Never get too Angry

Anger can be a powerful emotion. It has the ability to fuel you to take action and make things happen. However, if you are not mindful of your anger it will burn you, like boiling water burns your hand. It is said that Anger can be likened to a two-edged sword. One side of the sword pointed to the one who is angry and the other side pointed to who we are angry at. Which ever way the sword of anger is wielded, it creates double damage to both parties.

Delaying gratification is a core life skill that we learn over time through experience. It is the ability to choose not to give into impulse or desire right away and wait until a later time when you can fully enjoy the outcome. It is important that we try to resist ourselves from the urge to act immediately when we are angry most importantly when we are angry at someone

Learn this skill- Never get too angry. If you find yourself boiling over with anger, it will be difficult to see the lessons in your life at that time. Difficult to foresee the repercussions of what anger can make you do, the damage it can cause. Similarly, you can’t see the truths in your life in a state of anger.

Anger keeps a lot of people from acting on their hopes, aspirations and dreams. It also prevents them from being their best selves with others. People who never get angry are able to live lives that are more fulfilling, meaningful and inspiring.

How many times have you been in a situation where you feel that the sky is falling and everything is going wrong? I have been there. You feel anxious, frustrated, and even angry at times. At times like these, you tend to react rather than respond. Either you become aggressive or less sensitive and indifferent.

The reason why I mention this is that I want to share with you a piece of wisdom that came from one of my mentors: “Never get too angry… Never get too happy either…”

It may sound weird at first, but it is true. When you are happy, things around you might seem wonderful and wonderful things around you make you happier. But, when something bad happens, your happiness vanishes into thin air and the world seems bad to you. You become unhappy. Similarly, when you are angry, things around you might seem bad and bad things around you make you angrier still.

All our thoughts and emotions are non-productive. Yes, anger is a non-productive emotion. It commonly arises in the face of perceived injustice. How you deal with anger is up to each of us individually. Learning how not to express your anger is a good thing to learn. Good qualities to develop would be patience and tolerance- accepting that things are not as they should be and taking positive steps towards making things better.

The best and wisest way to react to upsetting situations is by being calm. People who are calm and composed can see things more clearly and make better decisions. They always have a greater chance of seeing things from many different perspectives. This can give them an opportunity to make better judgements than people who are angry or anxious.

Losing your cool doesn’t solve problems, but it does give you new ones. Sometimes, it gives you a bigger problem than what you currently have to deal with. So if you don’t want to deal with something bigger than what is causing your anger, remain calm. No matter how burning our hearts is requesting that we respond retaliate immediately, we should take a moment to think about the implications of our actions

I remember that I have only gotten seriously angry once in my life, and I regretted what I did that day, even though people around me justified my actions I still felt like a different person. This is what anger can do to you. Prior to the incident that made me angry, I thought I was a really calm person, someone that can never get angry or provoked by anything. So I wasn’t intentional about what anger can cause. I vowed never to behave that way again, and I haven’t gotten seriously angry at anyone since then.

So whenever you fell provoke and rattled up, instead of lashing out and exploding, allowing anger to take over you, take a chill pill.