A philosopher once said,
"You should talk behind people's backs to relieve your stress."
This is one of the iconic lines of Ko Mun Yeong (portrayed by Seo Yea Ji) in the popular psychological Korean drama series titled "It's Okay to Not Be Okay".
I have been watching this series for almost a week now and I'm glad that I was able to finish watching this series last Saturday. I find this series a little creepy since it involves murder, death, and Mun Yeong's haunted mansion. After watching the first episode, I already got goosebumps because of the thrilling effect of the episode. But after seeing the complete episodes, I am glad that I watched this series because the story taught so many lessons again. And just like what I have done with the previous Korean dramas I have watched, I note down some of the impactful lines and life lessons I learned from the characters in the drama and this is one of them.
So going back to the topic, Mun Yeong said that "You should talk behind people's backs to relieve your stress." She said this after hearing the Art Director at SangsangESang Publishing Company, Yoo Seung Jae, talking bad about her for being too bossy and irritating most of the time.
If not all, perhaps most of us have tried talking behind other people's backs already, especially if that person just keeps getting into your nerves and keeps giving you a negative vibe. This is one of our ways to withstand the stress and negativity that person is putting on us.
Meanwhile, there are also some people who just love to talk behind other people's backs even if it's no longer necessary. They just really love to gossip about other people's lives as if they don't have their own life to deal with. They become walking CCTVs who love to watch your every action and decision and always give negative thoughts about them. They are what we call "Marites" here in the Philippines and they have their own group whom they gossip with.
To be honest, I do talk behind other people's backs sometimes, especially if they are already getting into my nerves and make me feel stressed too because I don't want them to build up inside my heart that will only become like a bomb once I'm already tired of holding them in. However, I'm not the kind of person who would talk about him or her with another person (although I get to this point sometimes, when I'm with my friends and they started the conversation. Lols)
I prefer to just talk about them alone than share my thoughts with someone else. Perhaps, it's because of having trust issues that sometimes, I would think that the person I am entrusting my thoughts to will backstab me in the future when we have misunderstandings and tell them to the person I was about talking about.
Personally, I really find it relieving when you just say your complaints and criticisms about another person if you don't have the courage to tell it to the person's face, but I don't like it when you spread them to another person and share it with others because it will not make any positive effect. It will only make you look like you are just seeking allies and convincing others to think the same about that specific person.
What I'm trying to point out here is that it's okay to talk behind other people's backs sometimes but don't make it into a hobby and become one of the certified "Marites" in the Philippines. Just mind your own business and stop gossiping about other people's lives.
Totoo naman yan sis, haha minsan maganda din yun yung topong nakakainis na siya pero hindi mo masabi sa kanya ng harapan. Like ng processor or yung mga tiyahin mo na pakialamera haha or yung kapitbahay mong walang magawa sa buhay kung hindi mamakialam ng buhay ng may buhay at yung boss na nakakairita magmando 😅😅 tama lang yun.