Knowing when to and when not to. . .

So many times I've watched people give up and I feel it's too early and have also watched people persist and I feel why so much. I'm not a saint myself as I've given up sometimes and persisted as well.

There are times when these attitudes become so annoying and other times it pays but the never give up attitude is not for all cases.

When chasing dreams, trying to make ends meet, trying to build something, I'll say never give up because this attitude alone can attract people to want to know what is really behind the project you are fighting so much for. But before embarking on a project as such, make sure you have a proposal and a blueprint so that you can have something to show for what you are really working for.

Giving up in such cases is not an option because perciverance is key to success, fighting to achieve a goal is key to achieving a said goal but still, there are cases where one should just let go. If you have tried it over and over again but it's still not working let go and change a pattern, do it in another way, employ other methods, ask questions, learn and try other means, that way you are not giving up completely. I remembered when I was applying to go to the university, I always wanted to study any course related to medicine but the more I try, admission wasn't coming through. So I changed and applied to study any course related to engineering and same year I was admitted to study mathematics.

Sometimes you are going to the wrong direction at the right time, instead try changing the route, you just might hit gold.

Another aspect that feels so embarrassing when one doesn't know when to and when not to especially to young males is the aspect of finding love. I've seen a guy being slapped before because he didn't know when not to. He was turned down severally but is still pushing hard, the girl got pissed and dished him a series of slaps. How embarrassing.

Sometimes too, we have been shown the green light severally but we fail to understand maybe due to our naivety or because we are shy or because we do not know when to, we end up in the friend zone and it takes only the strong willed to leave that zone.

To know when to and when not to is really important, so that we can be balanced in the scale of life. Let's learn to read and understand, know what we want and what we are involving ourselves. Ask questions where we do not understand and also know that what will be is definitely going to be.

When going for love, we should also understand that not all the people you want to be with will like to be with you, respect people's responses to your jokes and don't force yourself on anybody.