Can I Get A Second Chance?

I don't know if it is just me or not but failed marriages cases have been so rampant nowadays. If you look into social media and other media platforms like televisions or radios, you would always witness a case of cheating or breakup.

I did ask myself, is 2021 the season of breakup? I mean, celebrities and personalities are announcing their breakups and most of the reasons why it happened is because there is another person involved.

Do these couples deserve a second chance? I believe everyone deserves a second chance. While others are successful with their marriages, I'd like to know too why some couples break up and have failed marriage. It's for us to find out.

Financial Challenges

One of the major factors why marriages fail is financial stability. It is also a matter of who makes the money most or who has a more decent job than the other.

As a result, couples would quarrel, egos are being hit, and pride takes over. Marriage is supposed to be a union with harmony. Harmony is not just about positive emotions. It is a combination of happy, sad, and challenging situations that what lever happens, you stick with each other. You decide to stay.

If financial challenges remained unresolved, it results in divorce and gets themselves on the court to decide who gets the custody of the children. In all honesty, children are the main victims of failed marriages. It's a sad reality.

Little or no time for each other

One factor of growing a healthy relationship is to have time for each other. You may be living under the same roof but you rarely see each other because of work schedules or you don't do the things you used to do when you were once in a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship.

It's important to rekindle the bond so you get the time to reconnect with each other. Work and businesses have taken the upper hand when you enter marriage so it becomes more of a demand than an honest request.

Infidelity

I believe this deserves to be on the top among others. In this generation, access to getting close to someone is always available. Anytime, anywhere, you can meet someone even if you're miles apart from each other. And so, this sets to higher chances of infidelity.

It takes so much commitment and faithfulness to get into a relationship. It is not just about loving the person, it's about staying even if the situation gets harder and harder. You commit yourself to the person and stay true.

Issues of Sex

Emotional bonding between couples is highly advisable to sustain the fire in the relationship or marriage. However, it can also create a misunderstanding in which someone may get insecure after not giving what the other has demanded. Not meeting halfway is a serious situation that if remains unattended, will escalate to divorce or annulment.

Parenting Style Indifferences

Becoming a better parent is a mutual responsibility that couples would need to work out. However, it becomes an issue when one has a different style of parenting that the other doesn't like. As a result, heated exchanges of opinions are raised that could lead to divorce.

Differences in parenting style may create issues for the children as well. They may doubt themselves why dad is harsh to me or why mom has favorites among the siblings. Worse, it may lead to sibling rivalries.

Domestic violence and abuse

This is one of the major reasons too why broken families are usual in the country. Having an abusive family member in the house is not the safest environment to live in. It's no longer a home but a house like a jail.

Physical, emotional, and mental abuse is what's keeping the family apart. The children don't deserve an abusive father or mother. Parents should be responsible for their emotions and actions. Again, the children are the main victims here.

Character flaws

When you get blinded by love, you accept every action the other person is doing to you. As for me, that's not love. That's martyrdom. Love should be mutual. Yes, it is sacrificial but if it goes overboard, that's no longer love. It's abuse.

The same goes for character flaws. Gambling and alcoholism is a common reason why relationships don't last. The other person is not willing to change and so unmet expectations happen. This damages the relationship more, conflicts arise, and resentments escalate.

Family Interferences

One important factor of sustaining a good relationship or marriage is to have an open and understanding family anchor. Whether we like it or not, family interference is a huge challenge upon getting married.

Religion, political stance, and social status are factors why the family interferes with the relationship. They don't share the same beliefs as yours so it results in misunderstanding and chaos. It could be an exhausting part of the other until deciding to leave the relationship or marriage.

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