Why breaking up when we can make up our relationship

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We have gone over the top crazy with the way the world is today. Every day there is a new fight breaking out. What is happening to relationships?

For many years I have believed that the world is becoming crazy. I have seen so many friends break up with their partners, whether it is a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife. But what I have wondered is why people are so anxious, to have to break up with their lover.

Society today is a very materialistic place, and everyone wants to have the best of what the world has to offer. People want to have the latest clothes, electronics, cars, and even relationships. There are many people that have one lover, and being that it is a relatively new thing, people usually break up for no reason as far as I can tell. But as I have been observing this for so many years, I believe there is one simple solution to all the problems, and it is about helping to understand why we break up when we can make up in our relationship.

As a matter of fact, I believe that very often people break up with their partner, for no apparent reason; they are not fighting, they are not bored of each other, they are not having trust issues, there is nothing wrong with their relationship at all. I keep wondering what the actual reason behind the breakup is since most of the time after the breakup people go back to their exes begging them to come back. I think that it is very important for us, especially women, to understand that breaking up is never worth it.

In my opinion, there are only two or three reasons why people decide to break up with their lovers, which are not even cogent enough to go to that extent. The first reason is that they were not married or living together, and therefore break up because they think that they can do better.

The second reason is that it is all about money and beauty. They feel that they can replace their lover with someone else who is richer or better looking.

The third reason people break up is that the lover does something unforgivable to hurt their partner so badly, that they can never be the same again. The partner who was hurt by the other partner then wants revenge, or at least to teach them a lesson for hurting them.

The best way I know how to teach someone a lesson is not to hurt them mysel ff, but simply give them some space for self-reflections and to discover how much they miss me. That is what I do with my wife any time she offended me that bad.

I have found that there is only one time when I was willing to teach my wife a lesson, and that is when she reported me to her mother. I couldn't take that, whatever happens between us must be kept within the confirm of our union, no third party is needed, not even my parents. And what was that lesson I taught her? The lesson of silence. We live still together, we can still share whatever is sharable, but after a couple of days she became emotional and broke down in tears to apologize for her mistake.

How do we handle these moments of madness in a relationship?

People seem to forget where they are coming from too quickly, the sacrifices they have made for each other to keep their relationship leading to the time of contemplating a breakup.

Yes, it can be hard to make sense of the choppiness in someone else’s behavior sometimes. But yet, we can still find ways to handle moments of madness in a relationship without going to the extent of breaking up.

We've all encountered moments of madness in a relationship. If one half of a relationship just can't let go of whatever is bugging them, sometimes it's best to just keep the peace and ride the storm out. If you're in a relationship with someone prominent in your life, hopefully, they can see how much it's hurting you to see them fight.

Being in a relationship is a form of give-and-take, so you should take the time to be the best you can be. I will be honest, and say that sometimes we get caught up in our problems and struggle, but I try to remind myself that I am not the only person in the world struggling with a complicated relationship. There are many, many more people out there who have a lot more to contend with than me. It is important that we take care of each other and love each other unconditionally. The important thing to remember is that this isn't a problem to solve. This is an issue that will last for the rest of our lives. We can't change someone's mind about something. When we're in love, we become one with our partner and we have the courage to say what reform we need. Love is about taking care.

Now the thing is when you are in a relationship with someone, you are in a business. When two people are in love, they are usually at the beginning of the company. Most businesses go through ups and downs. I believe that what makes a great company is how these ups and downs are handled. You can have a successful company with only one product, but if you choose the wrong product, you will end up losing money. For example, one man's trash is another's treasure.

We are all different no doubt about it, but when you are in a relationship, you are committed to your partner.

When you are committed to the other person, the only option is to make this relationship work.

Making up is always better than breaking up. Breaking up means that you have lost your love for the other person.

Making up means that you both want to get back together, and therefore you commit yourself to be with that person for the rest of your life.

The reason why I am writing this article today is because of a comment on my article yesterday by @JustMyRambles01 , and because I didn't deal on relationship that much on the said article, even though the topic seems to be heading in that direction. And also there are many articles that talk about relationship breakup, there are no articles that talk about making up in relationship.

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It depends. When the relationship is toxic, time to break up.

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3 years ago

Sometimes there are moments that letting go is the best way to do, than holding on to something which you know that there will be no chances of restoring the relationship.

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3 years ago

Some people break up out of boredom. When they are no longer find their partner exciting.

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3 years ago

And is that a cogent enough reason to break up? So people goes into relationship just for the fun, and when the fun is no longer there we should break up and start looking for another place to catch fun? This world is going crazy beyond human comprehension.

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3 years ago

As long as we believe there is even a little amount of love, it means there is still a chance of getting back. There is nothing wrong in trying and believing. Love will set us free.

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3 years ago

Sorting out issues should be the best option in marriage. Because if we break up instead of making up there's no gain in it. But making up will open us to better knowledge on how to go about things.

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3 years ago

I don't even know what this world is turning into simply because nobody wants to date poor guy or ugly girls again without minding how the guy get the money and how the girl get the curve shape

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3 years ago

Breakup should be an option when we have misunderstanding in marriage we can sort out our differences with more understanding when we erase breakup from our mind

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3 years ago

Sustaining a relationship entails some level of maturity and understanding. To sustain our relationship, we have to avoid fault-finding and maintain a humble posture in our relationship.

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3 years ago

The truth is that we most times tend to forget that there is no perfect relationship anywhere in the world. This is one of the major reasons why people will gladly rush out of their relationship once there is a little challenge on their path. We can break up as many times as we want but once we do not understand that challenges are what builds stronger relationships then, we will never find that which we are looking for.

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3 years ago

One lesson I have taught myself about relationships is not to start it if I know I won't be serious with it.

Going into a relationship for a selfish reason is one big reason why different relationships end. You have treated the solution to the issue of break up well, it takes matured minds to end issues amicably like you did with your wife.

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The second reason is the most common today. People leave their partner because of money and material things. But one thing they don't know is that there will always be someone out there who has more than one's spouse. More money,more cars,more beautiful. ..

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3 years ago

Its unfortunate that the purpose of a relationship, I mean marriage is been degraded in this dispensation. The world is turning upside down, negating the rules for keeping relationships. Breakup is morally not the best, only that the folks who are involved may not have considered the fact that relationship cannot be all a bed of roses. Learning to handle relationships is key. The dialogue could help out. This is the biggest issue that has affected this generation. There is no more patience to listen. And as such, people kind of ward-off excuses that could keep their relationships going.

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