Good evening 🌞 friends. Hope your day went well today? Mine did actually. I woke up with this positivity in my mind. I guess that's what they call 'waking on the right side of the bed' lol. I went to school and things went well in a sum summary.

So yesterday I started an article which I titles friends that matters, Click here to read the first part, I going to complete that this morning.

Friends that matters 2

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No entitlements

Most people get upset and tend to see their supposed friends as stingy or lacking human compassion because they feel they are not giving them something (either monetary or otherwise), or they feel their friends are supposed to do this or that. But no! There is no entitlements in friendship. Infact, expecting your friend to do this or that for you just because you are friends will only lead to your disappoinment. Yes, your friends should help and rise for your help, they should have your back, they should ensure your absolute safety, but don't expect it! And that's why you should choose your friends carefully. If you have good friends, you won't need to ask or even expect. They will always be there for you. No matter the type of friends you have, if you don't learn to reciprocate their gestures or be there for them, then don't expect a thing. Even if you do all these, I'd still say don't expect anything because human will always be human.

Important

In choosing your friend, note the following;

Never choose a friend based on;

• What you will get from him/her. In nut shell, that is not making friends that's being selfish. You being insincere and a fraud. The end result is always bad and full of disgrace especially when you offend or hurt them.

• Affluence or influence. As good as choosing an influencial person as friend is, if that's your major reason of choosing him/her, then be prepared for pain. This is because you will want to keep yourself in the good book of such person, thereby hurting yourself and doing uncomfortable things. Then when you offend such, you can guess the result.

• Class and extravagant lifestyle.

• People's opinions and peer pressure. Like I said, choose your friends.

• Randomly. Don't just allow anybody become your friend. Study them, find out if you have anything in common, engage them in deep conversation and try to find out who they really are. If they suit or pass your criteria of making friends, then you are good to go.

Become a good friend today

As good as having a good friend is nothing beats becoming one yourself. So check the list below to see if you are doing all of some of the things written there to become a good friend

• Stand up for your friends.

• Defend their interest.

• Be supportive.

• Be their good adviser. Listen more and try to feel their pain and get their point then give your best advise.

• Watch out for them.

• Work for their growth and success. Friendship is not able talking or sharing secrets, it's also about becoming part of their success story.

• Neve ever leak your friend's secret. Never Ever!

• Surprise them with gifts and love.

• Give constructive criticism when you should.

• Never ever keep quiet or side them when they are doing the wrong thing. Reprove them but do it with Love.

• Do not convert what belongs to them. I mean what of a friend does that?

• Lastly, make them remember and serve their creator. True friends don't take people from God but rather they bring them to him.

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Before I finally lay my pen to rest for today know that the friends that matters most are: your God, your family and your lover😉

Whew! That's where I'm going o stop for tonight. I am really exhausted. I just had to post this tonight to make meet up with my goal of posting atleast an article everyday.

I hope you have taken a point or two from this article. God bless you and Don't forget to subscribe if you haven't. You can also be a sponsor 🙏 Thanks so much in advance.

That will be all for now. Bye👋