Is it really hard to change what we are used to?

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August 3, 2022. Wednesday.

Do you also believe that it is difficult to change what we are used to? Well I want to know your answers in the comment section below. But now I will discuss my question first.

I got the question from the Thai Series I was watching that I was talking about the past few days.

Because the main character of the story named Paeng is a rebellious kid, well she's not that young because he's already a young woman. But she didn't become a rebel without a big reason. She was orphaned at a young age. Since the loss of her parents, that's when she became that kind of person. Her father entrusted her to his good friend. Paeng lived there in the house of her father's friend. She calls her father's friend Uncle because she is no different from them because she knew him when she was young.

Ever since Paeng settled in her Uncle's house, the lives of the people there became chaotic. Well, because she is a rebel, she does many things that are not good in that place. Most of the people there were affected by what she was doing. They live on the farm because it is owned by her uncle and it is also her uncle's business. Even the workers at the Farm where they live sometimes sympathize with the silly things she does. Even in the school she attends, she is always involved in trouble, that's why her guardian (Uncle) is always called by the guidance officer of school she's attending. That's why it cannot be denied that almost everyone dislikes her because of her attitude. Even her Uncle's wife doesn't like her because she even answered and fight her Auntie.

But there was an event that changed Paeng's life. That was when her Uncle's son had an accident and she was partly to blame for the accident. Everyone at the Farm blames her for that incident and that is the reason why his Uncle decided to kick her out of the Farm first. Her Uncle promised her that she will not be neglected even if she moved and her uncle also said that he did that so that people in the Farm would not always blame her.

A few years passed and the lives of the people at the Farm became smooth and quiet without Paeng and so did Paeng. Paeng lived well even though she was alone in the Condo she lived in and she also finished her studies. The course she completed was about Agriculture.

But one day her Uncle said that she had to go back to the Farm. Paeng wouldn't want it because she knows that almost everyone there doesn't like her and won't want to see her anymore but her return to the Farm is for work. She finished a course about Agriculture and she can use it to work on her Uncle's Farm. Her Uncle also said that hee return to the Farm is also a chance for her to apologize to the people she did something bad and also to show that she has changed. Her Uncle saw that she had really changed a lot, she was no longer the famous Paeng who was so bad before because now she has become good.

But Paeng condition became difficult when she returned to the Farm where she lived before. Because people there have not changed their view of her, they still recognize her as the rebel Paeng. Almost everyone there didn't want to believe that she had changed and that she was no longer the same as before. No matter how much she showed the good side of her, her good attitude and no matter how many times she apologized to the people who were there, they didn't listen to her and they didn't believe her. Sometimes she really wants to give up and just go back to her Condo but her Uncle always reminds her not to give up and just keep showing them that she is a good person now and that her intentions are good why she came back.

But what his Auntie said really stuck in my mind.

"I don't believe you've changed, you can't blame me because it's hard to change what you're used to doing"

Because they got used to Paeng doing only bad things back then. That's why it can't be taken away from them to think that Paeng is still like that because that's what he's been doing all along.

Maybe that's all I'll tell you about the story.

But let's go back to my question earlier. And my answer for that question, well for me maybe it's hard to change the things we're used to, the activities and things we're used to doing, especially if that's what we've been doing all the time. But it's a different story about people. I think that a person can change and that is not impossible to happen. Other people just think that it is too vague to change a person's behavior but for me that is not true. If people force themselves to change their behavior for the better, they can do it and it is not impossible.

So that's my answer. That's based on my opinion only. We have different perspectives and beliefs, that's why I know that others have different answers about this question. So I just want to know your insight about this topic of mine.

And that's all for now. I hope you enjoy and had fun while reading this article of mine. Thank you so much and have a nice day!


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It is very difficult for a person to change himself, so whoever grows old in certain habits, no matter how bad or good they are, it is very difficult to change them I am one of those people who can't change themselves

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1 year ago

Oh I see. Thank you so much for answering. And I am hoping that someday you can change yourself the way you want to be. But I know it really takes time.

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1 year ago

Yes langga that's true. Change is possible kasi if gusto talaga ng tao magbago, gagawin niya talaga yun. Hindi imposible langga.

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1 year ago

Correct po. If they really want to change they can really do it po.

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1 year ago

Change for me is possible for everyone but there are circumstances that made me think it's not also possible. Like for example cheating on one's partner, even if that person said that he/she change already there are still doubts on my mind that they will do it again. That's why we can't blame others if they don't believe that we change whatever we used to be.

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1 year ago

Yes you have a point. That's why I am thinking about it also. Sometimes change is not for everyone.

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1 year ago

i agree. if a person force himself/herself to change and be better, then it's possible. i do believe that the impossible can be possible by just forcing and trusting yourself. just like what i did, i have anger issues and i suffered to it for almost 2 years. and then, bcs my surroundings were affected esp my mom, i decided to have a change even i see a low possibility. i forced and trust myself but now, my version of myself have been better. there's no any excuses when you wanted to create a better version of yourself. i loved your content btw!

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1 year ago

I am glad to hear that you change your self for the better and you already solved what you are going through before. Thank you so much for loving it, I really appreciate.

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1 year ago

Though it's really hard to admit someone changing. I think it is possible, as long as they were not born with the traits, then it is likely they have changed

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1 year ago

It is really depends on a person. Thank you for sharing your views about this.

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1 year ago

Humans tend to change depending on the people they are with (past and present) . And cjangr is inevitable once needed. You can't just simply judge a person like that. We have different aspect when it comes to change... theres also people who happen to force themselves bot to change in order to keep what they treasure the most. may it be thier loveones or the status they are in

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1 year ago

That's right po mommykim. Change is possible it is really depends on people how will they do it.

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1 year ago