How to bewitch someone who dislikes you to like you?

Have you ever experienced that feeling that someone just doesn't like you the first time you've met? It's like you both started on the wrong foot. I've been into that situation a lot of times. Since I am an introvert people would say that I am a snob, killjoy, or too serious.

First of all, I don't get comfortable easily with strangers. I have my own circle and they don't call me a snob but crazy. I know how to make jokes and stuff. And I am fun to be with, with the right people.

Anyways, have you ever tried changing that awkward situation? I did. I am good at silent persuasion- silent because I don't tell anyone how I'd persuade that person to talk to me, if not, totally like me. And I don't do this because I want everyone to like me, of course not. I just want to let that person know that I can be likable too- if she or he deserves my friendship and trust.

Let's cut the chase, how do you bewitch someone who dislikes you to like you?

First, you got to be with yourself

Who likes to be with someone who pretends all the time? The Platters is the only "great pretender", my friends. The person can feel that you're not with yourself. Don't try to please everyone. Just relax, calm down, have a presence of mind. You don't have to talk all the time because when you do, either you offend someone or talk non-sense which is a total turn-off.

Second, talk with a sense

I like a person who doesn't talk a lot but talks with sense. Do you want to be with a person who can't join a good conversation? Either that person jokes about everything including the serious topics or just keeps his mouth shut all the time. If you talk with sense, you might impress someone who didn't like you at first. It will make him think "This person is nice to talk to or to be with. I may have given him the wrong impression".

Third, know the person's favorite

It doesn't have to be just food or celebrity- know his weakness, in short. For example, if he likes a particular place and you've been there or you've researched about it, mention it in your conversation and give positive feedback. Or if you have the same favorite songs or bands. You'll be talking about your favorites and by the time you know it, you are already friends!

Fourth, don't get too personal, yet

If you want to be liked, know the limits between work, friendship, and personal matters. It might make someone uncomfortable if you talk about a breakup when he or she just got separated or is having issues with their relationship. Just talk about lighter topics, don't add insult to injury. If he or she opens up to you, then it's your chance to shine, otherwise, don't cross the boundaries.

Fifth, be fun to be with

Do you like to go to concerts, or have a walk to the beach? Whatever your definition of fun is, make sure it's aligned to his or her interests. If you like opposite things, why don't you adjust and try what she or he likes? You'll never know it might be the gateway to a new hobby.

Sixth, be honest, respectful, and humble

Have you been with somebody who brags a lot? Believe me, I never had a good time and I wanted to walk out. Be honest- if you are not familiar with a particular topic, ask for a recommendation so you'll know more about it. This will make an impression that you are interested in what he or she is talking about. Be respectful- if you have different opinions on a matter, remember you want to win his or her friendship, don't get into a fight. Be humble- if you are an expert or know a lot about a thing, or a person, etc. talk about it with humility.

Seventh, don't ask me for a spell or potion

You got to use your human charms to naturally bewitch someone. If you ask me, I'll put a forgetful spell on you and you'll look funny to everyone. Please, please, just because you have a witch friend doesn't mean you can shortcut winning or changing a person's heart and mind. Remember: the fruit of your persuasion is sweet when done right.

Believe me, those mentioned above, worked for me. You just got to be wise and smart on what to do okay? One size doesn't fit all :) I used to have a Physics teacher who didn't really like me, maybe because I look so snob and my grade suffered. So I started talking to our common friends, joined conversations in her presence, got her "kiliti" and I asked for her advice about our lessons. Everything changed after that. Of course, I remained professional- we became close but I didn't take advantage of our good relationship.

How about you? Have you persuaded someone to change their perception or impression of you? I am curious :) Let's talk about it!

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March 18, 2022