Lead image source

Good morning to you all, I would like to enlighten us on the topic above, no time to beat around the bush as many of us are familiar with the topic and most of us are parent too.

After many research and studies done, I have concluded that been an over protective parent can never have a good effect on the kid. Recently I have always wonder why do some children turn out they way they are, or what prompt their action to doing things they couldn't do at home, why do they misuse the freedom they had. As you go deeper into the reading, note this, if you do this as a parent or a guardian, I can consider you as being over protective

This thing you're about to read is based on the research I carried out and here are the result, it may differs from your, but read to learn from it.

1. Not allowing your kids bring friends home

Some parent are found of doing this, especially to their female kids, there is a popular saying that goes like this

'show me your friend, and I will tell you whom you're'

When you don't let your kids bring their friends home, how will you know the kind of people they move with or how to correct them on the kind of friends to move with, many parent have gotten this aspect very wrong and it pains me, some parent will always be on their hills when they see their female kids with male friends, that's not the time to be harsh or say strict words to them, that's the time to pull them closer.

2. Not letting them handout with friends

This is mostly done to the female child, according to my research, most male parent always refuse the request of their kids to hangout with their friends, as a parent, for sure you know when to allow your kid go out and when not to, depending on how they have been behaving, but not letting them hangout with their friends even when they make the request, that's move was wrong, it is the love and respect they have for the parent, that's what prompt them to ask in the first place, some times, let this kids enjoy the freedom of being a kid. You don't let them bring friends home, you also don't let them hangout with friends, they will only see you as the enemy

3. Being rude to kids friends

Some parent don't even know they are rude to kids just because they see themselves as the elderly on, when your kids have friends over, try to avoid some weird question like, who are your parent or what do they do for a living, I remember visiting a female friend while I was little, her dad sat us down and preach about heaven and earth, asking us to ask for forgiveness of any sin we have committed, well that was the last time I set my foot their, and I wasn't the only one he has done that too, even to her female friends, anytime she invite us over to her house, we do refuse to go, and I can tell you the result for her wasn't a pleasing one. Parent try to give your kids and friend some privacy, don't go asking, what are you talking about?

4. Using abusive words on them

No matter how grown your child may be, they are still like baby when they are around you, your word always matter to them, even the tinniest word, "if there is actually anything like that" you can shatter a kid confidence with harsh and abusive word, a child that grow up with a low self esteem can be as a result of his or her upbringing, when parent use this kind of words saying they are training their kids or correcting them so they won't repeat their mistake, I always laugh.

There are many more things over protective parent do, but I will stop here, and continue with the effect on the kids

The effect on the kids

After all this things have been done to the kids, the kids begin to have fear for their parent, there is a big line between FEAR and RESPECT for ones parent, most parent often misinterpret this FEAR as respect for them, I laugh in my native tone, when kids begin to fear their parent, they began to hide things from them, their plan, their friends, their relationship, their experience and many more, imagine having a female kid who can't share things with her mother, can't talk about boys with her mother and vise versa for the male too, just because they know how the parent will react or the kind of words that would come out of their parent mouth. Please as a parent or a guardian, we need to do better, we need to improve on ourselves.

In conclusion

As a parent, be nice to your kids, give them little freedom, let them bring friends home so you can understand them the more, don't take things too personal, remember, this kids are growing and they don't have your experience, that's why they need you to guide them in the right part and in the best way, I will be writing a true life story of how a girl life turned out to be due to the fact that are parent are over protective.

Thanks for reading, I hope you learn from my little wisdom, you can get more of the wisdom from @Olasquare also thanks to my sponsors. All image are from unsplash.com

Article series: Parent and kids
Time: 6am
Date: 10/01/2022
Author: ©Fashtioluwa