Clinging unto false hopes

Hope is what maintain most of us, keeps us going despite the unfavorable and challenging circumstances we encounter in our day to day lives. We live in this world, all hoping for a better tomorrow that we seem to be certain will come....someday..

We hope, expect and sometimes pray for something better as we endure what we currently have. Sometimes we repeat affirmative mantras to ourselves as though we are trying to "decieve" ourselves, or are we?

This is one of the reasons why people live their lives in fear because what I have come to realize over time is that (..might sound controversial to some of you), were there's hope, there's fear. As long as we truly hope for something, there's always a fear of not actualizing that object of hope, there's always the fear of that hope not coming into fruition. Think:

Praying is also a form of hoping. Things as subtle as wishing for something are all forms of hoping. Have you ever discovered that(most times), when we pray for something and at the end of the day that thing doesn't become a reality we get disappointed?!

A woman in an abusive relationship had her little dreams shattered when she realized that the man she fell in love with isn't what he portrayed himself as after all, but she still decides to remain in the relationship in the hope that he might change someday, with a fear in her heart that it might be futile while in reality, he might not really change.

Does that mean that we shouldn't hope for the best in the face of bad situations?

You pray for wealth, money after countless years of hustle and grinding. It gets to a point where if you're not careful, you become frustrated and when reaches that stage, you feel like your prayer is not being heard and then some of us might even begin to blame God.. because we raised our hopes too high.

Again, does that mean we shouldn't pray to God? Does that mean we shouldn't hope for the best in bad situations?

The thing about hope is that, it is a very needed tool of reassurance in surviving in a world like ours, otherwise we would all die off as a result of depression and anxiety. Hope keeps us going. That's why sometimes even when we know that we are doomed, we still look for someone to say "everything is going to be okay" when somewhere within our subconscious mind we know that everything is not going to be okay! Yet we feel happy when we here such reaffirmative words. Why? Because they spark a new beam of hope, it doesn't matter if it is false..or does it?

There's a "dosage" of hope and reassurance that all of us need for survival, but what happens when we decide to abuse the drug?

Disappointment

Frustration

Regret and much more..

Alot of us are scared, way too scared to face reality, to look it dead in the eye and say," I know this is you and I am ready to face you". We prefer to get drunk on false hopes with the full knowledge of what they are and what implications they might present, yet... Some of us can't just help it.

Reality is something that we can't hide from, we can only run. Even if there's a way of escaping reality, I do not think there's a way of escaping the consequences of escaping reality. It is better to face it head on to avoid future regrettable repercussions...

The Issue Of Praying To God.

In a previous paragraph, I asked a question, does it mean we shouldn't pray to God?

For those who believe in God, we all know that He encourages us to pray to Him. To seek solace in calling for his help in times of distress and even in times of ease. He encourages us to sing praises to Him. We pray, even when we know that the prayer might or might not be answered. He told us to have full faith in Him while praying Again, does this mean that we shouldn't pray to God?

For me, prayer is more than just requesting things from God, and to be honest, it goes beyond that. When we pray, our hopes triple because we've prayed. We get our hopes so high that we expect God to instantly answer our prayers and we start seeing results instantly.

Prayers is all about patience and keeping a calm face in distressing situations while placing all your hopes in God. This way your hopes aren't unrealistic and false. Even if at the end of the day you don't get what you prayed for, you still keep your cool, remain unfazed, because while not getting what you asked for, you've also been lifted a notch up in the art of patience.

Should there be then, an absence of hope? Of course not. In fact where there's an, absence and of hope, there's no will to live. Keeping in mind that what we hope for isn't what always happens might help a little, but being able to minimise the things we hope for goes a long way. By reducing the things we want and desire, we are free. By focusing more on what we need rather than what we want, we reach a state where we become "hopeless". By being "hopeless", we'd still be okay if what we hope for happens or not.

The world has its own rules , we can't control everything. Learning to be okay with whatever happens whether or not it suits us is a life skill we should all aspire to acquire. We should not be scared or embracing reality. We should embrace it with love and passion.

Thanks for reading.

Yours Layly,

THE FIRST PHASE MBBS EXAMINATIONS ARE COMING UP SOON SO LAYLA HAD BEEN PREPARING WITH BALL SHE HAS GOT, HENCE THE INCREASING INACTIVITY. I AM VERY GRATEFUL TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT. THANKS.

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