Ask questions, it is very important...

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During the festive season, I met some people and we had several discussions, one led to another but they were random discussions about things going on around us in the society.

A man shared a life story of a 19-year-old boy and his older brother who bought two vehicles worth #8million ( $16k) for their dad and he is happy driving it around without investigating how they got the money for the vehicle. It could be wrong or right source but he must be certain to avoid problems in the future.

Aside from children misbehaving these days, I believe the parent patting them for doing inappropriate things or showing a nonchalant attitude towards their behavior has escalated the problems we see among the teenagers and youth today.

Today, a girl I use to know who is just sixteen years of age posted porn content on a WhatsApp status and she caption it with "I and my boo, someday". Lots of questions struck my mind immediately I saw the status and I replied to her immediately asking why she would post such, I asked again if her parents do not have her WhatsApp number. She answered with, "it is nothing sir. Mum, dad, and my siblings don't see my status". I couldn't press further so I just quit the chat immediately because I wasn't finding it cool.

It wasn't the first time I would see such, another girl did something similar a long time ago. She went to a party, smoking, and drinking.

She recorded and posted it on her status, I was closer to this one so I questioned her and she said " I was only having fun". I mentioned that she was too young and she made it clear that she is an adult @19, her dad is a politician and he will be mad if he sees that so I brought her dad into the discussion.

I reminded her that dad would be mad at her if he sees such and she said, I blocked them already.

The electronic gadget has given children extra freedom today and this has led many of them astray because their parents refuse to ask questions. You might be wondering what asking questions have to do with monitoring a child, I am certain you will understand before the end of the article.


As a child, I had a bit of a sight issue but I was so stubborn that I always avoid taking treatment for it. There was a time I got free eye tests in school and free glasses but I didn't use them because I hated them.

This made me slow when writing notes plus my handwriting was terrible so I usually write slowly. Due to my shortcomings, I usually borrow my classmate's notes home to complete mine and whenever my mom sees it, she usually asks questions and scolds me if there is a need for that.

I can't go home with what doesn't belong to me, once she sees it and I don't have any reasonable explanation for having it in my possession, I am in a big problem.


Lots of parents today overlook things they aren't supposed to and the outcomes are becoming a threat not just to them but to the future of society. With the social apps out there, things are getting crazier. As a parent, it is your responsibility to oversee everything going on in your children's life, freedom and privacy are words we use to condone nonsense.

They decide to let the kids be and overlook things all in the name of not intruding on their privacy, it is better to intrude now and know peace later because the freedom and privacy you are giving them today can haunt you when you are supposed to be resting at old age.

What would it take a parent to ask their child why they can't see their Facebook profile, why they don't see their status on WhatsApp, why they can't access their page on many social apps. These are minor questions truly but they can help curb lots of terrible happenings in the future if we take the right action immediately.

It is a common act among teenagers, the first thing they do lately is block their family members from seeing their profile because of the immoral things they want to share. It doesn't end with the social platforms, parents shouldn't overlook things even in reality.

Who is he/she?

Where have you been all day/night?

Where did you get money to purchase that?

Why are you dressed like that?

You are skipping meals lately, why?

You didn't return home, where were you last night?

These are questions that can expose a lot of things if you pay attention to the response the kids give back but it is so unfortunate that some parents smile at these things and even pat their kids for doing things they are not capable of.


We see lots of atrocities out there being displayed by the youth, it didn't start on the day they were caught but it grew to that level because many parents out there refused to ask the right questions.

You might be tagged as a nagging parent, it is for your good, and these things must be done with love because these kids are smart. Disciplining or scolding a child should be done with love else it would turn out terribly.


Thanks for reading.

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This is so true, the parents of today also don't understand all the risks of technology - by the time the child is 12 the child knows more about social media and phones than the parents. It's sad that there are so many children who get abducted, abused and murdered because of these types of things.

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2 years ago

Yeah! We learn something new from every question and every question is grow us

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2 years ago

No parents in world will want his child to go astray, most of the parents are trying their best to but they don't understand that the society is one if the major factor that makes some children feel that they have arrive.

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2 years ago

Only parents can guided their children nothing more and nothing less. One way to make them feel free to open up was communicate with them. Parents obliged to ask concerns about their children.

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2 years ago

Communication is very important between kids and parents, that's the only way to see through their life.

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2 years ago

Indeed, george!

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2 years ago

A good point. Im gla dmy parents are strict in my time but there were still no gadget at that tome of mine. I am feeling cruicial for my kids nowadays because they have been exposed to thier cousins that are playing Mobile legends and the grand mother tolerated them though they didn't leave thier studies behind.

There was one time that i was thinking that my daughter saw a porn in her cousins's phone due to what she described she saw earlier. I got so angry with them and telling my children not to go near those kids.

I just hope i could buikd a small business someday to see my kids grow and guide them daily

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2 years ago

I understand how you feel, it is important to be close to your kids because she wouldn't have told you if you weren't close.

We must be careful of the people they hang out with, God will provide for you so you can achieve your dreams and take care of your kids.

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2 years ago

Thanks for the prayer my friend. I and my parents are close but lost it somehow. But I'm just glad the relationship is back

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2 years ago

This is why parents should discipline their kids cos the rate at which kids of nowadays get exposed is quite alarming

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2 years ago

Things are getting out of hand, I really don't know what this generation is after.

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2 years ago

As a mother,I am discipluning Adrielle with gadgets, and I will practice it until she reach the right age, no gadgets all the time:)

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2 years ago

That's good and when she has full access to it, you should be mindful of the things she does with it

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2 years ago

I really love your articles like this, there's so many life lesson I get while reading your masterpiece. Btw yeah it is really important to ask questions and be aware on what's happening. Parents should always know the status of their children.

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2 years ago

Those questions will give parents insight into what their kids are into, who they are hanging out with and the things they are doing when they are far away from home.

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2 years ago

Hmm .... You are so right about this, and also about asking them about their status , I think alot of parent don't know they are blocked, they are ignorant, some don't even know if that exist and that is why they can't ask.... Thanks for the write up

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2 years ago

We must ensure we are educating ourselves so that we can be able to match their smartness in the social world.

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2 years ago

Yes, that is true

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2 years ago

that's really rampant these days brother, most parent or associates doesn't even ask question or interrogate a change in person, so far they are doing good, a bad menance ravaging our society today

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2 years ago

It mostly doesn't end well for people who don't question the changes they notice in their children, these are the things that promotes lots of the problems we are seeing today.

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2 years ago

The current generation is hard to handle this days, they attitutude are quite different. Unlike us before just one look by are Dad, we already know that we need to behave. That is why parents should change their strat in raising their kids and really need to engage online .

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2 years ago

Raising kids now doesn't have to remain physically, a lot about these kids true nature can be seen on the social world.

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2 years ago

Yeah I agree with you that is why my sisters did learned all apps in social media so that they can monitor their daughters status.

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2 years ago

This is small. My leader's daughter posted studio pics she took, while she wore a bomb shot and a short tight singlet. This is against our beliefs. So I showed the picture to my mum not knowing my mum would report her to her parent's first thing the following morning. They flogged the hell out of her and since then she deleted my number because I stopped viewing her status. See I fear for the kind of lifestyle our children will come to meet. When girls of 21years are already doing abortion as of it's nothing. God will help us!

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2 years ago

Lolz, she blocked you? That ridiculous, you guys should always pray for her.

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2 years ago

Some parents are too confident of their children especially if they raised them well. And raising them well giving them guidance that the children will not going to do or hide anything that is not good for them. But some children are in the stage of exploration which they never thought could harm them.

She's 16, still young. And she doesn't know what she's doing. She just thinks it's fun and she's enjoying it making her feel it's good for her and means no harm. The parents will surely be heartbroken and blame themselves if they know what she's doing.

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2 years ago

I understand your point very well but the world is at a stage where parents can't be too certain anymore because the teenage stage is a very tricky one.

Lots of kids miss their way at that point, they can be influenced by friends so easily because they are ready to see the world at that stage.

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2 years ago

Ohhhh! I can't believe she is 16 years old and have porn content even and girl,in our society 20 years boy will not have to save porn content on their mobiles or in thier thoughts,that's was very shameful act

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2 years ago

Even younger kids watch porn because their parents don't restrict their internet access, we just have to be careful with them.

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2 years ago

Many parents overlooked what they shouldn’t as a lots of children of now adays are set to be bad due to bad friends influence.

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2 years ago

Kids are influenced easily because of their mental capabilities, we must always pay attention to the things they do so that we can observe when they are going astray.

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2 years ago

That's true, they are getting smart each day and parents shouldn't be outdated in this. Monitoring their kids will give them 0 chances to go astray.

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2 years ago

They get smart everyday and I don't understand how, we just have to be careful with them.

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2 years ago

It's really important to ask questions, if not our intentions would just be trampled on

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2 years ago

In today's society, people get misunderstood easily...but if you get to ask questions, then you'll know why a person makes a particular decision or does a particular thing. It's really good to ask questions. Super Educative article 👍🏽

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