February: Where do broken heart goes?

Finally, the end of the first month has ended and we are welcoming the new month, February. February was one of the most awaited month because most of us are celebrating the Valentines Day. You are lucky if you are celebrating it with your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife or mutual friends.

We, Filipinos often called this month as "Feb-ibig" month. Maybe some of you are wishing that February 14 will be skipped from the calendar and directly headed to February 15. But let us celebrate it with joy as love is not just about having a relationship with your loved ones, but the generality of love.

The saddest part of valentines day is that there are people who will celebrate it alone with broken heart. I was once heard a story from my friend, a long time ago that when February 14 was about in the middle of the afternoon, his boyfriend broke up with her. The reason was he was not happy with her anymore and was seeing another girl. Poor her!

The main topic I will write about is where do broken heart goes? As for the same reason, although I'm not broken-hearted, but the fact that I'm single is quite similar. Just kidding! I'm happy living as a single and not interested yet to enter a relationship that I know will not work because of me. That's a tip for you.

"Do not enter a relationship when you are not ready for it will be the cause of the break up"

Places where broken people goes (Filipino version)

• Fast food restaurant - in Filipino way, when someone is broken hearted. They believed that food is the best remedy to ease the pain. We often went to food stalls or restaurant and eat something we liked to comfort ourselves. There was a famous advertisement in the Philippines produced by McDonald called "Tuloy Pa Rin". It was an ads where the girl continues her life from her heartbreak. The main goal of the ads is to let people know that "kung kaya niya, kaya ko".

• Beaches - this type of remedy was commonly way of rich people. Well, going out to beach with friends is quite pricey but very effective. You are reconnecting with the environment and feel the positivity of the nature. Well, personally I like this one because I will recover fast and stop using my social media accounts for awhile.

• Friend's house - this is definitely on the list because we Filipinos are so associated with our friends. Whether we are happy, sad, victorious or broken, we go to our friends house. I remember when one of my friends called in the middle of the night because he was outside of our house. I let him in and he burst in tears. Good Lord, it's still vividly clear how much in pain he was and cried for the whole night.

• Just at home - this kind of remedy is when someone has no budget or just prefer to heal at home with family. I think it's effective when you are open and can disclosed anything to your family. There are people who can't do that because they are aware of the fact that they will be scolded. Filipino way. Your mother or father will say like this "Ayan, nagmahal ka tapos iyak iyak ka ngayon, tigilan mo nga ako sa kaartehan mo!". Ouch, pain!

Remember, wherever you are going to chooose to heal. Always be accompanied by someone you trust the most. Why? It is because you need a support system from them. Any kind of support is accepted and valid. The most hardest part of moving forward is the pain that you cannot over with. The pain that binds and cuts your heart into piece. It peirces like a double-edged sword which affects your emotional and psychological health.

How to get over with broken heart (Based on psychologist)

• Find a support system - as I mentioned earlier finding a support system is crucial in getting rid of the pain. You can go to your trusted family member, friends, cousins or whoever it is and share what you feel and tell what happened. They can make you feel ease and its great that someone is listening to you. Tapping your back, offering their shoulders to lean on, and getting advices from them.

• Don't judge the length of your healing process - everyone has different ways of coping and not everyone has the same duration of healing process. Allow yourself to undergo in your own process and make every changes possible.

• Allow yourself to feel your feelings - it is important to know that you are hurt, you are in pain, and you need healing. Well, accepting the fact that you are broken will make it easy for you to move on. Cry if you feel crying, shout if you feel shouting, and punch if you feel punching.

• Cut off communication with your ex - oh Lord, please stop communicating with your ex while in the process of healing. You cannot heal if you still connecting with that person. The pain will increase and your love for that person will never be ceased.

• Take care of yourself - this is important while in the process because your health, finances, relationships and studies will be greatly affected when you stop working in them. Do not be drown in your emotions nor be consumed in your own feelings. Fighting!

Realizations

Heartbreak is part of loving a person. Without experiencing it, you will never learn. Exploring and discovering yourself during the battle of healing is crucial. Whatever reasons why you are heart-broken, remember that you are not lonely. There are people out there waiting for you and eagerly assisting you in all times.

Do not pressure yourself to enter in a relationship just because others told you so. Relationship is not a plaything. How wonderful would it be if you are in the right person.

Appreciation

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Reference

https://www.glamour.com/story/how-to-get-over-a-broken-heart

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Blog #6
2/1/22