Are You Really Sure You're Meant For Each Other?

I have always believed that love is a decision. Even life is a decision. You decide whether you want to still live on this planet or fly to Mars (I have thoughts about this though). Kidding aside, the moment we wake up in the morning, our decision-making skill is already being tested. Would you stay late in bed and let loose or get up and start your day with hard work?

Meanwhile, loving someone is a decision. The same goes for waking up in the morning. Would you still choose to love that person or not anymore? Every day is a decision.

As they say, love is a decision, not just a feeling. If you are only attached to the person based on emotions, then there will be no basis for what true love is. It's about staying and choosing each other in the best and worst times. That's when you'll have a harmonious relationship.

We all have our ideals in life. We would want someone who matches our standards in every aspect that we listed. We often hear this statement, "Are you the right one?". Many would believe that there is someone out there who is made for them out of all the people in the world.

Well, love movies in mysterious ways. Some of us may have met the right ones during our childhood days. Others have been tested numerous times in their relationships. Or, others were just waiting for their right ones to come but to their surprise, unexpectedly they're marrying their best friends.

So, would you believe that someone out there is meant for you?

Well, I would say there's a bunch of people in the world that are meant for you. You just need to work it out and invest time to get to know the person. God gave us the minds to discern and decide whether this person is good for us.

Our minds have the power to judge a character of a person. Then again, it doesn't easily happen the way we want it to be. Some are blinded with love (?) because the other person is taking advantage of the kindness this person offers. Love is just so playful.

To find the right one for you, your criteria should not just be about physical appearances, wealth, and connections. Instead, it should be a list of good character traits that you would want to witness in such situations you need the most.

Emotional Maturity.

Nobody is perfect. We all commit mistakes. What you would want for a person is someone open to criticisms, suggestions, and corrections. Someone who is understanding of the situation and chooses to reflect on their actions to become better day by day.

This is a type of character that respects your space as an individual. Yes, you are in a relationship but you must have your own "me-time" to replenish the energy within.

Honesty.

Having good communication in the relationship is gold but with honesty, it adds up the transparency to the relationship. Yes, you should trust each other but saying what you have in mind is appreciated. That way, you exchange opinions to make the most of the situation.

Good listener.

There are certain instances in our lives where we already know how to deal with the ordeal, it's just that we need someone who is willing to listen and don't judge us whatever happens. Of course, we face disappointments in life but with someone who's a good listener, he/she will provide you with good pieces of advice that you can count on in every way you can.

These are just a few of the many good traits your partner must have. With these, you will have a good foundation of love and understanding with each other.

However, as mentioned early in the article, love is a decision. So whether you are already married for 50 years, it is still a decision if you should stay in the relationship or let go. You know, these traits are awesome in a relationship, but if love is not renewed every day, the love will fade eventually.

There has to be a commitment that whatever happens, you choose to be with your partner. Rain or shine, good times or bad times. That is why it is also crucial to set dates now and then to rekindle the love. To somehow, relive the warmth you have had over the years.

Marriage is a stage in life where you spend most of your life. I don't understand why some people especially (celebrities) get married and then get divorced after a year. I mean, it's sad to know a couple separates especially when they have kids but if the relationship is no longer healthy, better be off with each other.

I just don't understand why the commitment faded when for sure, they're crazily in love with each other beforehand. Cheating really does the magic of ruining marriage.

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