May 4, 2022

Strive not to be a success, but rather of value - Albert Einstein

In life, some of us felt bad after learning someone we know find their success. Some of them might have their own house and lot, own a car, have a great career and reflecting a very happy life and family. We felt bad because we became jealous of what they had achieved. That is the exact reason why we sometimes look down on ourselves.

The truth is, success don't define who we are, that's only the basis that we can achieve something, with the ingredients of perseverance, effort, motivation and determination. We strive success but it should never a standard of living. Even if you have a goal but you fail of getting the result, you should not neglect your effort. It might not be a success but you did your best to make it happen. When you fall short of your expectation accept that and move on. Appreciate your hard work. You did your best and what your feeling is valid.

If you want success, wealth and fame, make sure that you are doing it for your own growth as a human. Some people want fame because they can benefit from it. Being wealthy can get you everywhere, you can have all the things you want. When you have both you could consider yourself successful, but are you happy in the long run?Happiness from getting what you want doesn't last when it is not authentic.

No man is an island. We are all here to give service, to have value and simply to help others. Maybe you want success but what really matters?

Make sure you have the right reason

Everyone dreams to be successful. Most of us are doing their great efforts to achieve it. We make goals, do plans and execute it. We do trial and error. What happened after? Either you achieve it or not, what happens to you after? Are you still happy despite not getting the expected results? Does it make you lesser a person or you will be satisfied because that is only you can do for now? Does executing the plan makes adds to your learning? Could you learn from experience? Analyze what you feel about it.

When you have a goal, it's normal to have a plan and doing it to find out if that is the right plan for your goal. First, find out the right reason why you are doing it. Is this for your future? Is this will make you a valuable and worthy of your existence? Are you willing to share your experience and influence others? Make sure you are not doing this for yourself. It should be hitting two birds in one stone.

Second, Can you recognize your effort and appreciate yourself after failing? You should. Some things are not in our control. What matter is that we have necessary action just in case it doesn't happen. No matter the hard work we do, still we would fail. Make sure that your reason is for your own growth and not because you believe that being successful is a standard.

Make sure the Intentions are Healthy

Some of us start a goal because we look on other people's lives. They have their own car, house and they travel a lot. When we don't have realistic goals we will be left in drain. For sure we will feel frustrated when we don't get what we want. People around us might have a standard for success but we should differentiate the success we want to happen in our lives.

Our understanding of what success we want should be clear. We should never be jealous of others achievements. We must have realistic goals, with realistic plan and execution is a must. We should adopt to changes and adjust. We should be clear of what effort we could only give. We must be true to ourselves. We all have different ways, efforts, beliefs and capacity. Not all are designed to be strong when it comes to making goals. Some of us love to do it slowly while others are meeting their deadlines. We must accept our capacity and ability. Make sure that you will always be a good strong, determine person regardless of the results.

Your best effort is considered as a success already

Not all are strong, not all have brave heart yo accept all the possibilities that could happen to our lives. If you havedetermination, with the right motivation and you still fall short, appreciate your effort instead. Still your effort is a success already because it has proven that you are willing to do what it takes, to try and to test yourself and your abilities. That is brave already. Embrace yourself and your strong heart.

Final thoughts

Successful or not, we are still human being. We might not look like a person with so much achievements, but living a life with respect to other people, being kind and nice, being helpful, and sharing your knowledge is quite a success of your existence. You don't need to be appreciated all the time. Your success should not be broadcast too. As long as you are a good person, your existence is just enough for this world. Whatever you have now, whatever you achieve now, it is a reason for a celebration. You are a successful human being.

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