Does being silent mean pride?

I went to have a haircut today and finally got a new style, it took us over 15 minutes before we could agree on one. Don't mind me, I'm totally old school; I have been on the low cut for more than half of my life.

We finally agreed on it and I enjoyed my brother teasing me at the barber's shop plus I intend to keep some beards so it would be a completely different George in a few months.

While I was at the barbershop, an argument started about which Nigerian artist is the best. They asked for my opinion and my response was disappointing, I don't have favorite music. I listen to music as long as it is good in terms of sound and lyrics, it got to my brother's turn and the moment he mentioned Wizkid, they all shouted in disagreement. One of the guys there said that he disagreed, he said Wizkid is arrogant and he doesn't like him for that.

I asked if he has met Wizkid before and he said no, so how did he know that he is arrogant? The guy said that he is quiet and that's a sign of arrogance, few of the guys backed him up and I was surprised.

How does being quiet mean arrogance?

I don't know why they think silence means arrogance and I know they are not the only one who thinks that way.

My younger brother once asked me this same question when he started attending a new church, he doesn't interact with anyone for some time, and when he finally started mingling, a member said to his face that he thought he was proud because he doesn't interact with people.

Firstly, I do like to say it is wrong to judge people. We all have different personalities, not everyone loves to talk, flaunt their wealth and even blab around, being different from others doesn't mean that we should have a wrong impression about one another.

Some people naturally don't quickly flow along with people, they are careful with the action they take and even the words they speak around people.

Sometimes this builds up from experience, I have shared this story before so I just make it brief. My act of mixing with people quickly almost caused me trouble, a neighbor I was very closed to threatened me a lot because of something I believe if I wasn't interacting with them wouldn't have happened.

This family got close to me, unknowing to me that they weren't on good terms at a point. The woman decided to surprise her husband, she parked all the property in the house and left. While she was packing, I was surprised and she said that they were moving, she apologized that her husband didn't tell me about it.

She begged me to help her disconnect some electrical stuff which I did, the husband came back in the night. I was outside and asked if they forgot something, he was surprised and asked how?

He went in a came back shouting, he said there is nothing in the apartment again. I said your wife said you guys were moving and I even helped her with some things. The next day, the news was that I helped the wife pack her things out and I was wondering what connection I had with that except for the fact that I usually interact with them.

That experience taught me to be careful after I left the house, I will do anything to help my neighbor neutrally but I don't have this close relationship with my neighbors anymore and I don't care about what people think about it.

Aside from quietness being a natural behavior, a lot of people have chosen to be quiet because of life experiences. You don't know me from Adam and you just concluded that I am proud, that's your problem. Funny enough, the Wizkid doesn't even know the guy exists so why would they choose to hate him?

If the person you dislike gives you $1000 right now would you reject it?

We all have a different opinion about things, what I like might be different from yours but that doesn't mean we should speak ill about people publicly. What if the person still has a favor for you and someone among us told him what was said about him?

These hate opinions we give about people can hinder good things for us, it is hard to believe but it is true.

Being quiet comes with lots of advantages, for instance. I am always quiet during arguments because I want to learn.

It's hard for me to talk during elder discussions, I am always quiet during that time because I want to learn as well. I do this even in the midst of my mate when I know I can learn from what they know.

I shared my opinion about saying ill things about people and I said he must have thought I am proud as well because it took me more than a year before I start barbing at the shop despite being on my street but he said no.

He will say the same thing if Wizkid suddenly shows up at his should, he will deny saying he is proud. Love is the best thing to promote, hate wouldn't do the world any good.

That's the haircut, what do you have to say about it?

I know I am ugly so be gentle with the comment about the hair.

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