the family that he can break the curse. Hehe
Maybe the LOVE who found me. Many times people come and go, leaving be crumble and I'm sick of it. I tired being broken but when I let love find me everything change.
And I'm sure you are happy with your current now 😍
I was looking for love but not romantic love before, you know someone who can give me attention.. so I can say love founds me as it came when I didn't expected it when I only want someone who are there and never leave my side.. char lang hahaha
He changed your perceptions of love. Road to forever na? Hehe
Haha siguro. Hopefully.. sakit sa ulo pag mag fail.
When you stop looking for love, that's when you meet the right person for you. - Tama to madam , when I stop looking for love and when I learned how to love myself my husband came. Hihi.
Ayiiiieeeee. Apaka healthy naman pala ng puso ni ate Jeaaaaann 🤗🤗. As for me po, it's the love that found me 🤗. And tama po kayo, may iba kasi na intergalactic standards na yung hinahanap.
Nagaantay lang ako madam. I mean, ayaw ko kasi talaga hanggang crush lang ako. Saka mas gusto ko ung nag juwa sa chat or text pero sa personal nvm awan abnormal nga ako hahahaha. Madali kasi ako mag sawa mahirap na aguyy. Dapat ata nag madre nalang ako. Papunta na ako sa old maid pero okay lang.
I have all of those; trust issues, high standards, fear of being committed, well I can justify with the experiences I've been through. I am waiting for love to come, I'm done searching. I believe that when the time is right, the right person will come all in God's timing 😊
Trust issues, high standards, fear of commitment. I think those three also hinder me. I sometimes feel that I'm all set to be alone for the rest of my life, though I'm also open to anything that might come in the future. Basta hangga't di pa ko nagtu-29, may pag asa pa haha
Anong meron sa 29 madam? Hehe.
29 kasi madam parang yun na ang ast year bago pa ko lumampas sa kalendaryo haha. Parang ultimatum ko sa sarili 😅
Trust is like a glass that once it breaks, you can never fix it. I can relate to the trust issue tho.