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It's Easy to Forgive but it's Hard to Forget I know mostly of us can relate it. They said, "It's easy to forgive but it's hard to forget". It's not mean it's easy but we know time will come we can forgive those people who hurt us compare to forget, we know it's really hard. Even we forgive already the person about the mistake done but the pain still in our heart and mind. It's not easy to forget and that's the hardest part. Even we push ourselves to forget it, tell me it's really hard. You have a hard time for it.
This morning I have time with my Facebook account. While I was busy at scrolling, there was someone chatted me. I was shocked because it was my close friend. It's been a long we didn't have a communication. She asked me a lot of questions. How's my life? It makes me happy when someone asking me like how was I until she shared to me about his ex boyfriend. They have a baby already. She live now in their house. His ex request a favor yesterday to met her because of their baby. To her it was okay because it was for baby but she told me that there was part that she was hesitate because of what happened to them in their past. Their past was really painful especially to my close friend. When they know already that she was pregnant, they decided to live in the house of her ex. That time she was really happy because the family of her ex accepted her wholeheartedly. They were so happy and excited because they have already a grandchild. They supported my close friend. They treated her a real family and a real daughter. It was the time everytime I visited her, I saw from her face she was full of happiness. She really looks happy. I was really happy for her. She never felt stress she shared it to me because the parents of her ex boyfriend supported her a lot. When they knew already the gender of the baby, they were immediately bought things. You can say that they were all excited. She told me also that time that she was really lucky with her partner because he was always staying beside her. She said her partner makes her happy always. Their relationship going strong and smoothly. I was really happy for her that time. She never felt regrets that she chose her partner and give him a chance to became part of her life. After 6 months, she chatted me a lot of crying emojis. She couldn't believe it. She didn't expect it that her ex boyfriend cheated on her. She cried a lot. I comforted her immediately because it wasn't good for her because she was still pregnant that time. I felt broke because of what happened to her. Until on the next day, she said that she gave a second chance to her ex boyfriend. She thought that he will change but it was a totally wrong. They were already 4 years already in a relationship that time. She has a lot of questions. Why it happened? Why if she was already pregnant and they expect a baby already, her ex boyfriend cheated on her. I felt pity to my close friend. I felt the pain she had. Her ex boyfriend did it many times. She was really stress that time. She always calling at me while she was crying. I have my tears also while listening to her. I always gave her a comfort words. I always gave her advices. I didn't have a chance to visit her that time because I already travelled in the city for work. She was deeply hurt about her ex-boyfriend did to her. She said it was the worst experience she had in life. Continue with our chats... She told me that she already forgive his ex boyfriend because it's been 2 years already had passed but still she didn't forget about what he did. It's the most painful. It's the hardest time because she was pregnant that time. She said, even how many times to forget it but nothing happens. The hurtful experiences still in her mind. She can totally say that "It's easy to forgive but it's really hard to forget".
*Are you agree with this? For me, it's a big true based on my experiences too in life.* *How about you? What do you think in your part?* ________________________ `Thank you so much. I hope I give you some thoughts with this article of mine.` `God bless everyone. Stay safe always. 🙏` `-JRamona20 💜`
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I agree. Even though they say forgive and forget, can we really forget? I man, it is a part of our memory and I think forgetting in that sentence means not holding what they had ddoje against them ever. And if you forgive them, forgive them completely and never bring it up. It doesn't mean we forget it per sé
Yes that's true Aimure. It doesn't mean we forgive them already it doesn't mean that's we forget it already.
Forgiveness is given to have inner peace, to be without resentment. We can forgive once, because we are not perfect beings. But if even after forgiving, the other person continues to be unfaithful to his or her partner, then what is missing is to have self-love instead of continuing to forgive. If one does not love oneself, the other person will continue to be unfaithful. So, you never forget one fault, nor two, nor three. And forgiveness goes hand in hand with self-love.
I love that my friend "self-love" it's the most important friend. It's the weapon we had for ourselves. Thank you so much for reading my friend.
Tama sis mahirap malimutan ang mga masasakit na karanasan. Pero still maniniwala pa rin ako na kapag naka fully move on na yung freind mo for sure lahat ng masasakit na naranasan niya sa pag cheat ng kanyang ex, boyfriend tatawanan nalang niya ang mga pangyayaring iyun. Mabuti at hindi niya hinayaan na mag stay siya doon sis. Kasi once a cheater always a cheater kaya mas okay ng iwan ang ganyang tao.
Oo sis. Darating ang panahon na ma fully okay na din siya. Oo sis. Tama lang ginawa niya sis. Yung mga taong ganun hindi deserve ng mga second chances. Magchi-cheat pa rin yun lagi sis.
You are very right with the word. It's always easy to forgive no matter how the offence is but forgetting it, seems so hard. Though it's always painful, but if we can let go completely, it means we are strong because the more you remember what happened, the more hurt it cause to the heart which is very risky.
Yes princess indeed. It's the hardest Princess. It's easy to forgive than forgetting those pains and the mistakes they did to us. Thank you for reading princess.
Yeah we do forgive but we can never promise to forget things like that, its like throwing a plate, once it's done, it can never br fixed
Thats true Langga. Once it broken it will never be back from the old one langga.
Tinood jud ni sis,once maguba nagud ang relation although ingnon nato nga ma fix pa pero dili jud same as before naa juy changes,naa nay gap .Mao ng ato jud ampinangan atong mga ka relasyon kay lisod na ibalik ang naandan ninyo.Bitaw no ,once gud ma broken nata ,usahay sa kakapoy ato iingon sa atong self nga pasayloon nato pero di makalimtan ang ilang nahimo.
Mao gayud sis once na naguba na. Arang kalisod na ibalik perfectly sa dati. Mubalik man pero not fully talaga. Maong dapat ingatan gayud nato sis. Mao gayud sis. Muabot ang time na mapasaylo nato ang tawo pero ang paglimot sa sayop dili kaayo basta-basta makalimtan.
Totoo Po iyan maam kapag kasalanan kasalanan talaga Hindi na mababago Yun
Oo zony. Ang hirap na kalimutan ang sakit at ang mistake na nagawa.
I went through a situation of hate for many years because I didn't know how to forgive until I did. Forget, I have never forgotten that.
We're the same ma'am gertu. I already forgive but still I didn't forget.
Ana jud na sel . Bisan ug mangayo pa ug pasaylo ug pasayluon pud nimu di na jud pareha sa una na kung unsa mo. Kay lisud makalimot, magbalik balik sa imu utok ang panghitabo
Mao gayud Flor. Naa na gayud permi sa ato huna-huna ug dili na basta-basta mawala Flor. Lisod kaayo kalimtan Flor.
I also published an article about this two days ago . A lady slapped me for no reason but she was to big to say sorry she even abused me for me doing nothing that made me upset with her so I walked out of the class . It really a long story sister but I don't think I can forget what she did any way I have forgiven her you can see through : https://read.cash/@Captainkay/easy-to-forgive-hard-to-forget-3af5592e
She's the one who has a mistake my friend. Why she slapped you while you did nothing wrong. I feel you my friendm and I understand you my friend.
It takes time to forget. One of the things na they said, easy to say hard to do. It's really hard to forget, but through time, it will be healed. I hope your friend is ok now with her life.
Yes Mizlhaine. Darating ang time na mag healed din ang lahat. Thank you so much Mizlhaine.
I agree with you, sis. It's really hard to forget someone, especially when that someone caused you so much pain.
Yes sis. It's really hard to forget especially if the mistake is too much.
I agree, and it's just right. We can forgive people, but we must not forget, because it's a way pf guarding our hearts from another possible heartbreak again.
Yes elleh. You're right. It's like a weapon for us to our daily paths.
Let's not forget the lessons that we learned from our past but don't let it rule your life. It takes time to do that but we have to in order to preserve ourselves. Otherwise, we are just giving power to the those who hurt us to control our lives.
Yes sir we shouldn't forget the lessons from our past experiences because it will help us to our daily life. It's a weapon for ourselves.
Totoo to freind, I still remember sa Homily ng priest dito sa amin na kahit siya ay pari masasabi niya talaga na hindi madali ang kalimutan yung nga bagay2 na minsan na tayong nasaktan at sinaktan, easy to say forgive but its hard to forget.
Yes friend. Sobrang totoo talaga kahit napatawad na yung tao pero hindi mo talaga nakakalimutan yung pains friend. Ang hirap my friend.
Hirap yang ganyan friend. Peru acceptance talaga ang key sa ganyan. Kasi pag dimo pa natanggap yung nangyari na nasaktan ka , babalikbalikan mo talaga ga yan at lalo kapang masaktan heheh
Yeah I am completely agree with you.....we can forgive those people who betrayed us in past but can't forget....we have to take the lesson and use it in our real present life
Indeed shohan. Use it for our present life. Yes shohan it's really hard to forget. We can forgive but forgetting the mistakes is totally hard.
It's definitely true sis. Maybe to spell of the word forget is easy but empowering that words is hard. Pains leaves scars and scars remain like a stain that cannot be removed. It ain't easy, after the betrayal and heartaches, who would say that forgetting about it is easy.
I totally agree with this sis, it's hard to forget especially when one that is dear to you committed a mistake which caused you pain. But it's also hard to forgive sometimes but times do really come when you learn to forgive them .
Yes Langga especially those painful mistakes. Forget is the hardest. It's not easy. Time will come to forgive them but to forget it's really impossible.
I agree jud ana Lang. Sayun rah magpasaylo pero di man jud natu makalimtan ug dali especially kung nasakitan jud ka pag-ayu. Bisan ako, nakapasaylo naman ko sa akong ex pero di pa ko ganahan mutagad niya kay murag di pa nako kaya nga makigfriend niya ug balik.
Oo te sobra. Kanang napasaylo na nimu siya pero still dili parin nimu kaya makita siya kay wa pa gihapon nakalimtan ang sayop.
Our hearts can forgive but our minds can't forget. We may forgive but the traumas that they brought us will be forever in us. I wish her all the best ate and to her ex, I know one day he will realize it all and regret it.
Yes that's true Langga. The pains, the heartaches and the traumas still in our heart and mind that's why we can say it's really hard to forget.
No one forgets such a level of betrayal dear. We could forgive those who hurt us but we'd never forget their names
Betrayal seems giving a reason for a person not to forget how it really hurts. I'm so pity to your close friend, hope that she'll be comforting herself.
We know that is easy to forgive but sometime that becomes hard when people varies. And if we forgive though we can not forget the miseries or their effects on out life. And whenever we remember we get more hurt but actually time and replacement can heal up everything.
I always tell people that it's ok to forgive but do not ever make the mistake of forgetting. If a person did something very wrong to you, you should forgive them if you can but always remember what that person did so that you can prevent it from happening again in the future. It's just a way to keep you safe from getting hurt again
There are instances in our life na ganyan ate but we if already forgive that person, forgetting tge persons mistakes will be forget also.
it is true thats why we can forgive but that doesn't mean we stay attached to that person who hurt us, we must cut ties if needed
Dia na sd ning cheater issue hehehe. Nagsa rko kakita ug cheater nga nausab sis ky once a cheater is always a cheater dw. True bya na sis mao kapoy sig pasaylo nya usbon na sd. Di ko kalimot sis pero wa ko mgdumot. Di lng ko gnhan mgtagad tagad sko ex husband. Sakit sa bangs!
Kahit talaga anong gawin natin. Kung trip talaga nilang mag cheat. Wala talaga tayong magagawa. Diba ate ganda? Anyways, may mga moments namn talaga na makakpagpataad tayo pro di natin malilimutan yung nangyari.
It is absolutely true po. Madali lang po magpatawad pero sobrang hirap makalimot. Based on experience din po yang sagot ko. Pero minsan nga po nahihirapan na ako magpatawad yung makalimot pa po kaya? Pero sabi nga po nila ang Diyos nga nagpapatawad tayo pa kaya? Pero yung about forgetting po ay ibang usapan na talaga.
I already forgive those who messed up with my life before but there some times that I still remember what they did and I regret meeting them.