Have you ever been down? Have you had low self-esteem moments? Did you assess yourself as the person who never gets the results you wanted? Have you been hurt by harsh words? Do you not feel like working anymore because you think all your hard works are dump? There are lots of questions to ask yourself and we have an episode in our lives that we feel that way. We look at other's achievements and if they got what they want, we look at our self and ask, when can I be like that?
Yes, these are only questions, what happens to our feelings? We feel pain. The pain is fathomless, heavy, and intense which leads us to cry. We feel sorry for ourselves after. You know what, it is wrong to feel sorry for ourselves. Our result is always based on the amount of our effort and action, plus the immeasurable sabotage around us that we can’t control, ruining what we already planned. We feel bad. We feel that this is an unending struggle.
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Being down a lot of times might result in anxiety and depression. Since it is a must to take care of our Mental Health let us now focus on battling this challenge. Challenge and pressure are always part of our daily lives, what we can only control is how to make us strive while we all have it at the same time. How? Let me share with you two things that I learned while I was battling my depression. I have to tell you that it is not the only answer, but it will break the habit of feeling sorry for yourself. It will all start when you try. These are Neuroplasticity and Affirmation.
Neuroplasticity: Rewiring your Brain
This is not something that you will open your head and you will see the wire and fix it. Not literally like that. Neuroplasticity is one of the important processes in our brain’s ability. It is rewiring your brain. For example, if one person had a stroke they either cannot move their right hand, right legs or they have lips or face abnormalities that make them difficult to talk. A certain therapy can help you talk and make you move your arms leg, and arm once again. Rewiring your brain is learning again what you were doing before so that you can do it again.
When it comes to our brain, if we are depressed and buried in negativities, we can use Neuroplasticity to train our brain to think positively. Studies had shown that if we keep on drowning in negativities, our brain can be damaged. We become insane. We always have a chance to rewire it by initiating in doing it. That will enter Affirmation.
Affirmation
Affirmation is like a promise or a statement. A declaration of what kind of being you want to become. We all learned this through different blogs and articles but the only problem is that we are not consistent in applying this in our lives. Based on my experience, this saves me a lot when I was ill and lost my job from 2014 to 2016. My motto during that time was “Tough times never last, but Tough People Do”. Affirmation is my steady buddy when I was about to doubt myself. I was close to being insane because I kept on saying affirmations every morning, that it came to the point I was fooling myself, but then I realized affirmations are the ones that help me to save myself throughout the Tough times.
What Happens when I apply Affirmations in my life?
Through reading eBooks about Affirmations, the law of attractions, Chicken soup for the Soul, and lots of Fiction Inspiration stories, I gathered my affirmation. I made my affirmations contradict the feelings I have with myself when I feel down.
When I feel ugly, I will write I am pretty or I am Beautiful
When I am having low esteem, I will write I am confident
When I feel like giving up and procrastinating, I will write I am always productive and proactive
When I feel fat, I will write I am Healthy
When I get insecure, I will write I am unique
When I am not earning enough money, I will write I am wealthy or financially stable
When I am feeling like a loser, I will write I am passionate
When I do not believe in everything, I will write I am understanding and open-minded
When I feel sad, I will write I am happy
When I feel proud, I will write I am humble
It is easy for me to feel ugly, to have low self-esteem, to give up, to feel fat, to get insecure, to feel like a loser, and to lose my belief in everything, and earning enough is not always happening. All these feelings and beliefs are making me feel down. I can have all these feelings in one day. Therefore, I write down all of these feelings and replace them with positive feelings to secure myself. I know that when I feel those things, I remember the positive affirmations to fight for them. I read it consistently before I start my day. I read it while having heavy breathing, closing my eyes and I will say “I am thankful for myself and I always will”.
The Results
For 6 months of helping myself to avoid getting into the National Center for Mental Health, I trained myself. Whenever I feel ugly, instantly, my brain will say I am beautiful, and then I will unconsciously say the word, I am beautiful. When I feel proud, my brain will say I am humble, and I will find myself saying I am humble a lot of times till I feel humble. I rewired my brain. I never thought this is possible.
I really would love to elaborate on this because you can be specific with your training or own self-therapy. I will make part two of this article soon.
September 13, 2021
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I learned one new word today - Neuroplasticity. We talk to ourselves the most. You are right, self-affirmations are so important because words are so powerful. Of all people, we should constantly be affirming ourselves and building up ourselves. Well done for doing well in this. Keep it up, sister!