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Hello there lovelies it's me again, how was your day today so far? I wish you had a great and productive day and whatever you are doing and wherever you are right now, I wish you're doing well.

Today I just wanted to share some thoughts about my past experience. I just stated it as "Some", because this is just about how much I care about my own stuff, I mean personal stuff to be specific. I actually posted this topic in Hive yesterday as well.

So before I start, allow me to tell you that I have this kind of personality, so called territorial. But not to the point that I am being selfish nor greedy. I just want some respect, some space, specially when it comes to my things.

My things, my rule's. What's mine, was mine.

I really have that kind of attitude. Am I bad?

However you can still use my stuff, I mean I would willingly allow you to borrow my things but make sure I give you my permission. But don't expect that because you know me or we we're siblings etc., you already had the authority to use my things in anytime that you wanted and anytime that you needed it. I'm still the owner, and so the decision must still be done by me.

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I'm kind of sensitive when it comes to my stuff. I don't like it when someone broke it or someone made a mess on it, because I really take good care of everything that I have specially if I bought it. Perhaps I would say I value my things a lot, weather it was given to me as a gift.

Do you somehow value your things, like I do?

I remember when I was doing my training in Manila. I am staying in the accomodation together with the other applicants, when I meet this girl who thought like she knows me a lot.

Actually we're good, because we are at the same group. I respected her, and always approach her nicely. But I don't consider her as a friend. She's still stranger to me, specially that I just meet her for the first time.

In the accomodation each actions/task has a designated time.

For example;

The time when you can only charge your mobile phones and other devices was only allowed during night time after you finish all your tasks for that day. Which means before you go to bed you can charge your devices, and if you forgot, you have to wait for the right time to charge your device, or else the staff will took away your device from you.

It was their way to discipline their applicant and so they can learn how to be responsible and to follow the rules.

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Because of that I always charge my mobile phone and power bank together before I go to bed, so the next day my phone has enough battery for the whole day or else I can't use it to do some research.

But one fortunate morning I woke up and found out that my power bank was missing. However my phone was still charging. I know for sure that before I go to bed I charge it beside my phone, and so when I didn't see it there, I immediately look for it. I asked my fellow applicants if they saw someone took my power bank but unfortunately they says they didn't as they just woke up.

I keep on looking for it, for almost two hours and I'm getting impatient. I still needed to prepare myself and do my morning task before the class started and so I'm also feeling mad.

But since I am running out of time, I just took my towel and went outside the room to take a bath. While I was walking to the bathroom, I'm still thinking about my power bank. Then I came across to a group of girls and I immediately notice that one of them is holding my power bank.

I don't know the girl, but I know for sure that the power bank that she was holding was mine, and so I got confused. How did she got my power bank?

So without a second thought, I politely asked the girl who gives her my power bank and why she's using it. The girl was shocked and she got confused, but she immediately pointed my group mate who's sitting next to her. She say's it was her who gives the power bank to her and she thought that it was hers and so she just use it when she give it to her.

I really felt disappointed to my group mate . She has no rights to take my things and so why did she took it without my permission?

So , I asked my group mate and I was disbelief when she told me that I am still sleeping and her friend forgot to charge her phone and so she took my power bank and allow her to use it as she needed to use her phone to contact her family.

I shook my head and took my power bank with disbelief. I don't wanna argue,but before I left I told her how disappointed I am with her attitude. I smiled bitterly while reminding her that respect still do exist and so she must consider it's existence and be responsible with her actions. If she wanna help, she must do it accordingly. Not because we're in the same group she can take my things anytime that she wanted, she's being disrespectful indeed. If she wanna help others, let them use her own things, not the things of others, then I left.

She runs after me and she immediately asked my forgiveness, and so I forgive her.

Who am I to judge and hold a grudge on her, right? I just told her that I'm not selfish, I just want respect and if she wants me to respect her, she must also learn how to respect others as well.

After that incident, I distance myself from her. She broke my trust and I cannot trust her again. It's not that I am judging her, I just don't like people who likes to cross their line.

Closing thought's;

Sometimes one of the reason why a misunderstanding was being formed was because sometimes we invalidate someone's privacy. We need to remember our place, and we also had to consider respecting others to avoid any conflicts, to keep our peace.

Respect start's from us, not from others.

.. thank you for reading...

Edit;

Suppose this is my article for yesterday but I failes to publish it as while editing some piece, I fall asleep 😁.

Disclaimer;

All the information contained herein are solely written by truly yours. This content was made for educational purposes only.

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Uhmm same sis what's mine is mine talaga nag aapply yan sa every day basis ko talagang mag aalburuto ako oag may lumabag jan haha kahit sa simpleng damit lang mag babaragulan talaga kami ng kapatid ko hahaha pero napayag namn ako pag may permission haha matutong humingi ng consent.

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5 months ago

Respect is first before any thing or any relationship. I don't like someone intarupted in my problems or someone sort of my life problems. Sister this article provided me much information to change my attitude.

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5 months ago

Likewise dear. When it comes to my privacy I'm very sensitive.

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5 months ago

My dear Garreth, I value my stuff like you, and I have my rules about them, I don't want anyone to use them without my permission. Your group mate did something wrong that took away your power bank without your permission, I also would be very upset if I were. Every person should respect to our rules and don't cross their line.

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5 months ago

All of us are indeed equal when it comes to our stuff, we all want respect dear. However there are really people who are insensitive about that matter, and so sometimes we really can't avoid to get some disappointments. Respect should be reciprocal.

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5 months ago

Oh no! even if i was in your shoes i will do the same and felt the same. I am not selfish too but learn to ask my permission first.

There are really people like that who will play in their mind.. ah okay lang yan sa kanya.. and will grab your things without your knowledge at ikaw parang baliw na sa kakahanap.. hayys

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5 months ago

Truth sis, may mga ganung tao talaga na porke pinakitaan mo ng kabaitan eh pwede ka ng abusohin. Nakakairita talaga yang ugaling ganyan.

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5 months ago

Ou nga kaya tama din yung ginawa mo na medyo umiwas na lang kasi baka ulitin muli hehehe

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5 months ago

We had the same attitude..i hate it too when someone used my things without my permission. People who can just snatch my things are my sisters and bestfriend

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5 months ago

The question you ask am I that bad? No your not, am also a fan of these I try to respect people because it reciprocate..I d tell my siblings too don't touch my things without permission

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5 months ago

Exactly, it's reciprocate actually. Anyway it's nice to meet you here, looking forward to read something about you😊.

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5 months ago

Me too Im sensitive if someone broke or destroy my things. You know they say that Im too insensitive or they always say that its just a thing, but how about my feelings some things are too valuable for you some of it Im sure you work hard to buy it and other stuff are gift by important or special person to you. That's why when it comes to my stuff I do not allow other person to borrow it.

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5 months ago

It's not being insensitive, we just value our things.

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5 months ago

No it's not bad and I am with you because your life should have your own choice and rules.

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5 months ago

Thank you for your understanding dear.

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5 months ago

as the legal owner of the goods you are free to regulate what you will do with your goods. when someone uses it without the permission of the owner, of course, it gives an indication that the rules that are owned are not understood or are deliberately violated by others. the way you do it indeed makes the culprit a deterrent and that will also make him aware that the violation by taking actions that harm others without any notification is wrong.

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5 months ago

Exactly, and so people must know their boundary and be reciprocate in terms of respect.

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5 months ago

Kaurat talaga yung Ganyan tapos ikaw ngayon walang gagamitin .

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5 months ago

Truth sis, pero bawal kasi makipag away sa accomodation 😅, kaya yun lang sinabi ko.

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5 months ago

Oh my! That's not good though. Using someone's stuff without permission and giving it to other's to use it.

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5 months ago

Truth, she really didn't think about what she did. Her attitude is quite annoying.

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5 months ago

Forgiving other people is indeed very difficult because of the pain we receive from their actions but from this story you describe something positive and I feel that your actions are correct because often someone we forgive does their actions again because he knows we will forgive him again and the way you are it's right.

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5 months ago

I wasn't perfect, but I don't invalidate someone's emotions. I know she did a mistake but it still forgivable.

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5 months ago

Wahh nakakainis yung ganyan as if they had the right to the things you own. You are groupmates but it doesn't mean she have the right to do so.

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5 months ago

Truth sis, kahit sino talagang maiinis sa ginawa nya. Feeling close eh hindi nga kami magkaibigan, tsaka kahit kaibigan ko pa siya, she must still ask my permission before she took my things.

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