Define your relationship.

I experienced a situation over the weekend, it didn't happen to me but I had every detail because my brother was involved somehow. I was pissed about the incident because I never expected such to happen from the guy who messed up, he is an adult behavior like a toddler and even some toddlers would do very much better than him.

It started on Friday evening when a woman called my brother, she happens to be his friend's mom. She sounded sad on the phone, we know her to be very energetic and jovial. My brother asked if anything was wrong and she said, a lot is happening. We were at the farm working so he had to put the phone on speaker and I was able to hear their conversation very well.

She called because of her son who is my brother's friend, he left home for some days and didn't return on the day he mentioned, he switched off his phone and was unreachable. She became worried and started calling his friends but no one knew his whereabouts so my brother was her last option but unfortunately, he doesn't know his whereabouts as well.

She mentioned that she had an accident on the day he left home, she couldn't even walk because her leg was badly injured and he wasn't bothered. My brother remembered that his friend mentioned on that same day that his girlfriend was ill so he suspected that he would be there.

I immediately said it was impossible because I didn't believe that someone would leave his mother who had a severe accident for his girlfriend who was feeling feverish.

The girlfriend has another option, her parents or friends could come to help her out but his mom depended on him because she lives with her. This same woman feeds him and provides shelter for him at the age of 25, it got me pissed knowing all these details.

My brother called his girlfriend and she stammered while answering that he wasn't with her, he didn't let her know that his mom called so he acted neutral but she said she would try to reach and tell him to call.

To my surprise, he called less than five minutes after and that has proven that they are together but he denied it as well but he didn't disclose his location.

The conversation went on, the guy came visiting on Sunday and I wasn't happy with him so I sat in my room but I could hear him and my brother thrashing things out. Of all people in the world, making your parents regret they raised you is a terrible thing to do.

When he left, my brother told me a lot of things and I was shocked. This guy has placed his girlfriend over the family, he would do whatever has to do with her first before even considering his family.

I got surprised because it looks like he has been charmed but that's not the case, I have heard stories of people being charmed in a relationship but I believe that such a thing will work on you if you refuse to define your relationship.

The guy has failed to define his relationship and it might not end well for him because he has rubbished the people he can run to if things go wrong in the relationship.

I further discovered that he is treating the lady like a god because she has a good job and he is jobless, it looks like he is pleasing her since he is getting things from her and that doesn't make him a responsible person. If he could treat someone who has taken care of him all his life that way because of someone he met less than four months, it means he can do the same to the lady.

We take a lot of things wrongly in relationships and it becomes difficult when we try to correct them in the future, no matter who you are it is certain that you will find someone who will fit your status so making someone a god because of the things you are benefiting from them or pretending to be what you are not is wrong. What if the other person stops doing the regular things that make you worship them, it means your love would definitely reduce or vanish.

Relationships should be for a neutral purpose which is loving one another and not loving someone for their status financially.

I remembered a time when my fiancee gifted me with a blackberry phone, I turned it down not because I had a better phone but because I wanted to be sure of where she got the money to buy it. I took the phone a month after I was sure she bought it from her saving and I think that's the way things should be.

People we meet in life have a role to play in life, our parents, lover, friends all have different roles, and not defining your relationship can make you place the wrong person as a priority.

Another thing is that not all kindness should be defined as love, some people are just meant to help you achieve some things in life but we allow this false feeling to grow because of the things that we can still benefit from them. If we fail to understand the feeling and define our relationship with people, we might end up regretting that we started the relationship.

I have been away for a few days due to electricity issues, it is affecting my business and draining me at the same time.

In the absence of electricity, I made roasted fish for dinner with charcoal. It has been a long and stressful day at my end and this should help me relax and have a great night's rest.

Remember the Pepper soup stuff I mentioned the other day? Something is cooking already, I will definitely update you guys so you can patronize me as well.

I missed you guys and will be going around the read articles after dinner, love you all.

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