September 5, 2022
There was once a prompt in the Weekend Engagement about "the forever outfit" and thinking about it again made me remember those days in my country when I usually hesitate to wear pretty clothes because of what other people might say about it. I always consider other people's thoughts as my own. I always live in other people's heads.
So most of the time, I would just wear a pair of jeans and a shirt. That's all fine to me though as I am more comfortable with it. But do you know what's more fun? It's when you don't want to wear something you want in front of the people you know, but you are more comfortable wearing them in a foreign land.
As shared in my other post, "life isn't perfect, but your outfit can be." That's an adage I must agree and that's when I feel perfect because I know I am in the right outfit.
Sometimes, we ladies want to look pretty by dressing prettily, putting on make-up, or whatsoever. That's normal because we are ladies. But those with low self-esteem would hesitate to do so because they worry more about the feedback of others. And living in a country with a lot of judgemental people, we tend to deprive ourselves of doing what we really like or wearing something different and pretty. That was what I always thought when I was in the Philippines, especially when I was with people I know, my relatives and neighbors to be exact. Not only to me but to others. They are often our first critics, aren't they?
I had never worn a short dress in the public before because I always thought that people would criticize my flaws. When I get to this country where people don't care about who you are, how you dress, and whatever, I started to wear differently, just for a change. And that's when I thought that I can actually improve physically if I want to. I can be beautiful like others as well. I can wear clothes that I never tried before.
We ladies want to look beautiful, but as much as possible we don't want to be criticized. Who wants to anyway? Some are hesitant to grow and step out of their comfortable zone they are in. Some just really want to stay comfortably forever in the usual dress they are wearing.
But do you what? There is nothing wrong with changing the usual you. There is nothing wrong with wearing something pretty to look pretty. You shouldn't look down on yourself just because of the criticism of other people. You should always cheer up yourself and say, "I am beautiful in my own unique way," and don't give a single d*mn to what others will say about you.
Be beautiful, but comfortable. Don't push yourself just to fit in society. If you want to be pretty, do it for yourself, not for others. It's you, not them that matters more. And don't think you are ugly, because we all are pretty. Just like what I said in LoH, "love yourself, all ladies are beautiful."
The purpose of why I'm writing this is to remind ladies out there not to hesitate to pursue what they want, to improve, and be beautiful. I've been reading posts about low self-esteem, especially those who became mothers. As they start their families and have kids, they lose the beauty and confidence they once have. But, there is always a space for improvement, there is always time to get back the confidence you once had.
I know beauty doesn't really matter because it fades as time pass by, it's the beautiful character that is more important. Yet, don't forget to put on more self-confidence. Because as the adage says, "self-confidence is our best outfit."
Love yourself, ladies, and wear your best confidence!
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I love the outfits ahhh bagay na bagay sayo madam, I hope I could wear those kind of outfits here in manila without people getting on my neves, nakakaasar kasi magayos lang ng konti at pormal yung suot saan daw binyag ganyan or minsan saan ang lakad at pormado I mean di ba pedeng gusto ko lang presentable tingnan... Often times dedma na lang talaga.