Are You A Trying Hard Person?

Reading the context may sound negative but believe me this article is going to be different than usual. Many times we would hear someone "Naaah, you're trying too hard to please everyone. That's fake". Guess what, the society has done that. There is an instant negative connotation of that word that makes it as if it's an insult.

I can speak for everyone that it's not always true. Some people are sincere about doing things hardly because they badly want it. While for some, they are just playing around because they know even if they won't try hard, they'd still excel.

However, there are times when you need to reconsider the situation, assess, and rethink that maybe it's time to let go. It happens at a certain time where you can say to yourself that you have done your part. Letting go does not always mean quitting, sometimes it's winning.

Is trying hard a good or bad habit?

Well, it's a case-to-case basis. Someone must have a specific reason why they do that in the first place. The only difference is the intention behind that reason.

Trying hard is good when,

You want to improve yourself

If your reason behind trying hard is to improve yourself then that's a good sign of self-love. If someone aspires to be a better person, I'm sure good things happen to those who do good.

You want to work on your dreams

We are free to dream big. For us to make that happen, we need to work hard and smart and face all the trials for a victory. However, behind those trials are a lot of tests on your character. If you want to work hard on your dreams by improving yourself or being a good provider for the family, then you are winning.

Dreaming big is not against the rules but dreaming big while pulling others from their successes is.

You want to help others (good intentions & results)

If your intention is pure of helping others, then trying hard to do it is not an issue. Otherwise, you are just faking and showing a dishonest attitude to the people around you.

Trying hard is bad when,

You want to show the world you are above all others

Trying hard to show off is never valid. If you are just going to boast everything that you have or even you don't have, then it's a big no-no. This is just to boost their ego. They do this to feed their pride and that's how they feel good about themselves.

They seek validation by flaunting their intelligence. Sometimes, we can't deny that some smart people have this attitude of showing off their ability of not making an effort but they still perform well because of it. I cannot take that against them because it's their own decision, they are free to do the things on their own but at least live their lives to something worthwhile and with purpose.

You want to let others feel insecure about you

When someone feels he's insecure of you, that makes you feel special and that's how you validate yourself by feeling you are above others. It satisfied you to see that people are struggling even if they are trying hard. Then you are there, trying too hard but with not the same reason.

The intentions behind these reasons are all where it started. As you can see, trying hard is good when the majority of the things you wanna do are to improve yourself. Something with self-love and development.

On the other hand, trying hard is bad when you only want to prove to everyone your worth. You don't need to prove your worth because all of us are valid and worthy. If you intend to satisfy the society and climb its ladder, then you really need to work on self-love.

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