Psychological reasons why change is so hard

Today's article is mainly to cover three psychological reasons why change is so hard for we humans and this would make a lot of sense with the way life is going right now and it seems the number of bad things happening has overtaken the good things happening... When you look at people at the right side and the left side politically, during the COVID time and so on but, basically I'm going to look at it through the political Stan point and through that lense, I'm sure it would make a lot of sense to you guys.

Before proceeding let me make it clear, I have no political affiliation that I go with, I'm not in the right or left but center might just be good enough and I just allow what politics do what it suppose to do and proceeding to why change is so hard by viewing through this political lenses..... With the psychology of politics, I'm going to give examples based on politics and this could be use for religion, politics,belief and all can be use for your favorite sport team to understand yourself.

You understanding the three psychology reasons I'm going to share, will make you really understand people at a very deep level and eventually start to notice things about yourself and people that you're close to like the people you work with, your loved ones and when you tell them about it, they would definitely be shocked but also accept that it's the truth and from there you would understand the psychology reason of them acting that way.

What this article would cover is how our brain works to be able to fit in to a certain group, so these are the 3 psychological reasons Change is hard for we human being

1. The term “Cognitive dissonance"

Cognitive dissonance is that we humans don't like inconsistency just like our ancestors hundred of thousands years ago would definitely be attacked by some animal while rumbling in the bush, we don't like inconsistency we like consistency, we like to know we are safe and also we like to know what we believe in is actually true and when anything appears inconsistent it appears as a threat to us and instantly we want to restore the consistency back and what we do is

• We justify behavior or thoughts

• We trivialize behavior or thoughts

Why do we need to resolve?.. like I said previously, we don't like inconsistency it makes us physically uncomfortable when you find something inconsistent with something you believe in and gradually it causes mentally and physically discomfort, so therefore we have to resolve it to make it perfectly consistent... So we want to know who we are and where we stand and someone that's on one side and said something to someone that's one the other side that threaten their beliefs, they must bring that down because it's causing cognitive dissonance.

If I believe in XYZ and someone else believe is ABC and the person comes in and told me what they believe in is true is definitely going to cause cognitive dissonance and COGNITIVE are things going on in my brain and DISSONANCE means things that are all over the place and I'm not able to rationalize like things that are not perfect or inconsistent here....so what we do at that point is definitely try to bring it down and trivialize it.

People have this idea of the love consistency, I got this from a book which I read a while ago called influence by Robert Cialdini, in a love consistency, we have an image of ourselves, the way we think about ourselves, the person we are with, the belief system that we have, what we think is right and what we think is wrong and we all have a self image to uphold and if somebody comes in and start to push our buttons and proof to us some actual truth of some faults in ourselves, in our belief system and that can really cause a lot of cognitive dissonance.

If you're on the left side and somebody from the right side comes to you and start to proof to you why this or that is wrong, it's going to cause cognitive dissonance and this is why you see so many people literally start to act like children when someone comes in and try to threaten their beliefs and because of that fact they are threatening their beliefs and they don't know how to react to it, they eventually get angry and still trying to proof that what they believe in is absolutely right even though it's wrong.

In a case when what they believe in is actually true all they do is to protect it with all their might.... If you think about all these I have been writing all this while, how often do we see it nowadays, when people even try to show you factually that what you're doing is wrong and instead of them to believe, all they do is to find a way or more useless facts for them to gain higher ground than the person correcting them.

Here is what we should do, we don't have to proof that someone is wrong for us to feel better, we just have to let people have their beliefs

This is a simple secret of life:

1. not everyone would have the same belief with you, and they won't and a lot of completely different beliefs and why does it have to matter when someone has different belief than yours.

2. There is something called partisanship, we humans want to feel like we are part of a group, a tribe... All of these are built into us and also we always want to fit in perfectly for every situation we love and also we always want to create an identity and what's iconic about partisanship is familiarity, and this is because familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth, if you hear something over and over again even if it's false, you would start to believe in it.

i'm really a big football fan and sometimes when I watch my favorite football team playing that's Manchester united and one our players made a rough tackle and clearly it was a rough tackle but because I'm a fan of Manchester united I would start justifying why that is not a foul but just a mere interception but if it was the other team tht made an interception, I would definitely be angry and start shouting that it was a clear foul and that's what is clearly happening in today's life, when something is clearly wrong but just because we are in that group we will definitely overlook it and give more reason why it's not wrong and I gradually notice that this is a modern day tribalism of me watching football game 😂😂😂, but I still don't care as long as my team keep winning.

We are all likely to agree with our group than to see the world correctly and that's the truth, we all have embrace our self awareness to take ourself back away from it.

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