Sacrifice, the fuel to sustainable relationship

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If you ever thought love was just something that was going to fall into your lap, you’d be dead wrong. There is so much work that goes into keeping a relationship alive – to know what’s happening and what needs to be done. But you have to be willing to make the sacrifice. And you have to have something much more powerful than love to sustain it.

Your love is your most important key to get through the tough times and shine in the best times. There is no one better at understanding the needs of your journey than you. In that space, you may be willing to sacrifice any amount of things you need to give love to your partner or significant other. But just because it’s a sacrifice, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. When you push your partner away, you’re allowing them to learn what it takes to gain back your trust and ability to love. Control is the fear of losing the way life feels when you’re in love. You can only control your response to the things people do, not their behavior.

It is very important for a couple to sacrifice for the sake of love. But a couple who make sacrifices only outside the home will not make it. “Every time you sacrifice for your loved one, you've taught her how to find the strength to keep on living.” Love ebbs and flows like a turbulent sea, but if you want to sustain it, it’s important to have an idea of sacrifice.

Expressing gratitude for all the blessings you receive in everyday life has a function more than just to make us feel good. It helps us be more available to the people, places, and things we love. Gratitude is like a prescription we can prescribe to ourselves and then administer to others. It will dissolve bitterness, hold our relationships in a loving frame of reference, help us remember to say thank you, and push us to bring about positive change. It's the fuel that sustains our love for each other and the world. A healthy dose of gratitude will help us let go of what we can't control.

We live in a culture where we’re led to believe that if we want to be happy, then we should simply allow ourselves to have whatever we want whenever we want it.

In the throes of passion and love, it’s natural to want to be near each other—in the same bed, under the same covers. But sometimes, it’s necessary to pull away. The distance can lead to a stronger relationship in the long run. The simple act of pulling away is not an act of avoidance; rather, it is a gesture of sacrifice. To keep your relationship alive, you must be willing to walk away for a few moments, or even a few hours. With distance, there is space for reflection and appreciation.

Distance can play a role in strengthening love when it's used wisely. Without it, couples are bound in a bubble where they cannot see beyond each other and past their problems. They struggle to give up their own needs or to be happy for their partner’s successes. With distance comes space, and with space, there is room for reflection and appreciation.

The act of pulling away from your mate - physically, and emotionally is a sacrifice to sustain your relationship. By sacrificing connecting time with your mate for other priorities, you are creating space for closeness. The power of togetherness is disrupted the more you remain in each other’s space.

You must be willing to sacrifice time and energy for your relationship. It takes effort and energy to be in a relationship. A relationship is not simply a way to pass the time or kill boredom; it takes work and commitment if it is to have any value. No two people will agree on everything, but, if you always agree with your partner, your relationship will soon be boring. Hold your peace when necessary; let him or she have an unpopular opinion or express an unpopular desire.

How does pulling away for a little while enhancing love in a relationship?

The sacrifice that makes your love endure is more about you than your beloved.

When we love someone, we follow through with the sacrifices that keep our relationship alive. We spend time with him, play with her, guide him, teach her, plan for their future, and so on. We have to be very involved with our love to keep our love alive.

We have been conditioned to believe that when we love someone, we hold on as hard as we can and never let go. We want to be with that person all the time. We think that being around people who make us happy will make us even happier. It ought to be so, but in a relationship, it isn't. There are times when partners get a heated argument and lose control of words because no one wants to give in to the other in the matter. In this instance, it is wiser to pull away for a while to create a space for reflection on your actions and also allowing your partner the same privilege of space and time.

You might want to ask, what's sacrifice in that when you pull away?

Only space and time can heal an injured ego, and bring the heart back to a level of compromise.

Before leaving home for a five-day conference I attended during the week, my wife wasn't happy with me. I wanted her to come along with me for the conference as required but she insists she is not going. I was upset by her actions and she too wasn't better either. But the five days I spent away create the time and space for reflection, and as soon as I returned from the conference she was the first person to run out of the house to welcome me with an open arms. I guess you should know what follows from here.

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Well, structure article. Love is such a complex concept to understand. I appreciate the fact that you made mention giving space as a way of strengthening the relationship. We are learning that if you love a thing you set it free.. Counting our blessings every day and enhancing the level of sacrifice in our relationship is key.

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3 years ago

"If you love a thing you set it free"

That's powerful, and also the wise will understand that.

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3 years ago

Many relationship break today simply because both partners are not ready to make any from of sacrifice. None of them is ready to make the sacrifice of trying to submit and understand the other, none of them is ready to make the sacrifice of changing some of their behavior or habits just to make the other happy. You cannot be in a relationship and not make sacrifice. Even Jesus had to make the ultimate sacrifice just because He loves us.

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3 years ago

You are on point, love without sacrifice is a cosmetic and plastic type of love that can't stand the test of time.

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3 years ago

No matter what kind of relationship you need to work for it and... understand each other's needs. Each person is an individual and should we be treated like that. To be honest I always hated to change from me into just... the child's mother or someone's wife. It's like my daughter said about her ex: his life didn't change I am a substitute for his mother but mine has.

Keep pushing someone, not leaving enough space was what made me decide to leave. I am way better off alone.

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When we are much concern about our desires from our partners we end up losing their hearts, and once the hearts are no longer together separation is inevitable. Most people quickly forget that there was a life before a relationship comes in, and there's no way you can change that life, you can only learn to along with it sacrificially for everything to just be fine.

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3 years ago

Love and sacrifices works hand in hand. Disagreements will surely arise but this will only strengthen the relationship. And of course sometimes distance helps.

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Disagreement shows that we are thinking humans. Only those who doesn't think never disagree, it's through disagreement that we agree better.

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I haven't known what it is to have a relationship for many years. I have not fallen in love again. So long without a partner that now I love my space. I love my independence. I believe that to have a partner again I would have to love a lot, I would not sacrifice my space and my independence if there is no true mutual love. And that hasn't happened yet. Interesting post.

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We all have a life before going into a relationship, and that life matters. It's important for anyone going into a relationship to the life that the partner is living before coming together. Do you have to sacrifice that life? It depends on circumstances and commitment from your partner.

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3 years ago

Sometimes there are situations where it will need an adjustment by one, or by both. Love does not solve everything without someone learning how to sacrifice. You just pointed them out well. 💯

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3 years ago

Thank you for your support

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3 years ago

You're welcome! 💯

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3 years ago

All well said. In marriage, you get the certificate while you are entering the institute. You learn all the way. Sacrifice is one of the many qualities that helps a marriage to survive.

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3 years ago

I agree especially for married couples but these days, in dating, it's mostly out of sight, out of mind😩

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There are a lot to know when it comes to the issues of love. It does not matter the way you are but paying sacrifices is part of love. When you are someone who does not know how to sacrifice something to your partner, then you are not ready to dance to the music of love.

Understanding matters in love. Your partner must learn how to understand you to the fullest.

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Sometimes even what you thought you understand about your partner can also cause a problem, for instance, you know that your partner doesn't like chocolate ice cream but you love it. So you buy for yourself alone because you knew your partner doesn't like it, however, there are instances where your partner will ask you why don't you buy for him or her, so by your understanding you did what is best, but not at the right time.

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3 years ago

Sacrifice seems to be an essential element of any relationship and appreciate the fact that exercising gratitude is magical....

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Yes you are right without sacrifice you can't Sustain your love. I know love is important key in life but without sacrificing you can't get or keep in life. Similarly my girlfriend leave because due to busy in work I don't give time to her and that why she leave me. It mean if I sacrifice my work for my girlfriend then she will Remain with me. I don't suggest you to sacrifice work for girlfriend no IAM not!

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3 years ago

Couples should be willing to make sacrifices and some compromises that won't hurt. No two people will agree on everything, sometimes you have to deprive yourself of some things for the sake of a healthy relationship.

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3 years ago

You are right on point, it's sacrificial to allow your partner have an upper hand in most issues to avoid hurting them.

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3 years ago

Very beautiful advise to people who are getting into relationships.. honestly, I do follow most of the suggestions given here with my husband and we most of the times are an okay couple... and giving space to each other after conflict is extremely important.... great post :)

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Yeah, giving space after a conflict is better way to come together again stronger

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Love is cool and great but for those willing to under the sacrifice to be made Such is the definition to love.

Distance is indeed a true determinant to good relationship and so it had break a lot of relationships too.

Great article sir

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I agree with you that distance has break a lot of relationship, and I will say there wasn't a relationship in there in the first place. How can someone be in a relationship and you are living far away from each other. It's hard to cope with and required a higher degree of sacrifice to keep such a relationship. In my case, it was just for a couple of days, and those days help me and my partner to come over our differences.

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3 years ago

Yeah I agree to that it builds relationships but that probably for those that are married. They would rather realize more to the essence of their partner and appreciate them the more.

But for dating or courtship not everyone could wait that long. My thinking though 🤔

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You mean waiting for five days away from your date is too long especially when you have an issue in hand to deal with?

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Lol. I am not talking of five days sir I was talking about years

For example been in a relationship where one partner stays abroad and the other in the country.

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That's quite a hell of a relationship, and infact not a relationship at all. That's slavery on the part of the woman especially, because the man living abroad keep relationship with other women in the foreign country where he is staying while the wife is fighting temptations everyday.

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