Hellos and Goodbyes

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When I entered college, I lived with my grandparents since the house is just 5 minutes away walk from the university I attended to. That was 2011. Although back in my younger years, I used to go on vacation here in this house.

The year 2009 when we had Xyril. Xyril is the first great-grandchild of the family. He is the son of my cousin in mother's side. They also live with our grandparents since the house is accessible to the city premises. Xyril's mom is a teacher and his dad (my cousin) works in an office in the government. So they had to hire a babysitter.

Rachel became Xyril's first babysitter. Basically she feeds, bathes, puts him to sleep, and plays with him. She stays in the house so she can take care of him hands-on. Months after, my grandma noticed that the baby always cries with her. Maybe she was being too harsh to him. From then on, they always had conflicts with grandma and so she got fired. No actually, she left because she can't take grandma's attitude anymore. Haha

1 week after or so, my cousin-in-law found another working student to babysit Xyril. The babysitter arrived this morning, hours later she asked that she has something to buy in the city we waited for her but she did not return. I didn't even get her name. Ate told us that she asked where the girl is and she was informed that she went back home.

So they have to find a new babysitter. I think Xyril was already a year older. My aunt found a babysitter again. I forgot her name though. She only stayed for a month or two because she had to go to Manila for a greener pasture. I think she was around her mid-20s at that time. So she knows already about the housework. No need for basic instructions.

June 2010, when they found a working student. Her name is Diona. Ate Diona was 18 years old when she worked in the house. She takes care of Xyril during weekdays while she goes to school during weekends.

The year 2011, when I entered college. That's when I lived with them here in the house. The house has 3 bedrooms and I got to share the same room with Ate Diona. She was doing well when she started. You can really see her diligence and determination to graduate for her to sustain the family's needs in the future and have a stable job.

She stayed here for 4 years after she graduated from college. That was pure hard work and perseverance to continue her dreams. We didn't keep in touch though, we don't know how is she doing today. Probably she has her own family now. She never visited the house again. She was also the one who left Papi,(the aspin dog) with us.

On her day of departure back to her hometown, it was an emotional one because Xyril got attached to her. Of course, because they bonded for 4 years, almost every day. He was crying when she left and even days after he was still asking why Ate Diona was not coming back.

A month after Ate Diona left, they were able to find another working student again. Her name is Flordeliza, we call her Flor. She was only 15 when she first entered the house. An innocent teenager carries her inspiration and grit for her dreams. Xyril was already 4 years old at that time. So he doesn't need that much extra care as a babysitter does. What she does is do all housework. Disclaimer, I do my own laundry and I help with the chores as well ha. You might say na I am just sitting pretty even though I'm not. Haha

Flor had the longest stay in this house. She was the last person our grandpa was with when he died because she was the watcher at the hospital at that time. She stayed here for almost 6 years! She stayed there when she entered 7th grade and left when she graduated in senior high school.

Just imagine the endurance, homesickness, pain, comfort, a sacrifice she gave for her future and her family. There were times that I saw her crying in her room because of homesick. She goes home during an emergency and also after Christmas so she gets to spend New Year with her family.

By the way, in 2015, my cousin and his family, moved out of the house because they had a new baby and we got another nephew named Scott Fredric. Flor didn't dare to take care of a newborn baby and so they decided to move out and lived with my cousin's in-law mom. Her mom was willing to take care of Scott and until now, they still live with them there. Scott turns 6 this coming May 30th.

Flor stayed here from May 2015 until July 2020. What a long journey it was for her. I mean, living under the same roof with people you just met or haven't known gives me ultimate anxiety but to her, living with us for 6 years is not a joke.

Her last day was when months after our grandpa died. They had built a strong friendship within those years though do it was an emotional goodbye too. She decided to leave last year in July 2020. But she didn't leave yet until a new house helper comes. She has to train her for the everyday routine with the housework and stuff. She trained her for a week. That new house helper is what we have currently. Her name is Sai-sai. I will make a separate article about her life on next one.


Thanks for reading!

Keep safe everyone ❤

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Kami noon nagkaroon din ng kasama sa bahay. Dalawa ibang time dumating. At sa kamalasan nila ako ang naatasan nilang alagaan. Napaka tigas na ulong bata 😅. Pero sila naman mga hindi na nag aaral that time. Nag work siguro sila para maka tulong sa pamilya nila. Diko rin sure, pero wala talaga akong paki sa kanila noon basta magawa ko lang ang gusto ko. Di din kami close kasibmga sumbungera sila kaya lagi ako napapalgalitan 😅😂.

Stay in sila pero may day off at yon, umuuwi sila sa pamilya nila. Awan lang if asan na sila ngauon 🤔. At dahil di nga ako naginy close sa kanila, ayon walang goodbyes 😅

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2 years ago

Pilya ka talaga madam. Gano katagal sila ng alaga sayo? umabot ba taon? Haha

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2 years ago

Wari ko madam, matagal din, diko na ngani tanda gawa ng bahala sila 🙄😂😂. Naiinis pa ri ako, kahit alam kong kasalanan ko naman ahahahaha. 🙈🙈

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It is difficult to have strangers in the house. On several occasions I needed other people to cover the needs of the household and I did not do very well with them. Only one person has stayed with me for more than 26 years and she is loyal.

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2 years ago

What was her name? For sure you too have developed a friendship over time. 😁

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2 years ago

Her name is Juliana. She is an important part of my family. My son treats her like a nanny. He loves her very much and worries about her. We love her very much. Yesterday she felt sick to her stomach while she was helping me in the office and I sent her home to rest. I hope she will recover today. I will see her.

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2 years ago

Such a lovely name. ❤ I hope she recovers well. How old is she now?

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2 years ago

She is 64 years old. In fact, she came to work today and is doing very well.

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2 years ago

That is very good to know. ❤😍 did you guys got vaccinated already?

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2 years ago

Thank you my dear, you are very kind to ask about her. We have not been vaccinated. That is not yet available to everyone.

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2 years ago

Nakak proud mga bata g ganyan yaong Nakagawa nilang magtrabaho para sa future nila sabi nga nila Hindi kahirapan ang hadlang sa may pangarap sa buhay, nakakalungkot din naman kapag masanay ka na sa kanila tsaka ka iiwan I wish na maging successful din sila sa buhay dahil Alan kong natural ang mawalay sa family para lang sa pangarap na makapag aral

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2 years ago

Sana nga successful sila. Si Flor nasa 1st year college na. 😅

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2 years ago

Sana nga para lahat ng pagod nila may patutunguhan, sana makapagtapos din si flor.

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2 years ago

Ang bilis niyo din nakakahanap ng helper. Kami nagtatagal naman sila kaso ang tagal din bago makahanap ng bago. Nalulungkot din ako kapag umaalis sila lalo matagal na nakasama. Kahit na napapagalitan o nakakasamaan ng loob, nakakalungkot pa din kapag umalis sila.

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2 years ago

Kase yung aunt ko librarian sa school where maraming working students doon kaya madali lng. 😅

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2 years ago

ohh i remember my cousin's babysitter. it was a need for my cousin because she's deaf and has to attend a special school. can't remember any of her babysitters thougg

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2 years ago

Were they good to your cousin?

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2 years ago

they were good to her and to us tho the last one was lazy af

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2 years ago

di talaga biro maging babysitter pero may mga tumagal din ne. yun yung mga taong matyaga talaga and they became part of your family din .Kamusta na kayo sila no lalo yung nauna.

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2 years ago

Si Rachel? Di na namin alam eh. 😅 si Flor nasa 1st yr college na.

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2 years ago

4 yrs from diona and 6 yrs to flor they are both amazing to endure that long living in your grandma's house for a brighter future.

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2 years ago

They were. Very hardworking girls. ❤

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2 years ago

I know she will be missed... 😔

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2 years ago

Hehe. Yes. Mabait na bata yon. ❤

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2 years ago

Buti yung napipili nyo na sitter matiyaga, mabait at trustworthy. Kung yung iba dyan kapag pknakitaan mo ng kabaitan aabusuhin ka tapos gagawan ka pa ng masama. Mahirap magtiwala, pero atleast may mga tao pa rin na katiwa-tiwala.

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2 years ago

That's right. May mga tao ding ganyan na bait baitan. Buti naman lahat sila, walang naging issue.

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2 years ago

Hirap tlga ganyan.. Papalit palit.. Pro buti lahat ay mababait.

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2 years ago

Mababait nman lahat. Hehe

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2 years ago

Here's another drama that will enter your life: Imagine a guy who has lived in Davao del Sur all his life, and he will move near you in the next months. Imagine the sacrifice that guy is about to make? Your family must be truly lovable my friend... Hehe, just saying.

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2 years ago

Major sacrifice, indeed. Kinsa kaha na. Haha

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2 years ago

Kinsa jud bitaw kaha ng tawhana no? Wala ba kaha na siya'y diperensya sa panghuna-huna?

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2 years ago

It's good you were able to have trustworthy helpers/yaya.. sometimes we're inspired by young teens who made it just to be able to help their family, or to sustain their needs in school

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2 years ago

They are truly hardworking. ❤

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2 years ago

Taga malayo ba yung mga nakukuha nyong kasama sa bahay? Kami naman meron kming mga nkasama sa bahay nung mga bata pa pamangkin ko. Minsan bumibisita pdin cla. Meron kami noon na buhay pa si mama ko, pumapasok sya saamin tas ngayon ngpupunta pdin sya saamin kpg may okasyon para tumulong tulong.

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2 years ago

Diay? Hehe. Nakabisita tong isa dri sauna. Oo, mga gapuyo sa bukid. Kanang tuyoonon jud bitaw ilang lugar kung adtoon. 😅 mga buotan na sila oy.

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2 years ago

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2 years ago

Highly appreciate this Scott. No problem. Will do better than this. Have a great day! ❤

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2 years ago

You as well. God bless.

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2 years ago

Napakadefensive nito si Madam. 🤣 Pero seriously, parang anlungkot magletgo pag attach ka na sa kanila. Tapos ilang taon mo din silang nakasama. Feel ko yung lungkot ni baby pero atleast may pumapalit. Pero kakamiss pa rin lalo na kung mabait at kasundo mo.

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2 years ago

Yung ma-aasahan mo talaga sa lahat ng bagay diba madam. Bihira kase makahanap ng trustworthy, at mabait eh.

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2 years ago

At meron din passing bait baitan lang kaya pag alam mong trustworthy diba treasure. Gaya ng sabi mo bibihira lang talaga.

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2 years ago

Oo. Hehe. Pero iba din ang challenge nila pag umandar ang pagka meticulous ni lola sa mga bagay2x. Haaay nako, talk ng talak. 🙄😆

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