Do I no longer have the right?

Hey beautiful people ,whats up?

How are you my read cash fam?I hope you are doing great today ,its raining again here ,but its a blessings so I will not have any complain about it tho I was having my laundry now ,but I will finish it tomorrow coz its raining now.

Last night ,I was'nt able to slept well ,somethings bothering me ,I felt I am a bad daughter in law and felt guilty about it,I did'nt control my self and I was not telling it to my husband coz I don't want that it will be the reason for having them a gap.I don't have someone to talk here about it ,I don't want to tell it to my family coz I don't want them to be worried.So now I will share what happened to me and my mother in law yesterday.

Do I no longer have the right to disipline my child?

This is what I was thinking last night after our little argue with my mother in law.Yesterday we went to our neighbors house for our weekly religios activity which is the BEC or bible sharing.My son keep playing with some kids there and then suddenly the baby of our neighbor was crying .Natumba at tumama ang ulo sahig at nagkubol dahil natamaan ng kuya niya .The mother of that baby get angry and she spank her other kid yung nakatama sa bunso nila ,hindi siya sumali sa bible sharing namin ,ewan ko lang bakit hindi kasi katabi lang ng bahay nila kung saan kami nag bible sharing.

When we are about to finished our dinner ,I asked my son kung bakit umiyak yung bata kasi andun siya nakipaglaro .Sabi ng anak ko ,tinulak daw niya yung kuya ng batang natumba at natamaan ang baby .I asked him why he did that and he said dahil daw ayaw umalis yung kuya ng baby .I told him na mali ang ginawa niya ,dapat siya ang umalis kung hindi nakinig yung isang bata.Dali dali niya tinapos ang pagkain niya and ran to his grandmother ,I called him and said"we are not already done ,may sasabihin pa ako sayo".He ran to his grandmother and get inside at my mother in law's mini store which is beside our house.After I cleaned the table ,I followed him and told my mother in law what he did.Alam niyo ba anong sabi ni mama?She told me that "hayaan mo na yan ,pinagsabihan ko na" at bigla akong natahimik,and asking my self ,ha?di ba pwede ako yung kakusap sa kanya para ma disiplina siya?Kasi my agreement na kasi ng anak ko na everytime may magawa siyang mali ay may parusa siya and that is ,e uninstall ko yung game niya sa phone ko .Minsan din pinapalo ko pero I know how to control my self .And because of that nagkasagutan kami ni mama kasi ayaw niyang pagalitan anak ko.Gusto kung pagalitan yung anak ko kasi sa nangyari at yung pinapalo ng kapitbahay namin ay walang kasalanan .Gusto kong pagalitan para hindi na niya ulitin.I wanted to disipline my son in my own way ,kasi nakikita ko yung pagdisplina ni mama sa iba ng apo ,yung lumaki talaga sa kanya kasi minsan hindi siya nirerespito ,siya pa nga mismo nagsabi sa akin pano siya sinagot sagot ng mga apo niya at minsa pa nga dinabogan siya ng pinto .Kaya yan ang dahilan kaya gusto kung ako mismo ang magdisiplina sa anak ko.Feel ko talaga inalisan ako ng karapatan para e disiplina yung anak ko kasi hindi lang ngayon to nangyari ,ilang beses na.

Do I no longer have the right to stay with my family?

Humantong sa ganito yung pag uusap namin kahapon ,tungkol to sa pag uwi namin sa parents ko for 5days.She said ang dami daw naming dalang gamit ,eh isang bag lang naman yung tapos tatlo kaming mag bibihis and yung mga bata ay nakailang bihis yan in one day .Before kami umalis narinig ko sinabihan niya anak ko "wag kayong magtagal dun ,uwi kayo kaagad" at pinalagpas ko lang yun na parang hindi ko narinig .At kagabi nga dahil sa paguusap namin ,napag usapan yung pag uwi namin .Tinanong daw siya ng ate ng asawa ko ,bat daw kami umuwi kaya pala nag chat sa akin dahil may ipapagawa sa birthday ng pamangkin niya .Sinagot ko si mama na "minsan nga lang kaming umuwi at 5days lang naman yun ,yung mga anak ko nga ayaw pang umuwi ,umiyak nga tong panganay ko kasi ayaw pang umuwi dito" sabi niya "may sarili na kasi kayo ".Eh ano naman kung may sarili na kami diba?minsan lang naman yun kaya nga umuwi kami na pang gabi yung duty ng asawa ko para hindi mahirapan sa paghahanda ng pagkain .May asawa na daw akong dapat asikasuhin at sinagot ko talaga siya na kahit kailan hindi ko pinabayaan yan ,pag gising niyan handa na lahat ,kumain nalang yan at maligo.Ewan ko ba ,ganyan talaga siya pag umuwi kami .

Pagpasensyahan niyo dahil dito ko nailabas yung saloobin ko .Pero we are okay now ,kanina hindi ako pinapasin at hindi ko rin pinapansin hehe ,inantay ko lang kung papansin niya ako and may tinanong kasi siya sa akin at ayun okay na kami hehe.

Kayo ba ,how was your relationship with your in laws?

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