So basically I thought I am already confident enough. I thought I have already learned how to socialize with the crowd. I thought I can be as friendly as others, but I think I am not that kind of person yet. I think I haven't reached that level of change yet, as I still saw some part of my old self. Well I guess change also takes time and I still need to gain more confidence so next time I won't find socialising so challenging.

It was indeed true that losing our confidence and self worth was so easy , but gaining and having it back takes a lot of efforts and time.

That is why we should always be very careful with our actions and words, as we all have different levels of sensitivity.

Anyway, this time I'll be going to share with you some of the common reasons why I don't usually like joining group chats.

1. I am afraid of being ignored

Basically every time that I am being invited to join a group chat, or I really have to join group chat always have this huge⬆️of hesitation to join because of this reason.

Yeah I am scared of being rejected or ignored. Well, anyway I can't literally say that it was the specific reason, because I think it's not a fear but a shame.

Okay let me give you an example.

Imagine, you were invited to join a party then the only person you knew from that party was the one who invited you. Which means all the people from the party are strangers. Just like inside the group chat, everyone is a stranger.

So then when you entered the room where the party was being held, you've been being introduced to everyone. Then all the people around greeted you. They give you a warm welcome and you felt overwhelmed because of their approachable characters.

However, when the party got started and the person who invited you get busy you've been left alone in one corner. Since you get a warm welcome from the people around, you tried to socialize. You asked them if you can join to their table and they let you. So you seat in, then you silently listening to their topics and you found everyone so friendly. Then while you're still listening to their conversation, you eventually tried to give your opinion. Because why not diba? Your in the group so you thought that it was okay to give your opinion as well, besides they let you join to their conversion that means you can also say something.

BUT! There's a big but, as after they heard your opinion, no one say anything. Seems like no one hears you as instead of responding to your opinion, they continue talking without considering you're opinion.

So what do you think you have to feel? Will you still find it funny?😂 It's a shame isn't it? Shamed as why you tried to voice out? Shamed as you felt that your home. Lol

That is why most of the time I am just a silent reader inside the group chat. I don't like giving some opinions as I don't like being ignored. "It's not that I want to get a special treatment, it's not like that, so don't get me wrong. I just don't like the feeling of being ignored, as it made me feel that my opinion does not matter."

Anyway I feel this in one of my group chat I'm in, in telegram. Well I only join to that group chat because of crypto. Not just for a chitchat 😅.

So now tell me, if you were at my shoe? What would you feel after being ignored? Would you just ignore them as well?

2. Finding it hard to ride along with the conversation.

As we all know group chat contains a lot of members, which means the topic may possibly be random. With this kind of situation inside the group chat, I find it hard to ride along with any of conversation inside as I easily get distracted. Lol. Plus I am also a very conservative introverted person and so joining with your conversation is really hard to me.

Some topics are also confusing, and if you don't know what's their talking about, you'll ended up to be a silent reader 😂.

I feel this in discord group chat🤣. They have some topics that I literally can't relate, and so I am always a silent reader.

Authors epilogue;

I know that inside the group chat, you don't need to always give your opinion. Sometimes you just need to read and observe then learn. You don't need to join their conversation anytime as well.

I also know for somehow, that because of the random topics that the group chat has, your opinions will possibly gets rejected. I just don't like the feeling of being ignored, as I don't usually give opinion and yet I only get rejection, hahahaha.

Honestly I find it hard to understand that even if sometimes there's only two persons available inside the group chat, they still don't want to consider your opinion. There are still some tendency that your opinion was being unheard, and that what makes me discourage to join group chat.

Anyways, I have joined lots of group chat actually, from discord and telegram and it's only because for crypto currency.

Disclaimer;

The information contained herein this blog are basically just my own opinion. Based on my own experience and observation as well. It's not my intention to misinterpret the vibes of the group chat. However this blog is just for entertainment purposes only.

Thank you for reading.

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