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Saturday was supposed to be a rest day but I was caught up in the heart of stress, I ran out of stock for fish feed so I went to restock. I went around the market because the price was too high, I noticed that only a few shops have stock so they decided to make extra profit.

I returned to my regular store where I do purchase from and I was told that they haven't received stock so those who had increased their price but they were expecting it. The shop owner called the driver bringing the goods and he said he would be there in an hour so I decided to wait but one hour became three.


I didn't know that sitting down doing nothing could make someone tired, I was too tired to leave and the store owner kept persuading me to wait because they won't be opening tomorrow and there is a big chance that the goods they are expecting won't go round to satisfy the customers demand so I waited patiently and the annoying part was that I didn't go with my android phone since I will be carrying loads, I don't want to damage the screen again.

The vehicle finally came around past five and I was able to get the fish feed before leaving the market.

While we were waiting patiently for the goods, a discussion came up due to what a man gave as a response to a question the store owner asked him.

To my understanding, the man's wife is the one who comes regularly to the store to get feed for their livestock. Since the man came himself, the store owner asked of her from her husband and his response was awful.

He said she is at home doing her duties, after all, women are meant to be at home cooking, doing chores, and caring for the kids. He sounded immature and I felt that he must have responded that way because they had disagreements.


The store is been run by a couple, the husband is a vet. He treats animals and sells drugs while the wife sells the feed, they are doing very well together.


The couples didn't allow him to land before they gave him the perfect response and the man felt embarrassed because he uttered rubbish about the female gender. Immediately he left, it became a topic of discussion.

Everyone started sharing their opinion, it became an argument at one point and I listened all through instead of contributing to the discussion because I don't have any marriage experience even though I hate seeing women been condemned to be house material.

The store owner decided to share their life story and I felt it was the perfect example people needed to know so that they can erase the traditional belief of women sitting at home doing just the house chores.


The couples attended the same university and started living together even before marriage, they were desperate to get married but their financial status wasn't desperate because the husband was the only one with a vet job. He treats people's dogs and gets little tips that weren't enough to pay their bills not to talk of starting a good life.

Whenever the wife came up with the idea of finding a job, he is not cool. Aside from insecurity, he said it made him feel not capable as a man and she was supposed to be at home cooking, doing laundry, and others.

On this fateful day, the wife took her results and went in search of work without the husband's consent. She eventually got a salesgirl job after days of going around but the man wasn't pleased with it and it almost led to their separation. She pleaded to do the work for just some time and will quit once the man got a job, their pastor interfered and he allowed.

She started the work and was earning less than $100 but she didn't let that discourage him since she could help the man and a few months into the job, she got pregnant. The early days were terrible but she didn't quit, she was very good at work, and one customer who liked her service interacted with her. She knew the lady had something in her head but there was no opportunity so she introduced her to a loan, they didn't meet the requirement because it was a huge sum of money but the customer helped them bypass some of the requirements since was a strong member of the cooperative offering the loan.

The couple got a small shop where the man expanded his vet business and the wife started selling animal feed with the experience she gathered from her previous workplace. They took things slowly, they got married after the first child and today, they are the biggest dealer in the market talking about anything that has to do with animals and they are using about 10 shops altogether.

Imagine if the man never allowed her to work, how long would they remain struggling? I am not saying the man wouldn't be capable forever but what if the woman's effort was the spark he needed to get his fire burning. Several customers waiting also shared their experience, in the end, they all agreed that females should be given the privilege to use the knowledge and skills they have got to support the family.

It doesn't have to end in the kitchen or bedroom, they are making an impact globally and you shouldn't restrict yours from having a positive impact on the family growth.


Thanks for reading.

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Fishing and any other livestock farming requires much attention and tenderness but it can be frustrating if we run out of feed for them on a Saturday night and Sunday since dealers don't often open on these days. If possible you get more hands to lessen the work load

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2 years ago

The workload isn't too much, I am just too lazy at work 🤣

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2 years ago

I honestly believe is best to let your wife get a job or start a business especially if you(the husband) isn't financially strong. In this current life situation man needs all the help to hold his family together... And there's no one better to help you than your life partner.

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2 years ago

Responsibilities are killing a lot of men out there and it would be wise for any man who wants to help himself to allow his wife to work if she wants to.

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2 years ago

About the fish feed, my classmates and I actually saw this coming and we stocked up on a lot of bags of feed that will be able to last us till next year, coz we know it will be scarce during this period which will make most sellers hike the price.

I seriously don't know why a man in this modern time will still have that mentality that a woman's place is in the kitchen when in essence, the woman cam actually help the man to bring in more money for the benefit of the family

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2 years ago

You guys are really prepared for the hike in price, the man really messed up speaking low of his woman.

He got terrible replies and I believe he wouldn't try that again in his life.

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2 years ago

Most of the time... "rest days" are scam.

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2 years ago

Seven Yeats ago, a neighbor of mine instructed his wife to resign from her job as a nurse before they got married. He thought that nurses are always in contact with different men. He claimed that his job at a textile industry would be enough to cater for the family. During the lockdown, he lost his job. It was his wife's two sisters who were also nurses that kept borrowing him money for his family survival even up to this day.

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2 years ago

Can you imagine that? He threw his change of survival away just because of jealous and been too protective.

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2 years ago

Doesn't make sense to me at all. I know of a lot of men who would be proud of a nurse as a wife and even show her off

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2 years ago

Starting marriage life is quite hard if you are both not blessed in financial aspect But I do believe everything will be okay as long ua the couple will help each other. We are now living in modern world and women are not just staying at home.

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2 years ago

Yeah, things can get very better if both partners work together to get themselves out of poverty.

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2 years ago

Men who think that way is egoistic. Men and women should be equal. If men can do it, so are women.

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2 years ago

We have both opportunities and should be given the platform to try in making things good.

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2 years ago

I am sad to hear the remarks of man about his wife,but the story of the owner was a great lesson for everyone. How his wife helped him to come out of their poverty should be took as a great inspiration.

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2 years ago

The man might probably still be in the conditions he was then, I was super happy because the man was given a harsh response.

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2 years ago

Women are helpmates and not just a stay at home stuff, though some women prefer to stay at home, because they don't want to work

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2 years ago

House chores can be stressful as well but it would be unwise for a woman to choose to do nothing.

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2 years ago

Women need to be allowed to do alot of legal things out there, I know a woman, she wasn't working when her husband was alive, it was the husband that always take care of the bills, suddenly the husband died, she wasn't working, the death of her husband was a drastic turnaround in her life.... They became really poor,the children might not eat anything through out the day, assuming the woman was working while her husband was alive, things won't have turn that way for them.

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2 years ago

That's true, she wouldn't have suffered much if she was working while her husband was alive.

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2 years ago

This is gender inequality and I don't see meaning in letting women end up in the kitchen and taking care of kids at the expense of their careers. Women have dreams too and they need to allow them make it work. As long as it wouldn't disrespect each other.

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2 years ago

I am of a strong belief that women should be given the chance to live outside the walls of the house.

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2 years ago

Women, economy, politics, management, industry, heavy vehicle driving etc. must be actively involved in all affairs, even at the forefront. Men have to do responsibilities such as ironing, cleaning, cooking, taking care of children. Everyone will either accept this or accept it, there is no other choice. I hope it wasn't too harsh, hehe. :D

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2 years ago

I just believe that we can make things work with understanding one another, helping one another would make life easier..

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2 years ago

Unfortunately in this part of the world women are considered as nothing but sexual objects and kitchen, household materials.

It's a shame the man described his wife with such words in public; saying she's at home doing her duties is almost like like you're referring to your maid or your undeserving employee. So unfortunate.

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2 years ago

If I was a sibling to his wife, I would have talked her out of the relationship immediately because the man doesn't deserve a woman under his roof.

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2 years ago

But they're already married. Im sore you wouldn't want to destroy their union through something called divorce.

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2 years ago

Really nice article. Thank you my friend for this wonderful appreciation of females. You are right. Women should be free to choose their own decisions about their work

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2 years ago

Regardless of their role as a wife, they mustn't be hindered in pursing their dreams.

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2 years ago