Embracing Motherhood requires a lot of Adjustments

14th of August 2021

Motherhood, it is the state or time of being a mother. - Cambridge Dictionary

I already seen and read a lot of articles sharing their thoughts of becoming a mother. The changes that they've faced as a mother. The adjustments that they need to surpass in motherhood. @Zhyne06 tagged me to do this as well. So, I'm gonna shares too my experiences of being a first time mom. The changes that I observed when I became a mother as well as the adjustments that I took as a mother.

Let's start the changes that I observed when I became a mother and the adjustments I encounter in the stage of motherhood.

• Deformities

When we became a mother it's natural for us that there's changes we've seen in our physical appearances. Some will be deformed after giving birth and will not get back to it's normal sizes. First and foremost, I knew all mothers would relates to this especially to those giving birth naturally. This is somehow a private issue but I will still shares it here because we girls shouldn't be ashamed of it since it's happening to us in natural way. We became a mother, we gave birth naturally. Thus, the first thing that we've observed is the deformity of our vaginal structure. There were already changes in it, it will be loosen up most especially if we already had many kids and it's normal. We shouldn't be ashamed of that fact. Of course, because a baby was coming out there and it's not that easy for us mothers. It's one of our signature that we truly is a tough mom. I've seen a videos about some moms that undergone some operation like tightening their private parts to make it young again. For me, it's their choice as well and it is also normal and it's not a big issue. This is something that we should embrace in the motherhood stage.

Another is that, our body figures. After giving birth all mothers observed changes in our body figures. Some will be skinny and some will be gaining weight. But most of my observations, mothers after giving birth are gaining weight. Just like me, my weight were tripled after giving birth. Haha I even started to have a diet because I already don't like seeing my body, specifically my belly.

• Sleep Time

When I became a mother, my time of sleep changes and I guess this is also experienced to most of the mothers out there. Lack of sleep I must say. Since a mother should attends to the kids all the time. When the baby woke up early, woke up at midnight, woke up at dawn, or woke up anytime of the day and night and so does the mother. When the baby sleeps late at night, so does the mother. In that case, our time of sleep weren't stable and most of the time we mothers have lack of sleep.

In my case, my son woke up so early so do I of course. Before I somehow woke up late but not now anymore. I sleep late because of work and will woke early as well because of my son. It's even hard for me to sleep 7-8hours per day. Even 5hours that's already difficult for me. So, as you can read I don't have a healthy sleep when I became a mother.

• Multi-tasking

I'm actually used to multi-tasking before but when I became a mother it was already over-used. But of course not all the time because I had with me my partner who also helped me in attending our son.

• My perspectives changes

When I became a mother, everything change so does my perspectives in life. My son changes my my decisions everytime I had to decide on something for myself but that will be change because of my son. Before, I only dreamt for myself and for my family but for now my dreams for myself were all because and for my son's betterment. Before I used to even not hesitate to buy something fro myself but for now it's different. When I decide to buy something for myself, I always thought of buying something for my son instead of mine. So, it ends up I always bought something for my son and not for me anymore.

Adjustments. When we became a mother everything that we used to do before when were still not in the stage of motherhood will change and there were lots of adjustments in our life in terms of whatever it is that a motherhood should have. Especially in my case, I am a neophyte mom, a first-hand mother I'm still in the stage of adjusting myself from becoming a mother and still learning for it everyday.

Despites the changes and the adjustments of becoming a mother, what's important for me is that I learned to embraced all of it and becoming a MOTHER hones me to become a better individual with a purpose.

That's all everyone. Happy reading!

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