Are you one of those people who believe that you met the wrong guy or girl? Where because not end up forever labeled that person as the 'wrong' one and soon the right one will come in time. Someone who could love you more than them? Someone who will give you the things the other couldn't deliver; it's either time, love, or care. But the reality is that there is no wrong person; everyone is the right one. Also, there was no lousy timing because timing is always perfect, just that we believed much in this myth.
After a break-up, I often heard from people that 'he wasn't the right one for me' followed by hopes that the right guy would soon chase her. Then just another moment she now said 'he was the right one, but not the right time' when she saw her ex-boyfriend having another and regrets everything, the last moment she will say 'destiny gives me the wrong time and wrong guy' when she is in another relationship, but expectations don't meet her times.
Believe it or not, there are no wrong people that come into our life. There was no bad timing, for we learned a lot of things from having these times. Please don't say that your ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband, ex-wife, or ex-best friend was the wrong person, for they never were.
Why? There was a good purpose in every person we met—a blessing or lesson.
Maybe they are the right person to hurt us, for us to raise our standards.
You deserved to have a standard in looking for such a girl or guy; what personality you were looking for must be met. Character looks and even what career track they have. It's not wrong to set a standard, just that people think negatively about you when you say your desired standard, for they will never meet that. So when someone hurts you, they are not the wrong person, but the right person who will give us the idea of raising our standards.
You hurt, and you won't let yourself stretched again, looking for another chance. You shall bring those new standards.
For us to know our boundaries.
Sometimes honestly, the past relationship becomes unsuccessful because we interfere too much and forget our boundaries in life. We look at too many expectations and become toxic. In another way, had you been asked yourself, are you the right person for him too? Or also the wrong one on his side.
Boundaries, where we let know our limits, boundaries where it becomes no, wall anymore.
Maybe they were the right person to leave us, for us to know that we could stand on our feet.
These are the most blessing of people who leaves us; they taught us to stand within our own. Still, we could also do the whole nature without them. I loved how a single parent is either a mother or father who rains their child for their partner and leaves them for others once alone. It's their loss, not yours. You gained the braveness and evolution of being a stronger one.
When they leave us, they not only give us pain but train us to brave. For more things to come and challenges possibly endure.
Maybe they are the right person who will break us so we can build ourselves on our own.
They leave us broken, and we should fix our own, for they were not the world; they are just the people. People who go are the person who builds us more. They are not the wrong person but the right one who could make us stand out from ashes of broken to skyscrapers.
Maybe they were the right person, but for a different reason than we expected. They will give us in disguised not only hate or tears but self-love, forgiveness, and hope.
Remember that God doesn't give you the people you want; it gives you the people you need.
You need love, so he gave it to you, but you also need to become firm, independent, and greater than before, so some people leave. Upon leaving, they never bring anything from you; you are whole that stays.
So yeah, for me, there was no wrong person. They give us the experience we need; they give us things essential for our lives.
How about you? What do you think?
This is a revision of ideas from other people on the internet. I added and deducted for me to create this paper.
I love this piece so much! I know very soon, the one that will love me for who I am, accept my flaws and imperfections, show me lots of affections will come and stay with me for the rest of my life will come. I can't wait to fall in love again💃🤩