Love is not enough...

It is not the first time we all have heard that love is not enough to keep a relationship running smoothly, there are a lot of things which includes the ability to forgive, trust, transparency, and many others but we usually omit something I assume should be a priority in a relationship.

Today numerous relationships crash almost immediately after it starts due to the absence of respect, our generation does not find respect valuable anymore and it is unknown to us that it is gradually taking a lot of things away from us silently. Regardless of whatever impact you are having in a relationship, everyone deserves respect as long as you see them fit to be in a relationship with him or her.

If you think your lover doesn't deserve you, it is best to withdraw than stand to disrespect him or her because disrespecting one another in a relationship has resulted in a series of domestic violence globally. Even outside relationships, no one will tolerate being disrespected so why would someone who is thinking straight think that it will be tolerated in relationships?

I wouldn't want to blame any gender for the issue of being disrespectful in a relationship because I have seen both male and females push their spouses to the edge by disrespecting them but for some time now I observed that the obsession with "Feminism" thing in the society escalated the issue of disrespect in relationships today.

Impact of feminism...

The world took feminism to a point it shouldn't have reached because the moment some females started taking the equality thing seriously, lots of homes were destroyed. I don't buy the idea of sharing responsibilities in relationships, it should be about doing what you can and supporting your spouse as much as you can.

Men are naturally dominant in relationships but there are always ways to go around having a sweet relationship if both sides respect one another. This dominance didn't start today, it has been in existence for a very long time. The idea of being the breadwinner should have originated from the fact that the men were in charge of taking the family responsibilities which is catering for the family needs, it can be tough then because they do hard labor, travel to distant places just to provide for the needs of the family while the wife care for the children and the home.

The idea keeps going on from generation to generation and it automatically became the way of life but the world is changing and some changes seem to be uncomfortable not because it is bad but we are forcefully trying to impose it on one another seems to be the problem.

Relationships in the past.

The difference between now and then is the fact that couples respect the impact of each other on the growth of the relationship, we can conclude that life and relationships were beautiful then.

It doesn't mean that there wasn't disagreement then but it doesn't come in from the issue of not respecting one another.

Lots of females do not understand that the easiest way to get into a man's heart is by respecting him, if you doubt it then why do you pamper, care and do different kinds of stuff when trying to make them bend to your wish?

It works because it has been used for me and I felt like a respectful woman deserves it all, I have seen men who go into a relationship because they find the female very respectful.

I am not claiming that men are the ones who deserve to be respected, every female deserves it as well in their relationship. The fact is that any man who doesn't respect is a woman doesn't deserve it as well, it is impossible to reap what you haven't sowed.

I agree with the popular saying that respect is reciprocal.

Due to the lifestyle changes, we are experiencing in the world every day, people are gradually drifting away from the culture that has helped us maintain love, peace, and sanity. Parent has a huge role to play in teaching their kids how to be respectful, not just to elders, their mate but in their relationship as well.

We can help them create a better world in their relationship as they grow, our lifestyle should be an inspiration to them.

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