Is it really hard to change what we are used to?

August 3, 2022. Wednesday.

Do you also believe that it is difficult to change what we are used to? Well I want to know your answers in the comment section below. But now I will discuss my question first.

I got the question from the Thai Series I was watching that I was talking about the past few days.

Because the main character of the story named Paeng is a rebellious kid, well she's not that young because he's already a young woman. But she didn't become a rebel without a big reason. She was orphaned at a young age. Since the loss of her parents, that's when she became that kind of person. Her father entrusted her to his good friend. Paeng lived there in the house of her father's friend. She calls her father's friend Uncle because she is no different from them because she knew him when she was young.

Ever since Paeng settled in her Uncle's house, the lives of the people there became chaotic. Well, because she is a rebel, she does many things that are not good in that place. Most of the people there were affected by what she was doing. They live on the farm because it is owned by her uncle and it is also her uncle's business. Even the workers at the Farm where they live sometimes sympathize with the silly things she does. Even in the school she attends, she is always involved in trouble, that's why her guardian (Uncle) is always called by the guidance officer of school she's attending. That's why it cannot be denied that almost everyone dislikes her because of her attitude. Even her Uncle's wife doesn't like her because she even answered and fight her Auntie.

But there was an event that changed Paeng's life. That was when her Uncle's son had an accident and she was partly to blame for the accident. Everyone at the Farm blames her for that incident and that is the reason why his Uncle decided to kick her out of the Farm first. Her Uncle promised her that she will not be neglected even if she moved and her uncle also said that he did that so that people in the Farm would not always blame her.

A few years passed and the lives of the people at the Farm became smooth and quiet without Paeng and so did Paeng. Paeng lived well even though she was alone in the Condo she lived in and she also finished her studies. The course she completed was about Agriculture.

But one day her Uncle said that she had to go back to the Farm. Paeng wouldn't want it because she knows that almost everyone there doesn't like her and won't want to see her anymore but her return to the Farm is for work. She finished a course about Agriculture and she can use it to work on her Uncle's Farm. Her Uncle also said that hee return to the Farm is also a chance for her to apologize to the people she did something bad and also to show that she has changed. Her Uncle saw that she had really changed a lot, she was no longer the famous Paeng who was so bad before because now she has become good.

But Paeng condition became difficult when she returned to the Farm where she lived before. Because people there have not changed their view of her, they still recognize her as the rebel Paeng. Almost everyone there didn't want to believe that she had changed and that she was no longer the same as before. No matter how much she showed the good side of her, her good attitude and no matter how many times she apologized to the people who were there, they didn't listen to her and they didn't believe her. Sometimes she really wants to give up and just go back to her Condo but her Uncle always reminds her not to give up and just keep showing them that she is a good person now and that her intentions are good why she came back.

But what his Auntie said really stuck in my mind.

"I don't believe you've changed, you can't blame me because it's hard to change what you're used to doing"

Because they got used to Paeng doing only bad things back then. That's why it can't be taken away from them to think that Paeng is still like that because that's what he's been doing all along.

Maybe that's all I'll tell you about the story.

But let's go back to my question earlier. And my answer for that question, well for me maybe it's hard to change the things we're used to, the activities and things we're used to doing, especially if that's what we've been doing all the time. But it's a different story about people. I think that a person can change and that is not impossible to happen. Other people just think that it is too vague to change a person's behavior but for me that is not true. If people force themselves to change their behavior for the better, they can do it and it is not impossible.

So that's my answer. That's based on my opinion only. We have different perspectives and beliefs, that's why I know that others have different answers about this question. So I just want to know your insight about this topic of mine.

And that's all for now. I hope you enjoy and had fun while reading this article of mine. Thank you so much and have a nice day!

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