If you ever thought love was just something that was going to fall into your lap, you’d be dead wrong. There is so much work that goes into keeping a relationship alive – to know what’s happening and what needs to be done. But you have to be willing to make the sacrifice. And you have to have something much more powerful than love to sustain it.
Your love is your most important key to get through the tough times and shine in the best times. There is no one better at understanding the needs of your journey than you. In that space, you may be willing to sacrifice any amount of things you need to give love to your partner or significant other. But just because it’s a sacrifice, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. When you push your partner away, you’re allowing them to learn what it takes to gain back your trust and ability to love. Control is the fear of losing the way life feels when you’re in love. You can only control your response to the things people do, not their behavior.
It is very important for a couple to sacrifice for the sake of love. But a couple who make sacrifices only outside the home will not make it. “Every time you sacrifice for your loved one, you've taught her how to find the strength to keep on living.” Love ebbs and flows like a turbulent sea, but if you want to sustain it, it’s important to have an idea of sacrifice.
Expressing gratitude for all the blessings you receive in everyday life has a function more than just to make us feel good. It helps us be more available to the people, places, and things we love. Gratitude is like a prescription we can prescribe to ourselves and then administer to others. It will dissolve bitterness, hold our relationships in a loving frame of reference, help us remember to say thank you, and push us to bring about positive change. It's the fuel that sustains our love for each other and the world. A healthy dose of gratitude will help us let go of what we can't control.
We live in a culture where we’re led to believe that if we want to be happy, then we should simply allow ourselves to have whatever we want whenever we want it.
In the throes of passion and love, it’s natural to want to be near each other—in the same bed, under the same covers. But sometimes, it’s necessary to pull away. The distance can lead to a stronger relationship in the long run. The simple act of pulling away is not an act of avoidance; rather, it is a gesture of sacrifice. To keep your relationship alive, you must be willing to walk away for a few moments, or even a few hours. With distance, there is space for reflection and appreciation.
Distance can play a role in strengthening love when it's used wisely. Without it, couples are bound in a bubble where they cannot see beyond each other and past their problems. They struggle to give up their own needs or to be happy for their partner’s successes. With distance comes space, and with space, there is room for reflection and appreciation.
The act of pulling away from your mate - physically, and emotionally is a sacrifice to sustain your relationship. By sacrificing connecting time with your mate for other priorities, you are creating space for closeness. The power of togetherness is disrupted the more you remain in each other’s space.
You must be willing to sacrifice time and energy for your relationship. It takes effort and energy to be in a relationship. A relationship is not simply a way to pass the time or kill boredom; it takes work and commitment if it is to have any value. No two people will agree on everything, but, if you always agree with your partner, your relationship will soon be boring. Hold your peace when necessary; let him or she have an unpopular opinion or express an unpopular desire.
How does pulling away for a little while enhancing love in a relationship?
The sacrifice that makes your love endure is more about you than your beloved.
When we love someone, we follow through with the sacrifices that keep our relationship alive. We spend time with him, play with her, guide him, teach her, plan for their future, and so on. We have to be very involved with our love to keep our love alive.
We have been conditioned to believe that when we love someone, we hold on as hard as we can and never let go. We want to be with that person all the time. We think that being around people who make us happy will make us even happier. It ought to be so, but in a relationship, it isn't. There are times when partners get a heated argument and lose control of words because no one wants to give in to the other in the matter. In this instance, it is wiser to pull away for a while to create a space for reflection on your actions and also allowing your partner the same privilege of space and time.
You might want to ask, what's sacrifice in that when you pull away?
Only space and time can heal an injured ego, and bring the heart back to a level of compromise.
Before leaving home for a five-day conference I attended during the week, my wife wasn't happy with me. I wanted her to come along with me for the conference as required but she insists she is not going. I was upset by her actions and she too wasn't better either. But the five days I spent away create the time and space for reflection, and as soon as I returned from the conference she was the first person to run out of the house to welcome me with an open arms. I guess you should know what follows from here.
Well, structure article. Love is such a complex concept to understand. I appreciate the fact that you made mention giving space as a way of strengthening the relationship. We are learning that if you love a thing you set it free.. Counting our blessings every day and enhancing the level of sacrifice in our relationship is key.