What other signs do you need?
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There are lots of things that shouldn't be a do-or-die situation in life, relationship is one of them and I believe that when the future of a relationship doesn't look secure, it's best to walk away from such relationship else it might end disastrously.
I was wondering what other signs people need to see people in a relationship before they know it is the right time to quit. It is impossible not to have misunderstandings in a relationship, it would come because we can't be perfect no matter how much we try to be, and the fact that we were raised differently would make us have lots of differences but going into a relationship mean that you are matured enough to handle and endure the difference but this maturity and endurance of thing mustn't be done blindly.
Domestic violence is one big issue lots of relationships experience today and I keep asking myself if it all started over the night. This has nothing to do with a particular gender, the world has graduated to a state where both males and females experience violence in their relationship.
This act doesn't start suddenly even though people are smart with hiding who they are before they tie the knot properly, you don't just meet someone today and marry them the next day, relationship will pass through the dating and courtship phase which gives us the privilege to understand the other person in and out.
That period is enough to make you decide if you should stay or pass but people forget about the most important thing to do at that period, we are more concerned about gifts, outings, sex, and others. Our biggest priority should be knowing the other person and being sure that he or she is the right person for us.
A lady once mentioned that they have courted for years and it was difficult to make that decision, shouldn't your happiness be a priority?
I am not surprised because many relationships today aren't built on feelings, the goodies in them are what matters, and some people wouldn't mind getting tortured as long as the benefits in the relationship wouldn't stop.
A guy once said he has spent too much than just let her go, that sounds like embracing a time bomb because your wallet was locked in it.
I read the story of a girl who was beaten to a coma on the internet by her boyfriend, she claimed it wasn’t the first time but she was always hiding it from people. If the new case didn’t go public, I am certain she would still cover-up and will one day say yes to his proposal knowing fully well that she will remain a punching bag forever.
If the beating is not enough to make her quit, what other sign in the world would make her understand that she was practically digging her grave if she remained in the relationship? This is common sense; you don’t need God to come down to tell you to quit the relationship.
I know a man who endured his wife's violent attitude; he didn’t know he was in hell until the woman pour hot soup on his head after an argument. She ran away leaving her two daughters behind, the man almost lost his sight because of the incident. Many years after the incident, we had a conversation and he said it was his fault because she has always been like that even during their courtship days. She threatens him with a knife and other dangerous things but he thought he was in control and wouldn’t react which later backfired.
The lady beaten to coma or the man who almost lost his sight wouldn’t have experienced such if they paid attention to the signs in the early days in the relationship, they don’t just develop attitude suddenly. They have been showing it bit by bit but we didn’t pay attention to it, for some they think they are in control while some believe that they can change that habit.
It is dangerous having the hope of changing people; some people can’t be changed no matter how much you try. I wouldn’t hesitate to quit even a long-time relationship if I notice any form of toxicity in the person, a relationship should add to your happiness and not be a threat to your existence.
If you choose to stay because of the kid or because you are carrying a baby, be rest assured that the kids will be fine when you are long gone. Many had the opportunity to see the sign severally while some saw it a few times before meeting with their end, if you have the will to live then you wouldn't hesitate to quit.
Whatever the reason is, don't lay your hand on a woman!