Divorces in pandemic? An opportunity to change patterns

Statistics show a considerable increase in the number of divorces during the pandemic era. I wonder: Is the fundamental basis of the family at risk? Are we in the presence of a new opportunity for us to reevaluate the way we are making covenants with our fellow human beings? Do we learn to see weaknesses in our relationships in order to correct and strengthen them?

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It has been somewhat difficult to see in the news and in the statistical updates such high figures of marriages dissolutions during the pandemic; and it is that, in the last decade, between 2010 and the year 2020, divorces had been multiplying up to 40% in an increasing process; and they already constituted an alarming figure.

But this year alone, in relation to the previous year, after confinement or quarantine, divorce proceedings have risen by 50% in countries such as China and many others in Europe, which has led many to believe that spending much of the time together has dissolved family unions.

What a sad conclusion when we know that the purpose of a marriage is the formation of a family nucleus that, through cohesion, can bring new people into the world, take care of them and take responsibility for their physical, emotional, spiritual and social development.

If the causes of divorce that were handled before the pandemic were immaturity of the parties due to young unions, infidelity, lack of tolerance to the personality of the other; having unrealistic expectations of life as a couple, and violence or abuse; in these current circumstances it has been the prolonged sharing.

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I believe that we are joining together with little knowledge of the responsibility involved in creating a family; that we go into the union as a couple with little tolerance for the change that we all have in a dynamic way as individuals; that we go into marriage with little capacity for sacrifice in transforming ourselves into a team that works for the common goal of forming happy human beings.

With this process of isolation or quarantine, the unions have had to show themselves as they are, because the prolonged time and routine make us show ourselves as we are on a daily basis; and most likely, we have noticed too many differences between us; something that before, because of work or duties outside the home, it was impossible for us to notice in its full dimension; and now we feel unable to understand or bear the differences.

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I sense that this world is being born again, different and with new patterns of behavior; and in the couple, there is also a process of restructuring; in fact, I think that these situations are telling us that we must arrive at marriage with full knowledge of who we are, and also, conformed with our way of being, to then be able to share.

That we must create values such as solidarity, sacrifice, teamwork, patience, listening to the other, as important traits as feelings and romanticism.

We must, like the world in general, be born again; be more human and more communitarian; believe in the family as a pillar where the best characteristics of human beings are raised; and that is a work that we must begin to do from ourselves, in our interior; from now on.

Emilio Rios-Venezuela

emiliorios580@gmail.com

#Iamgrateful for having the opportunity to see changes in our planet and in our institutions of life; changes that are the beginning of a process that will allow us to improve as a human race.

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