So a colleague of my at my work place came to work with a suprise that he is getting married,was I shocked? Hell yeah I was,I mean this dude is still at a stage where he should be planning on creating his own investment rather that putting all his hope on the company and getting married at such youthful age which might take a toil on him when kids start coming.am not against early marriage,if there is enough resource to Carter for your family and live comfortably then I see no reason why a youthful person should not get married.
So my friend who is planning on getting married is from the south west,to be precise he is "Yoruba" and it seems like a given for them to get married early just like the northern part of Nigeria as well,but when it comes to the "igbo tribe" nope,in Igbo land getting married is good but there are some financial status you must have attained before having the thought of getting married.
1)Igbo men love to be financially self sufficient
Igbo men just like men from every other tribe wants to be self sufficient financially,but they seems to take theirs to an extreme by working hard,serving their uncles,brothers e.t.c in order to get settlement money and business ideal to start up their own before starting a family.
2)igbo men do not enjoy their family paying their wife pride prize or sponsoring their wedding fully.
No Igbo man like the ideal of receiving assistance in paying their wife pride prize ,am sure someone would ask why is that? well the reason is because nobody is perfect and for that confrontation will likely arise between you and the person who sponsored the pride prize,so for that reason they prefer to hustle enough money to be able to at least pay for that first before involving any other person be it his family or friends for assistance if not having enough,no body wants to hear "I paid your wife pride prize or if not me would you have married,you that don't have money to pay for your wife pride prize"
3)igbo people take pride knowing they trained their kids in the university.
To tell you the truth no one else will tell you,igbo people are competitive even in a family of two boys not to talk about the extended family,they compete a lot, everybody want to be greater that the other, because in a family meeting or towns meeting he who has more money have already made a point,what ever he says goes,that is how they compete with others in making sure they train their kids so as to stand bold in the community.
4)no igbo man likes child begging
One thing Igbo men despise a lot is their children begging in the street,school or community,they see such act as if they have failed in parenting and become ashamed of themselves in their village or hometown gathering.because of such they would rather make their child to like work or go and serve someone just in order to avoid such.
The list is much but this is the few that I can come up with,thanks for reading.
Nice one, thanks for sharing