Sometimes we inherit bad habits or patterns that are passed down from generation to generation. For example, my father is an smoker, the chances are good that my grandfather is an smoker too. The same pattern with poverty, drug addiction, and child abuse. That's often why dysfunction families keep repeating themselves in the next generation. But the good news is you have a choice. You have proactive muscles and you can flex them suckers. You can be the cycle breaker in your family. You can stop that bad habit from getting inside you and pass a good habits to your kids and to your niece's and nephews.
I remember talking to one of my bestfriend during high school. Her mom get three husband's and it once become a mistress. She has two half siblings from her mom and she don't know who's their father. While her father was already died. She witnessed how her mom's life becomes so miserable and hard. They can't get any help from their relatives as it's also have a hard time with their living. She has four siblings and only their mom who works for them. She promised to her self that she will finish her studies and have a decent work. And she say's that she will get married. She will finish her studies to help her mom and let her siblings finish their studies too. At her young age she has a big dreams. After we graduated high school she works as a salesclerk in a mall. We are actually working together that time as she is my bestfriend, if where she goes I follow. I saw how hardworking she is and that's makes me admire her. She's smart actually, she has high grades when we we're still a student. But she failed to get a scholarship, I actually don't know why. But she never stops from believing that one day she can finish her studies and she can have a better job. The sad thing that I lose contact with her is because she left our province. She went to Manila, she said she wants to find another opportunity there. And that time we both don't have any mobile phone, so we totally lost contact.
It's been a decade since the last time I heard about her. And today while scrolling in my Facebook, I saw a profile in" People you may know" section that looks a bit familiar. I checked it for myself and I found out that it's her, my bestfriend. I made a little stalk in her profile and I see that she's already married. She already have two kids and she's working as an office girl. While watching some of her photos, I can't help myself but to feel proud of her. She reached her dreams and now she has a great life with her own family. I saw some pictures of her mom and I saw from her face that she had a happy life.
I realize, that nothing is really impossible, to change our cycle. We can break the cycle of having a broken family and even poverty. As life goes on it's mysterious ways.
If you came from a broken family, change that cycle by choosing the right partner to stop that pattern. If you had bad experiences at your younger age, then don't let your kid's experience the same thing.
Anyway I'll be cutting this article from here as it's getting late. I actually fall asleep already, and just woke up because my son asked his milk. I'm so much busy today and I don't get a chance to write my article earlier.
Before I forgot let me flex my home made mini cake..😂
I get busy practicing this little cake..😅
It was hard to be creative if you have a son who keeps on distracting you.
Anyway that's all for today's article
.....thank you for reading..
October 16, 2021 0:23
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We can break the cycle if its not favourable for us. Like bad habits and the likes. You right! We mold our own future so choice is on us to follow or not the cycle of the past.