The man does not know that there is a snake at the bottom. The woman doesn't even know that a stone is pressing on the man's back.
# The woman is thinking: I'm falling down and I can't climb up because the snake will bite me. Why isn't he pulling me with a little more force?
# The man is thinking: I'm in a lot of pain. Yet I am pulling him as hard as I can. Why isn't he trying to get up a little more?
# Education: You will never know how much pressure the other party is under, and the other party will never know how much pressure you are under. This is life, your work, family, feelings, friends whatever it is you should try to understand each other. So learn to think differently. Try to understand each other and build a good relationship.
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