“I have not felt this way before about anybody and I believe that what I feel for you is nothing but love, but I’m confused. I don’t know what to do”.
This could be you or me making this statement of confusion about love at any given time and yet we still feel as though love is all that matters. Love as we all know is a sweet and wonderful thing that happens between two or more people. I would want to focus more on the love that happens between two people because that is where we face the confusion the most. Mind you, this post is not intended to preach about love and its attributes because I believe that we all know and understand love even from our different perspectives. A lot of us have found ourselves in a sort of love I will describe as confusing love. This is not because they do not know what they want rather it is because they are yet to understand that love cannot be complete.
I was inspired to write this post after watching a movie series by one of the renowned producers, director, screenwriter and actor I enjoy watching his movies; Tyler Perry, the one and only Madea Character. I believe most of you must have watched it or are still not done watching the series. The movie series titled Sistas is a must-watch series for everyone who loves good movies with great storylines. The first time I saw the movie advert, I thought it was mainly for the ladies because of the name but when I watched the first episode I began to think differently. It is a story of four single ladies who are not getting it so easy with love because their individual love stories have twists at every corner but one thing is certain they all want to find genuine love. Although the story borders around these four single ladies, it also flows into the way and manner a man should treat a woman when it comes to love. This is highlighted although the story because I believe that the producer wanted to use this opportunity to pass a message across to both genders on what is necessary for love to endure.
I would not dwell so much on this movie but I will implore you to go and watch it for yourself especially if you are finding it so hard with love. The link for easy download is below. Watch it and thank me later.
Is there confusion in love?
Like I said before, I was inspired to write this post after watching a scene in episode 1 season 3 of this series (Time Stamp 38:33 – 40:24). This conversation was between Zak and Fatima. I will say that their love story is enveloped in the confusion that surrounds Zak from his supposed former relationship with Karen which I think both of them are still not over with. Although they love themselves, they are yet to understand that love is not enough for one to be in a relationship. This is what led me into writing this article. Most times we find ourselves I this situation. It is not because we do not love our partner enough rather it is because we have failed to understand that love is not in itself a complete whole. What do I mean by that? A lot of people have become so deceived by the things that happen around them and beyond when it comes to relationships that they developed the mentality that love must be complete for it to work.
In as much as we try to love as much as possible, we must understand that love can never come in a complete form. Let us look at this scenario where two persons have seen themselves and have fallen in love with each other intending to end up in marriage. Now, it will only take the two persons to understand that they are both imperfect as humans therefore, they may not be able to have all the qualities they want to see from each other for their relationship to end up in marriage. When this understanding is established, their relationship will witness better progress and certainly lead them to marriage. When I say “love in its complete form”, it is a phrase that tells us that you cannot have it all in love. That man or woman cannot have the qualities you want such as;
· Good body physique.
· Understanding.
· Caring.
· Loyal.
· Beautiful or Handsome.
· Rich/Wealthy.
· Tall.
· Honest.
· Loving and so many other attributes you would want to see in your partner.
The life we are living in is not complete on its own therefore if you are looking for that complete wholeness in love then you are not yet ready to fall in love. Let me ask you; why do we talk about perseverance, endurance and patience when it comes to issues of love? The worrisome challenge we are facing in our society today is that we have been made to believe that love must be complete or nothing. We have come to believe that our partner must be a perfect gentleman or woman, with a good job and every good thing life has to offer. Is that possible? Gone are the days when we loved from our heart when we allowed our hearts to make the choices of love for us but these days the reverse is the case. We have allowed our heart to be overshadowed and enveloped with material things which are not the important things when it comes to love and the things of the heart.
I have come with one message which is to tell us that we should look back to understand how we can turn love into what it is because we are already sending the wrong signal to the incoming generation. Love is not and cannot be complete and whole in itself. This is why we should not expect our partners to become an angel for us just because they profess love for us. The earlier we understand this very simple but hard fact, the better for all of us.
Don’t forget to go and watch the movie series “Sistas” because we all need to learn from it. The link below can be used to download the movie series Sistas.
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That's a wise advise. We should see beyond what we feel and try to be more realistic. Sometimes we are blinded by expectations that's why we end up getting disappointed and frustrated instead.