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Impacts of colonization in Africa: using Nigeria as a case study Talking about colonialism, it means when a particular territory take total control of another territory, regulating the affairs of another territory. Colonialism is a situation in which a particular set of group of people forcibly or impose obedience on another set of group. When a territory is strip of its freedom by another territory this is also known as colonialism. Also when an external body overthrown the government activities of a country forcing their belief, rules and customs on such country is said to be colonialism. The idea of colonialism is that it makes citizens look like strangers in their father’s land. Unknown cultures are brought and are forced on people this gives such people a new way of life. Colonization has its own positive and negative impact in Africa; let’s take a look at positive and negative impacts one after the other: Positive impacts; ▪Introduction of religion: the arrival of Christianity brought so many positive changes i.e. Christianity encourage equal right and elevate education. Also in the southern part of Nigeria where giving birth to twins is a taboo as a result of this, twins given birth in that region will be killed immediately, the oncome of Christianity preached against it and urge them to love and support each other. The European missionaries introduce Christianity to their subject and they are been brought out of darkness to light. ▪Improvement in technology and modernized way of life: improved technology was introduced by the colonial master, a lot of modernization was brought such as construction of good road, drinkable water, modern education, provision of social amenities, building of standard healthcare centre. ▪Enlargement of land: the advent of colonial rule brought about enlargement of land for villages and various towns. There was no Nigeria then because people were confined then they couldn’t move, this enlargement in land gives people freedom to settle in any part of the country after the colonial master has already named the country Nigeria. ▪Revealing of natural resources: natural resources were discovered by the colonial master due to the development they brought, people were given opportunities to work and fend for themselves and family even though the pay was minimal. ▪Introduction of foreign language: the adoption of English language introduced by the colonial master made communication easy and suitable as there are lots of tribes with different languages then. But the introduction of English language unites everyone and makes their communication effective. Negative impacts; ▪Lack of economic independent: till date Nigeria still depend on Britain for supply of so many things. The survival of Nigeria depends on the things we import from Britain. For example, textiles materials, various equipments and parts are imported also crude oil are exported to other countries to be refined there and are imported back to Nigeria. ▪Prone to diseases and virus: as the colonial masters brought so many diseases, especially sexually transmitted diseases they also contracted diseases from their subject such as malaria etc. ▪Separation, death and abandoning: during the era of colonial master, they caused separation between peoples, families so many of them could not withstand it, and so many flew looking for a greener pasture while some remain. The colonial master exercise supreme authority over the people, they tortured and exploit them, they make them to do hard work, this result to the death of so many of the colonies because of the hardship they were been subjected to. ▪Bastardization of property and culture: the colonial masters contribute to the bastardization of the beliefs, norms and culture of the people. The people lost some valuable aspect of their culture like mode of dressing. The colonial master took their property forcefully from them and exploits them greatly. Conclusion, it will be partial to say colonialism has been helpful all through and or not.

What praise can do: reason why you should praise God Have you heard this saying that when praises goes up; blessing come down. Yes, that is true! When you praise God he release his blessings on you tremendously. There are lots of benefits attach to praising God even more than what prayer can do; praising God gives you power over principalities, gives you edge over sickness, delay, stagnation, disappointment, retrogression, poverty,anxiety etc Let'shat will happen when you praise God; •Praise turn every negative situation around: when you praise God from the depth of your heart and when such praise is acceptable before God, he turn every negative verdict concerning your life to a testimony. •Praising God attracts blessings: when you praise God, you will definitely be a carrier of his blessings, the blessings attached to praising God can't be measured not quantified. •When you praise God, you'll be a carrier of his glory: praising God will make his glory radiate upon your life, the kind of glory that can't be hidden that's what you get when you praise God. •Praising God protects you from the prey of the enemy: God always protect his own from the enemies, when you align yourself with God through praise, he'll protect and fight your enemies. •When you praise God, you have dominion over all things: praising God gives you authority over every power beneath and above the earth. You have absolute control over every forces of the darkness. •When you praise God, he automatically supply all your needs, a heart of praise never lack, when you make your request known to God through praise he will supply all your needs. •You attract favour from God when you praise God: God automatically favour you when you praise him and you know if God favours you....... nothing can stop you again forever. •Praise can give you everlasting joy: your joy knows no bounds when you praise God continually, you'll always experience joy within you when you make it an habit to praise God. •Praising God makes you radiate: when you praise God, people around you will begin to wonder what makes you radiate...... praising God makes you shine. •You become a friend of God when you praise God: cultivating the act of praise makes you draw closer to God and by doing so, you become a friend of God. •Praising God opens your eyes to see things beyond what your ordinary eyes can see: praising God opens your supernatural eyes to see beyond what you can see presently. •You become a new creature when you praise God: old things have passed away, when you praise God you become a new creature, your way of life automatically changes. •When you praise God, you inherit his kingdom: God loves praise and he's looking for who will inherit his kingdom and only those that praise him qualifies for that position. •Praising God gives you inner peace: when you praise God regularly you will experience inner peace and tend not to worry about anything.

Giving to charity: reasons why you should give to charity Donating to any charity organization makes us feel great as well as others. Giving to charity can help save a life that can bless you in return in the future. There are lots of homeless people, starving, internally displaced adult and children finding it difficult to feed talk less of clothing themselves. While so many of us wake up to a beautiful home full of joy and happiness, so many others wake up to find food, shelter and fend for themselves. It’s actually a dishearten issue and it need to be taken serious by some who are privilege not to be in such situation. Giving to charity doesn’t necessarily mean during festive period only, it should be something we do regularly. There are so many ways you can give to charity aside cash gift; you can offer your quality time and also special services. Let’s look at the reason why you should give to charity; ▪Your valuable talent is needed: if you are good at organizing, planning, cooking and lots more, you can make your services available to any of the charity organization. If your talent is singing or entertaining you can visit any desired charity organization and make yourself available by doing so you are putting a smile on someone’s face unknowingly. ▪Your giving to charity can pave way for you: not only financially but on every side of life, when you give , you get multiple blessings in return, givers never lack anything good instead they keep incurring more blessings as they give to the less privilege. ▪Your giving will help you in the long run: when you give you are not only helping the less privilege but you are also helping yourself , giving will make you feel happy and when you are always happy your life is already fulfilled. When you make others happy you will also be happy and it’s the best gift one can ever desire. ▪ Your giving will teach people around you to be generous especially your children: when you give to charity people around you are watching and it’s a good way to teach them and your children how to be generous. Make sure anytime you are going to any charity home take them along and let them relate with the less privilege by doing so you are building them to be responsible and also to be generous. ▪Giving motivates you: when you give you are being motivated to move forward in life. People who give are always happy to do more, it is also a fulfilling act to give to any charity organization. ▪When you give, you make a difference in the world: when you make a difference in the world you live, you make a difference in someone’s life, you are definitely leaving behind a heritage and also a respect. ▪Your quality time is acceptable when giving: charity donation doesn’t necessarily mean giving money, giving to charity also require your quality time. Though so many charity organisation need money to function but most of the charity home also need individual volunteers as well. Volunteering your time is a great way to help the less privilege as well.

There is life and death in your tongue: use it wisely Proverb 18:21 says death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. You can either use your tongue to speak life or death, you can either use your tongue to encourage and build others or use it to kill them, the choice is yours but always use your tongue wisely. Words are powerful and they don’t go away easily especially the hurting ones we say to other. You can say a word of affirmation to your friend, siblings or spouse they will surely appreciate it and forget in the long-run but immediately you switch to the hurting word; they hurt, sting, remain and define. We all tend to forget a word of kindness said to us but the hurting and damaging ones remain and stick to our brain. The powers of word that influence us show our weakness. Whether we take it serious or not the tongue hold great power and we were taught in the bible about it and the proper way to use it. Do you know your tongue reflect your mind; a stinging and hostile word comes from a stinging and hostile mind. Do you also know you will give account for every word that comes out of your mouth? Yes you will; that piercing words you say to your friends and colleagues, those filthy remarks about people around you and that hostile word you said to someone you met briefly instead of you to use your tongue to encourage and influence them towards heaven you are pushing them to the other side. Words are jars; they have in them the ability to lead, direct, teach, bring joy and peace, bring love and care. They are also jars that can kill, destroy, reduce, mislead, demolish. So therefore, the jars that proceed from your mouth have the power to lift and encourage a life and also have the power to demolish it. Most time, we forgot how careless we can be when it comes to our choice of words the power words that encourage us or bring us down. Words have repercussion; the words we speak can either make or mar us, they can either build us up or bring us down, words have repercussion in this life, there is no any other rationale rather than to watch what comes out of your mouth as God is watching and listening. Therefore speak in love, listen more, be slow to speak, speak the truth always and use healthy words. What kind of words do you speak to your life? Your tongue can encourage or forbid God’s blessing over your life. When you are lost in the challenges of life never speak ill or negative words to yourself because these words are self-fulfilling prediction. Stop delaying your greatness with negative words, whatever you speak to your life, you will reap it. Always remember your tongue is the most powerful organ in your body- whatever you say can either give you life or death, however you can provoke God’s blessing by speaking life to that situation or you can use the same tongue to affirm negativity over your life. Speaking life simply means you are affirming the result that God has already promise and given to you i.e. those greatness and success you desire in life. If you desire changes in any area of your life guess what your tongue is the best option to use to bring that desired outcome. Look for words in the bible that speaks to that issue or issues you are facing, read and meditate on it and say it loud everyday so as to be part of your daily routine and surely you will see the outcome.

Amazing health benefits of garlic you won’t believe Garlic is the best way to take edge of the many health benefits. Garlic is proven to be an efficient natural remedy in the obstruction and shortening of diseases like the common cold, garlic aids digestion and strongly fighting diseases. The sulphur present in garlic that have been plainly limked with potential health benefits. There are numerous of compounds and micronutrients in garlic that fight infections, regulate blood pressure and fight bad cholesterol. Here are the health benefits of garlic: ▪Good for your heart: garlic is good for your heart in various ways unknown to you. It acts as a blood thinner, reducing the ability of blood clotting , eating garlic has been shown to have the spirit to lower blood pressure especially people living with high blood pressure. It has been proven scientifically that eating garlic regularly lower blood cholesterol also eating garlic can help to hinder the growth of atherosclerosis, a state of the difficulty in the arteries that can result to heart disease or stroke. ▪Improvement in your bone health: expert has shown a straight correlation between tobacco use and decreased bone density. Increasing your garlic intake may shed some of the injury done to your skeleton resulting from chronic exposure to cigarette intake. The oil extract from garlic have a certain role in bone health. Also other vitamins helped with bone mineral density. ▪ It help boosts brain health: garlic helps keep your nervous system healthy, which is connected to how deteriorating diseases impact the brain and body, including neurodegenerative malfunctions such as Alzheimer’s disease and Parkinson’s disease. ▪Help lower cancer risk: garlic is brimful of antioxidants that fight free radicals in the system that is responsible for the growth of cancer. Garlic natural antioxidants properties have been shown to reduce nitrosamine and help prevent these mechanisms that can result to cancer. ▪Boost immune system: garlic and its supplements can give you a healthy immune system and help to fight any illness; the compound found in garlic, has been shown to stimulate diversity of immunomodulatory activities in the production of cells that support a group of white blood cell. ▪Anti-bacterial and anti-parasite agent: garlic is one of the best stow medicinal. Garlic serves as an antibiotic to combat bacterial, fungal and parasitic infections. Garlic extract help children with tapeworm infections. Just a little based mouth-washed is enough to ward off cavity caused by bacteria. ▪For skin and hair treatment: the vitality properties of garlic protect the skin from the cause of free radicals and decelerate the removal of collagen which results to destruction of adaptability in aging skin. Garlic performs magic to skin infected with fungal infections and help soothes skin diseases like eczema, athlete foot, ringworm. Rubbing grinded garlic on your hair is known to prevent and even reverse hair loss. ▪ Anti-microbial: garlic has been known to help fight infectious diseases. Such as salmonella, E. coli, staphylococcus aureus, clostridium and mycobacterium etc. Allicin the antibacterial compound in garlic revamp the capacity of bacteria to recreate them from spreading. You can prevent E.coli in your cooking is by using raw garlic as a rub for all meats, cabbage, salad, lettuce etc- the powerful and strong antibiotic properties in garlic will kill those germs. ▪Help strengthen life expectancy: as life expectancy is persistently transforming; it is difficult to say if garlic increase body’s longevity. However, the certainty garlic pose by eradicating free radicals, slowing the degradation disease, fighting all cancerous cell and lowering blood pressure all these assist to life longevity in humans. ▪Help promote weight loss: allicin diminish insulin, triglyceride etc. Garlic has lower the cluster in insulin and helped with the metabolism of sugars. Garlic help reduce weight gain or help to regularize sugar level.

Temperament and character-know your strengths and weaknesses Temperament is our inborn trait. Your nature and the effect it has on the way you think and behave. We think differently, we behave differently, we feel differently depending on our personality type. All lot of research has been carried out to measure differences between people and the different between the kind of people we have, some people are extrovert while some are introvert. Extrovert respond to things that goes on around them while introvert respond to things that goes on inside them. There are four types of temperament: we have, the sanguine, choleric, melancholy and phlegmatic. Choleric is a goal oriented person. sanguine is a happy goal person,always exited, sociable, friendly. Melancholy is a super introvert, highly gifted and artistic, creative, idealistic. Phlegmatic is a calm easy going person. Each of this temperament has strength and weakness. When you are able to identify and overcome your weaknesses, you are on your way to maturity. The major way of turning your weakness to strength means you are on your way to maturity. Now lets talk about the strengths and weaknesses of each one of them; ▪The Choleric: is a goal oriented person, an achiever, they are self-disciplined, if they set a standard for themselves they usually achieve it within a short period of time. Also, they are tenacious and persistent, never give up easily, they are practical, they are pragmatic in their thinking , they are decisive, they deal with facts and get frustrated with too much details. They are born leaders because they are adventurous, self confidence, they are risk taker. This a very rich and powerful temperament. -Weaknesses: the major challenge of a choleric is hostility, infact sometimes wicked , they can keep malice with a person. They don’t mind hurting people sometimes when they are not happy, thay can be insensitive, they are not usually moved with tears. When a choleric is not happy with you they can make life miserable for you, violent anger, they are usually not afraid of anybody, they are very blunt when they talk, they can use their tongue to hurt if they are angry, strongly opinionated, they tend to be argumentative, they can be controlling, they can be crafty and manipulative. ▪The Sanguine: they have awesome strength, very sociable, friendly- they make friends easily. Fantastic story-tellers, they are wonderful public speaker and marketers. They respond to people’s emotion easily, they are tender hearted, very compassionate, they are usually optimistic about life and are very usually enthusiastic. They are fun-loving; they like to enjoy life at the present to the fullest . -weaknesses: lack of discipline, they have pride-ego, they can be inconsistent, fear of disapproval, sometimes they exaggerate. ▪The Melancholy: psychologist says this is the richest of all the temperaments. Very very high IQ. A good chunk of the geniuses of the world today are melancholy, idealistic, perfectionist, creative they are usually artist, musicians, inventors. They are very analytical, very reliable, loyal to friends, they are self sacrificing. -weaknesses: they can be negative, they always have mood swings, they tend worry a lot, they are inflexible, ▪The phlegmatic: calm, easy-going, no trouble, they don’t like confrontation, very dependable, they have the capacity to manage details, very efficient, highly organised, good planners. They usually very humorous and very diplomatic because they don’t like quarrelling. They are a lot very good under pressure, -weaknesses- lack of ambition and lack of drive, low on risk taking, calculating about like and very stubborn in a diplomatic way, they can also be selfish. Conclusion, your temperament has a lot to do with the way you think and behave. When you work on your weaknesses you will see yourself achieving awesome things.

Achieving great self-esteem: steps to positive thinking A true image of human is portrayed without a doubt and pertaining to personal mindset (i.e., based on self-awareness). As you see yourself in a mirror, that’s how the mind in its unbiased state draw an inherent image of you. However, the indifference of your mind stimulates a conception that shows an interesting detail of self-esteem as intention of your attitude. Self-esteem is how admirable or important you portray yourself. That is, the range you show powerful feeling of certainty in your strength to accomplish awesome things in life. Achieving a great self esteem is a decision that demands a very big dedication and effort. When trying to build your self-esteem you must remember to Love and Appreciate yourself. But also note that keeping up a healthy self esteem important. Therefore keeping up with this is a yardstick of what you conquer in life, your progress and what you allure. Let’s take a look at the steps to achieving a great self-esteem; ▪Positive mindset: this allows you to overcome difficulties and issues of life. Some people are backward when it comes negative thoughts about their journey in life. But what if you could crush the strong hold and accept difficulties as a stepping stone to your greatness. Positively, sure you can. Anything you train your mind to see is what you get. If you train your mind to see the best in any situation that’s what will happen, though the process might be slow but you’ll certainly get there. Building a positive mindset, you have let go of negative thoughts, develop a strong feeling of certainty, substitute I can’t with I can or I’m not able to I’m able. ▪Overcoming failure: every human being fail, yes all of us do, the way you assimilate or validate the failure determines your greatness in life. Take for example you put all your money into a business and at the end no returns, you won’t be happy, will you? The fear of failure sometimes stop us from taking action. And if an action is not taken in life it mean one’s life will be retarded. Remember if you don’t fail, you won’t acquire knowledge. So how do you process failure, do you give up or you feel embarrassed about it. Every successful people failed but they all arise and try over and over again till they reach their goal. Never get scared of failure is a stepping stone to greater path. ▪Overcoming Insecurity: in one way or the other we’ve all felt not too good about our looks, intelligence, career, things you wish you do better or probably the way you are living your life. Virtually everyone feel insecure from time to time even to the most extrovert person. Just that some fight affliction of mental distress than others. If you want to overcome insecurity apartment from assertion and self praise make it a habit to put your mind into things that makes you happy. When you feel insecure is as a result of low self esteem. The antidote to killing insecurities is constant working on yourself. Know your strengths and value. Remember yourself whoever you love is the most luck person on earth planet. Consider yourself highly valuable. Trust more often. Never compare yourself with anyone. ▪Attract like-minded individual to your life: when you do this, collectively you can focus on achieving your dreams. Negative people will tell you that you can’t go far in life that your dreams are unachievable but positive people will support and motivate you. Look for people to move with who give off positive vibes. In attracting likeminded people to your life you have to determine with precision who you want to attract, know the kind of person you need to be in order to attract them. Value yourself and plant your feet in a place you can meet like-minded people. Conclusion, never compare yourself to others if you want to achieve a greater self-esteem. Always be ok with what you have and stop looking at what others have.

Racism and racial bullying : the dangers and solutions In the past few years, racism has been discussed by scholars. The question by them is what really establishes racism. So many observations were made as to what bring about racism. So many anti-racism campaigners debated about how to overturn it. What is racism? This is a belief system; the belief that one race or ethnic group is superior or inferior to another race or group of races. Funny enough expert hasn’t discovered a single facts that human being belong to a certain race. Any individual that looks down on another person as a racist need to be taken to psychiatric centre. Looking at the meaning of racist it’s someone who forcefully prevents another person from their freedom. There are two types of racism; we have direct and indirect. Direct racism means when a person maltreat you than another person when in similar condition simply because of your colour or ethnic origin while indirect racism means when a law treat everyone in the same manner but has an unjust cause on more people base on their colour or ethnic origin. Discrimination this day; unfortunately, racism remains in our modern society as well. Let’s take for an example; black joblessness has increase more than white joblessness for years now. Reality wise it means partiality chip in to the black-white joblessness gap. Let’s look at the dangers of racism; ▪Social apartheid or segregation: this means a gap from a social gathering. Segregation can be in form of residential segregation, geographical segregation etc. segregation can take place within schools, workplaces and health care facilities. School segregation for example can come as a racial differences in registration of a professional course versus less professional courses between the white and black. Racial segregation can also happen at immigration situation. ▪Health inequalities: some scholars few years ago say there are connections between health and societal inequality which they later find out that this is related to racism. Conclusion was made then that racism affects health inequalities. Let’s talk about the solution of racism; ▪Extol other cultures: stigmatization is brutal and is a hindrance, so arise for cultural differences in your local area by encouraging local enterprise run by immigrants in your country. Try various cuisines from various range of culinary culture. See movies from other regions or countries. ▪Never indulge in prejudice and hate speech: in America and Europe recently there has been a rise in hate speech blaming people living in their country from another region and minority groups for the unpleasant situations of their own countries. Speaks up for immigrants in your country, if something is posted on social media that shows prejudice, leave a remark to let them know intolerant speech is unkind and not palatable to hear. ▪Teach the young generation kindness: irrational hostile attitude and detest can be curb among young ones, as children learn such behaviour from adult living around them and also from friends, books they read and also social media. Fighting negativity begins at an early stage. Let them know we are all human and equal before God. ▪Lend your voice for harassed people around you, fight for them if it’s safe for you to do it: if you see someone or group of people been physically abused or verbally abuse, try and help them if it’s safe for you. Bullies power dies when people united to help the immigrants. Verbal and physical attack is not right and should not be accepted. These people deserve to be treated well. Don’t except the solution to be easy give it time and we all will be free from the dread that causes racism. Conclusion, let’s all work hand in hand to address the issues related to racism so that the world will be a better place for us all.

Powerful health benefits of neem leaf- a natural medicine combating various diseases Neem tree is widely known as cure all tree. It’s part of ayurvedic medicine. Every part of neem leaf tree is use to treat various infections, you can extract neem powder, neem oil, neem extract and neem leaf from the tree itself and all these works magically to treat various illness, which ranges from viral infections, intestine problem, blood purification and malaria etc. It also serve as anti-diabetic, anti-fungal, anti-inflammatory, anti-bacteria and anti-fertility all these and many more are what the healing neem leaf can do. Neem health benefits are so numerous starting from helping to prevent a lots of disorders which include; nervous, digestive, respiratory, circulatory issues, boost immune system, gastric conditions, leprosy, it treat asthma, piles etc; it also help to improve our overall health. Neem is also use to treat various skin infections such as dry skin, eczema, psoriasis, vitiligo, skin ulcers, skin allergies and rashes, acne and so many more. These are few health benefits out of the widely known; ▪Neem control diabetes: neem helps to regulate increase in high blood pressure due to its blood sugar properties present in the leaves as a result of this it help to improve metabolism mechanism. ▪Neem control worms in the body: the azadirachtin present in neem leaves helps fight the risk of parasitic worms. Neem helps to remove worms from the body and also reduce the activities of worm parasites. These properties in neem prevent worms growth in our system. ▪Neem help in fighting malaria: some certain properties present in neem have anti-malaria components. Neem helps to control malaria by crushing the growth of the parasites in the body. ▪Neem fights eye infection: neem helps to get rid of eye infections such as; irritation and redness etc a meaningful use of it will fight off the infections. ▪Neem purifies the blood: this wonderful healing tree detoxifies the blood by letting go of all the dangerous toxins that made the liver and kidney not to function well. When toxins increase in the body it made some organs to perform below expectations. ▪Improve digestion: neem helps with stomach discomfort, its anti-inflammatory properties soothes stomach infections and prevent intestine problem. ▪Neem boost immunity: taking a certain quantity of neem fight against all kinds of various diseases in the body and boost immunity in your system. ▪Neem solve tooth ache problem: the antibacterial and antifungal in neem helps prevent any tooth issues. It prevents the gum from infections. Using neem for your teeth help kills cavity bacteria and gives you a fresh breath. Also, neem can reduce the activity of streptococci in the teeth. ▪Neem keep cancer away: one of its awesome medicinal benefits of neem is it keeps one away from cancer. When one smoke or drink alcohol regularly you are prone to increase in cancerous cell. Therefore, consuming neem regularly control the number of cancerous cell in the body. ▪Neem gives you healthy bone: regular use of neem gives you a healthy bone and a strong joint. The anti-inflammatory properties in neem eliminate discomfort and ache. ▪Neem is use to fight skin diseases: the antifungal and antibacterial properties in neem can be used to clear any skin diseases. Any extract gotten from neem can be use to fight any skin disease. ▪Help cure psoriasis: neem can help this reddish and scaly skin disorder, the property action in neem help restrain the moving faster of production of skin cells in people with psoriasis. ▪Neem kills dandruff: neem leaf is just the right solution to fight dandruff, when you apply neem leaf to your hair it kills the bacterial fungus malassezia associates with dandruff. Neem leaf totally it and put an end to the itchy scalp. Conclusion, every single part of neem tree is medicinal and cures so many diseases/infections in our body system.

Surprising healing benefits of turmeric- facts and results Many cultures ranges from Middle East to South Asia have held turmeric extremely in high esteem. Turmeric has a lot of healing properties. Surprisingly turmeric is known with great health supplement and booster for immune system. Amongst other properties of turmeric, curcumin is the most important compound in turmeric. Curcumin acts as a powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant. Turmeric can take a form of powder, oil and tea etc. Let’s look at the healing properties of turmeric; ▪Turmeric behandle depression and brain diseases: turmeric is said to benefits the brain by improving memory and even fighting a series of deteriorative brain diseases. Certain growth hormones help to push neurological development. So diseases like depression and alzheimer’s are often associated with unusually low levels of this hormone. Surprisingly, it shows that turmeric and the brain can have a real conversation through a rise in the production of this hormones. ▪Turmeric for weight loss: this vigorous spice is used to deal with obesity and associated metabolic physical malfunction. Turmeric role as an antioxidant and anti-inflammatory means it can help to restrain high blood sugar, cholesterol and insulin resistance, giving your body a better opportunity of fighting increase in weight gain. ▪Support your joints: the curcumin property found in turmeric can also help protect your joint from worn out. Not only that it comfort symptoms of arthritis like joint physical motion and stiffness. ▪Prevention of cancer: incorporating turmeric in your daily diet help the body to ward off cancer formation. It helps with a variety of cancers, reducing the spread through the body and also the growth of tumor. Expert says turmeric truly work to avoid cancer and keep it from getting worse. To get a better result start consuming more turmeric by including it in your diet. ▪Fight inflammatory diseases: turmeric fight all inflammatory diseases with no side effect whatsoever, inflammatory disease like uveities, multiple sclerosis, ulcerative colitis and many more. ▪Relief stomach pain: one of the well known benefit of turmeric is it serve as an efficient treatment of stomach pain. Because of its anti-inflammatory property, it will help stomach acid from getting bewield; it helps with indigestion, also relief heartburn. Always make sure you take the right amount, do not overuse it. ▪Headache treatment: turmeric is said to be a good treatment for headache. Turmeric works best on headache brought by stress and tension, take a meaningful quantity of turmeric as long as you don’t overdo it. ▪Help support cardiovascular system: consuming a certain amount of turmeric promotes health in the blood vessels. Malfunction of blood result into inability to from blood clot and this can lead to increase in blood pressure. Turmeric works on blood vessels thereby decreasing high blood pressure and gives you a healthy heart. ▪I t enhances respiratory health: turmeric antioxidant properties help reduce cell damage from infection, it combats many infections and viruses that want to threaten your respiratory health. Turmeric relieve shortness of breath, it fight cough and phlegm. ▪Good for your skin: turmeric’s anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant works wonder on the skin, it cures various skin issues such as acne, pimple eczema, psoriasis, scabies and lots more. When it’s frequently used, it will clear up skin issues, thereby giving you a glowing skin. ▪Aid in healing of wound faster: the anti-inflammatory in turmeric help fight the wound bacteria, help clot the blood and reduces mark and before you know it the wound will dry up. ▪ Aid in treating menstrual problem: are you suffering from cramping, menstrual pain, bloating etc. you might want to try turmeric. The anti-inflammatory properties relieve any sort of or signs of menstruation issues. Conclusion, turmeric serve as a complement to our health, it’s being held in high esteem because it cures a quite number of diseases.

How to write an effective email: tips to writing ridiculously good email Virtually all of us send and receive emails on daily basis, but how sure are you that your recipients are opening and reading your emails? Both small and large business owners now use emails as a means of communication. Its quick, doesn’t consume time and easy compare to using any other means to get through to your clients. Note some important ingredients before you send out your next emails. ▪Simple, clear, concise and descriptive subject line: don’t ever allow your subject line looks like spam mail. Don’t overuse grammar and make sure your punctuation is on point. Your email should be easily summarize and if there’s any attachment that need to be clicked on, mention in your email. When you think about how many emails people receive daily, you will then know that when sending out an email you will always make sure your recipients knows what you email is all about. ▪Organize your ideas and thought: always take your time to brood on what to write on, make sure you clear your head anytime you want to write an email and do away from any disturbance. Let you points and ideas are in a logical manner. ▪Proper greeting of recipient: never begin your email without a proper greeting, if you don’t know your recipient name begin your message by hi, hello greetings etc if you know the name of your recipient address them by using a title follow by their name e.g Dear Mr Jones Rose. If you’re not sure of the gender the option is to use only their last name and first name e.g Dear Jones Rose. ▪Make the body text precise: text with more than three paragraphs, the chances that someone will read it all is minimal. Keep rambling to minimum and be straight forward. Expert say an average office staff receive over 100 emails per day. So over tow paragraph emails is likely what won’t interest them. If there’s a website or link you are directing your recipients to, make sure you it’s easily accessible to them. Remember to always convert your text into a link. It makes things easier for them. ▪Don’t write a fable: it’s not a bad idea to have a lot of things to write in your email, but it doesn’t benefit you to force it all in a single email. Split your message into smaller topic-based email if it’s too complicated and lengthy. ▪Always include subheadings and bullet: yes, I have received an email that was one better than usual long block text. I had to read it multiple times before I could understand the message the sender is trying to pass across. By introduce a clear subheadings you’re improving the legibility by breaking your message into sections. ▪Make it an habit to always check your spelling: always run a spell check every single time you send out an email because your recipients can be more knowledgeable than you do. It won’t take anything away from you if you take your time to proofread before sending your email to make sure you’re being clear and brief. Furthermore, don’t abbreviate by using ‘u’ for ‘you’. ▪Always include signature in your email: if you are sending email either for business or personal purpose, you should always include your signature. It shouldn’t be something decorative, your signature include name, phone number, business name, address etc. don’t let your recipient search everywhere before they can contact you. Conclusion, following the aforementioned tips will make your recipients extremely happy when they receive your email.

The healing benefits of honey hidden to you :- sweeten your life with undiluted honey Honey is one of those numerous naturally occurring gifts of nature that comes with lots of benefit than we don't know. Do you know honey is considered to be very healthy and nutritious to the body? Honey is rich in minerals and vitamins, enzymes, antioxidants, flavonoids and lots more. It’s used to combat various illnesses; fight cough, sore throat, heal wound, remove dead skin cell. Let’s look at the various benefits; ▪Quick healing of wounds: honey comprises of anti-inflammatory action which reduce swelling of wounds. Also, it contains anti-microbial activity that clears any form infections on the skin. Furthermore, honey kills germ on the body. ▪Good for the teeth: honey guide against tooth decay. It contains enzyme property that generates hydrogen peroxide which fights any infected gum diseases. It brings about reduction in the amount of acid produced by bacteria in the mouth which is responsible for tooth decay. ▪Immune system builder: honey build strong immune system and fight off colds, flu, diseases and a strong host of other health challenges. It also contains an immune-boosting, probiotic bacterium to keep us hale and hearty. ▪It contain anti-aging properties: honey is extremely nourishing because of probiotics, enzymes, nutrient and antioxidants, it helps drop all at once and bewater your skin and prevent free-radical damage. It provides a soothing effect which does not irritate the skin. ▪A good option for diabetics: honey doesn’t raise your blood sugar, so it prevents you from diabetes. However it shouldn’t be consumed too much because of its carb content. ▪Honey reduces risk of heart disease: the antioxidants properties in it can lower your blood pressure, it improves your cholesterol levels and your heart will later appreciate you for it. ▪Energy building: honey contain a meaningful amount of carbohydrate, it gives 15-17 grams of carbs when you consume a tablespoon. Honey helps to improve your exercise performance and even sustain your strength during and exercise. Honey gives strength you can never think of, so taking a meaningful quantity won’t harm you during your workout. ▪Contain anti-inflammatory properties: if you are always experiencing pains in your joint, low energy and indigestion regularly, then all these are signs of chronic inflammation. Interestingly, honey is very nutritious in antioxidants which fights and prevents you from any form of inflammation. ▪Honey aids in weight loss: truthfully, honey contains sugar. However when compared with refined sugar, honey contain beneficial minerals and vitamins. Since there’s no benefit in consuming sugar because you tend to gain weight because it contain calories and absence of vitamins and minerals unlike honey which when consumed in limit quantity it help in weight loss. ▪Honey gives lots of nutrients: over 20 minerals are in honey such as magnesium, phosphorus and potassium. Honey has been said to have over 500 volatile compounds which contribute to its biomedical results. ▪Antibacterial and anti-fungal: honey is well known in the killing of fungus and bacterial because of its anti-inflammatory properties. Honey helps in the treatment of any malfunctions which include bacterial gastroenteritis and any stomach related issues. Taking a meaningful quantity will give you a better result. ▪Heals the skin naturally: it’s anti-bacteria properties helps prevent the skin from rashes, burns, scars, pimples, eczema, acnes, the anti-inflammatory properties reduces the redness and swollen that comes with acnes. Honey can also be use as a facial scrub in order to remove dirt and dry skin cell. ▪Help prevent insomnia: a full teaspoon of honey before bedtime helps you have a sound sleep. The presence of melatonin in honey which is a great immune booster and builder of body tissues is generated in huge amount when consumed right before bedtime. Conclusion, honey should be incorporated in your diet regularly.

My Life My Journey Growing up was a bit awesome and difficult for me, I grew up with my grandmother in a rural area. No electricity,no pipe-borne water,no good road....all the children in the village usually go to the river immediately after the sun set......we had to trek from one village to the other to get a drinkable stream water. Grandma happens to be a devoted Christian who always pray for me to scale through in life. I started schooling very late when my mate in the city have collected their first school leaving certificate I was in primary 1 in a government school, but I was determined that age won't stop me from getting to the top. I was very bright always topping the class even though it's a local school. Immediately after school every day, all the children in my neighborhood always go to the farm before going to the river. Life was sweet and difficult at the same time,sweet in a way that I always have plenty food to eat but difficult because I had to work and work in the farm in order to get the farm produce to eat. No time to go and greet my friends after school because i have to be with my grandma 24/7. Combining school with farm work is a bit tedious, I don't usually read but God bless me with retentive memory always assimilate whatever our teachers taught us. Fast forward to writing my entrance exam into secondary school....I came out as the overall student in my village as a result of this I was given a scholarship by the king, everyone was happy for me, it was a day of joy. The school is close to my grandma house, so I always have time to finish my chores even before the assembly time. Day 1 at school, everyone was new so we barely talk to each other. The principal addressed all the new student and directed us to our class. Being a student in that school was fun as I later made new friends and we all help ourselves to attain greater height. I was so popular in the school because I was the senior prefect girl and everyone including the teacher like having me around them. Time to round up with our senior secondary class and write qualification exam to the university. I was a bit scared because the subjects are much and I don't usually have time to read. The principal urged us to do our best in order to pass all our exams at once. On this faithful day, I was coming back from the farm when I met one of our teacher at home with grandma. She broke the news to me that I passedthe senior class and the university qualification exams and not only that I was the overall best student in our state. I was shocked a village girl becoming the overall best student. This caught the interest of the state governor and I was given another scholarship to study any course of my choice in the university. Wao, I've always wanted to be an engineer but I gave up the dream because I have no one to sponsor my education. The governor requested for my presence with my grandma, we were given a lot of gifts..... Grandma was so proud of me, she keep praising and eulogizing me in my local dialect. I was happy and fulfilled. Life in the university was great, I had to leave grandma in the village and go to the city to school, God's favor was all over me as I keep attracting great people to myself, I was still the best student in my class, all my lecturers like me a lot because I was the only female in my class. I came out of the university as a first-class student and I was given a scholarship by my school to go and study abroad for my masters. Conclusion, life is sweet when you make God the pioneer of your life.

How to write a first-class article that sell - Tips to writing a killer article Please note that opinion writing is very intellectual task, as it needs analytical thinking, unique ideas and debate skills. Writing an article is more difficult than what you may have written for schools, personal social media posts or for blogs. To write a first-class article, you need to keep it precise, simple and short . By keeping it short we recommend a word length between 300-700 words. If you are writing more than this, I’ll suggest you break it into smaller articles. The quality of an article is usually defined by its motif, the language used and by the easiness in reading an article. Let’s look at each element in detail; ▪A catchy topic always attracts audience. Choose something unique to write about, which gives you a chance to express your opinion or reflect your unique knowledge. Select a topic that you are best suited to write through your personal background and experience. Choose a topic that will add value to the lives of the readers. So if a topic is interesting and one has paid attention to it, he or she is sure to look it through. ▪Configured information is usually better for understanding. It is more suitable to read smaller paragraphs than larger ones with complicated sentences. Article writing features into 3 sections: introduction, body and conclusion. Always make sure these are well structured. ▪An article should have a sub-heading. In this way the information is usually understood in a better way. Also, sub-heading add visibility or attractiveness to any article, even if there are some boring elements in it. Make sure your article is easy to read. Use short sentences and simple words. Remember we have an international reader-base including all age-groups. ▪A good article should be up to date. Reading the information one should constantly relate it to modern world or to the current situation. There are many cases when a person spends too much time on writing that the issue becomes too old to discuss. Always make sure your information is accurate. Avoid abstract subjects or vague insights. Your point should be clear, crisp and authoritative. ▪No grammar and spelling mistakes are allowed in quality articles because in versa case one shows that he/she is an amateur and does not deserve any attention. Grammatical error is a turn off to readers. ▪Each article should make people oppose. Article critique is the best tool in understanding that the point discussed in the article under analysis are significant and raise human interest. Readers are fond of commenting and criticizing the data they read. ▪Quality writing should be necessary to readers. Coming across an article one needs to understand that the information there can be used either in personal or public needs. ▪Any article should be unique. It means that one cannot copy any information from outside. Despite the fact that the title may be similar to other articles online, a good article will have some unique idea or will be presented from an unexpected angle. ▪A good article should have a list. Bullet points are one of the best ways to deliver the necessary information to the reader in a simple and structured matter. ▪A good closing paragraph or conclusion is necessary and is often short. While researching and writing your article, focus on what you are trying to say and say it clearly and fully. Don’t introduce new topic in your conclusion. If you’ve done your job well, there should be little left to say when you reach your conclusion. Keep it short and simple.

How to use grammarly to improve grammatical accuracy Lately, so many error detected software or an extension has flooded the internet for checking grammar errors, plagiarism, proofreading and spelling. But the most accurate online grammar checker is known grammarly. Grammarly is a big time grammar corrector. What is grammarly? Grammarly is an error check grammatical software. Basically, grammarly helps in preventing one from making grammatical mistakes, check for plagiarism, wrong spelling and usage of words. Grammarly makes sure that everything you write is error free and simple. One of the importance of grammarly is ‘it put forth an error free assistance’. Also, grammarly is stylistic, category-specific writing styles checks. So if you are not using grammarly as a writer you are really missing out. Grammarly has a free and premium version, but to experience an advance features, I’ll suggest the premium version.Therefore, every successful freelance writer needs a grammarly tool. Let’s take a look at how to use grammarly to improve vocabulary accuracy; Every writer dream of having an error free work and this is nearly impossible, even the genius among the professional writers made a handful mistakes in their work. Grammarly detected inconsistencies in writing and gives a total amount of accuracy. Grammarly provide long term solution, it does not only correct your errors, you learn how to avoid errors and be more accurate in your writing. Grammarly has a lot of vocabulary improvement features which check your writing and suggest more powerful words to put in use to avoid repetition. For accuracy in your writing, grammarly sometimes throw out unwanted suggestions and provide another suitable words to use. Grammarly helps you to identify your mistakes and turn any error grammatical writing into an error free writing. Grammarly goes beyond spell-check, it can improve your writing fluency, lexical and vocabulary. It uses large number of grammar rule to check works, it detect any wrong usage of words and indicate correct words and phrases. Grammarly enhances your vocabulary by detecting overused words and frequent use of passive voice and by offering a powerful word or phrase that will catch your readers attention. Also, it can improve your vocabulary by pinpointing contextual problems and suggesting better and suitable words when your content lack direction. So besides correcting mistakes in the documents you are working on, the tool also improve your writing skills. It also allows the use of synonyms. These vocabulary improvement suggestions are to improve the reading experience of the audience. The interesting part when using grammarly is you will know when you make a mistake in your writing and there are auto correction features that will improve your vocabulary accuracy. The tool gives guides when an error is detected in sentences and proffer solutions that make writing more accurate. How does it work? Grammarly immediately get into action as you are writing, it catches a certain grammatical errors and suggest meaningful solution to improve twisted sentences, incorrect vocabulary words and improper usage of punctuation. Also, grammarly does not only solve simple grammar work, it helps to improve pre-existing, grammatically-correct your writing. For example, if grammarly notices a long sentence that could be more summarized into a simpler form, it will suggest you replace them in order to make your work brief. When there is need for conciseness, it can make writing more effective and accurate. Conclusion, grammarly can improve your writing and make it more effective and accurate.

Through foxes that destroy relationships and marriages pt2. ......... continuation.......... No Breathing Space Attitude Even the most fun loving people, need alone time sometimes,maybe not as frequently as quiet people but they do crave silence and "me time" sometimes. Everyone needs some alone time,no matter how long you have been together. Just give your partner some space to breathe. Feeling choked in a relationship can harm the relationship. Try not to become a "handbag" all the time. We all need to take a minute to ourselves now and then. By having breathing space away from your partner you are able to focus on your own needs and give yourself that much needed time to accomplish whatever you need,no interruptions! Giving each other this alone time allows you to spend the day however you choose, from a day at the spa or a relaxing walk on the beach, put your need first. A relationship shouldn't consume me nor should I be so needy as to want all of my partner's time. There's life outside of every relationship and it ought to be lived and enjoyed. Yes, room to breathe,space and alone time are necessary. I don't know what I would do or how I would show up in my marriage if there wasn't time just for me. In my opinion,smothering ,questioning our spouse's and every move and not allowing him/her to go anywhere without us, just isn't healthy. It's stressful to both partner's and display a level of distrust. In the long run,it causes regrets and resentment,which both lead to more serious relationship issues. The Drama King Or Queen Attitude Some couple exist only for drama, they create drama everywhere they go. When a partner whom you may have corrected in the past to always drop dirty clothes in the laundry basket, and for some reason they forget to do so continuously,don't cause a scene or count how many times in one week they keep repeating this habit. Couples rarely have the say character, while one person is calm, the other may be hot in character. We talk a lot about "drama" when it comes to relationships and how to avoid it. Drama in this case, unnecessary or manufactured conflict. We all realize how much drama can sabotage an otherwise healthy relationship and why it's so important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries in order to drama-proof our lives. But we rarely ever stop to think we might be the ones causing drama. It's an easy thing to overlook. We tend to see drama as being something other people do. Men especially tend to see themselves as drama-free zones; even among otherwise egalitarian and feminist men, there's a tendency to equate "drama" with women. But drama is gender agnostic;men are just as prone to creating unnecessary conflict as women. Let's Sweep It Under The Rug Attitude Many people have things that they may not be able to tolerate or find irritating, this majorly deals with partner's habit that you do not like, so instead of sweeping it under the rug, bring it up and iron it out. If not attended to, it will build up gradually into a big issue. Small things matter. There are countless reasons why couple can have conflicts throughout their marriage. Interestingly, most of these don't really start as big or serious. Small issues "swept under the rug" can mount and grate on your nerves until your both ready to explode. Avoiding your marital problems can only be a temporary strategy. Sooner or later, these issues need to be resolved, if a meaningful peace is hoped for. If you can't seem to resolve them with stirring deep-seated negative emotions, don't force it. Seek a sensible solution with the help of a professional counselor. Some couple believe that "why should I risk starting an argument when things aren't too bad?". In fact, this does make a lot of sense. Even if things aren't great it's true that they could be made worse. So, without the communication skills to address issues effectively . It is understandable why so many people resort to sweeping things under the rug. The problem with this strategy is that the short term gains are outweighed by the long term damage to the relationship. When relationship issues aren't addressed they don't usually go away or get better on their own. Instead you are left with a feeling of discontent that is often felt (but rarely understood) by other person. The effect over time is a feeling of distance that grows between you and the other person. Over many years as multiple issues compound the distance can cripple and eventually destroy the shared bond you used to enjoy. The End

Tehila-agony of a bastard child Tehila!Tehila!!Tehila!!!.......my grandma called shaking and sweating profusely. The sleep hurriedly disappear from my face, I watch my grandma gasping for air as she hold my hands and muttered a word of prayer saying "helpers will locate you in the race of life". That was her last word has she gave up the ghost. Growing up with grandma has been a source of joy since I lost my mother at birth and my father's identify was unknown since she was raped by a gang of thugs.I gracefully embrace everything she thought me since I'm the only grandchild she had. Life hasn't been a bed of rose for both of us. I started hawking at the age of 5 so as to fend for me and grandma as she was of age. The little income we made was mainly for feeding and shelter, thank goodness no need to pay for house rent since we've been staying in an uncompleted building through out our journey, anytime the owner of the building come and send us packing we move to the next uncompleted building. That has been our life for 10years. Grandma has been seriously ill and no money to take her to the hospital for treatment, her health status started deteriorating when she couldn't eat by herself again then I knew there's fire on the mountain. But on this faithful day, she woke up hale and hearty and told me to go and hawk as usual that by the time I come back she would have prepared something delicious for me. With joy in my heart I gladly dashed out thinking grandma is back on her feet. On getting home in the evening, I met her sleeping and as a good grandchild I tipped toe to where she kept my food and I devoured a delicious bowl of rice. I was exhausted so I slept off beside her.......that was when she called out my name 3times, blessed me and she gave up. I begin to imagine how unlucky I am,no parents,no grandparents,no siblings,no friends. Life became meaningless to me as I have no one left. I cried out loud,no comfort from anywhere. I decided to run away leaving grandma corpse in an uncompleted building where we stay . Stepping out of the building with my clothes folded in a black nylon, I saw a middle age man, stepping out of a nice car, he looked at me and say young girl what are you doing here? I was about to take off and run when his security guards grab me and dragged me to his car, I was speechless all I could do was to weep. The man asked again, young girl why are you here?.... I couldn't summon courage to talk I only pointed at the building, he said yes that's my building, what are you doing here?.... I keep pointing at the building, he then told his guards to go and check the building, immediately one of them shouted she has murdered an old woman. This is just the beginning............

The sweet love that made my life miserable The sweet love that made my life miserable...... My name is Tacha and this is my story…….. I woke up on a Sunday morning feeling weak,tired and empty. I asked myself what held me down in this relationship. After 7years, I still can’t differentiate between love,lust and infatuation. 7years ago I met Jones in a shopping mall, he’s gorgeous,neat and down to earth………Hi, my name is Jones Brown stretching forth his hand, he swept me off the floor with his cute smile, I replied I’m Tacha……That was the beginning………Jones was the CEO in jorach tech ltd,..he has everything a young man could dream of,he’s living large. I work in a bank and as a banker I always think I have what it takes to make a man be mine forever.Few weeks later,I was so busy with the workload on my desk that I couldn’t recognize a masculine stature in front of me. A sonorous voice called out my name Tacha, I wasn’t expecting anyone who could that be raising up my head standing right before me is Jones….I quickly adjust my jacket and hair,…..He smiled and complimented my looks I was about to say thanks, he quickly said get your bag I’m taking you for a lunch as he dashed out…… I hurriedly get my bag and followed him.The atmosphere was tense as he drove down to le’suite restaurant , everyone seems to recognise him and greeted him politely. I asked him why he was given preferential treatment, he arrogantly answered by saying he's wealthy and everyone like to associate with a wealthy man. I gulped down a glass of water placed on the table…….The menu list was handed to us by the waiter and I ordered my favourite as he ordered for something light, we ate in silence as I was not too comfortable with his arrogance. After 30minutes he drove me back to work, and politely I thanked him for the lunch,….he hurriedly grab me and place a peck on my right cheek. He lustfully look at me and said I’ll give you a call. I was lost in thought thinking about the peck and the look on his face when I receive a message from him“You smell good I’ll like to know you more”. What does he really want, that was the question I asked myself. A month later on a Saturday morning, I was in the bathroom when my phone rang, Hey you, I quickly recognize the caller to be Jones, he said I’ll like to take you out for dinner, dress in something light and elegant 7:00pm, he ended the call before I could say anything. I had to rush to a boutique to get a nice dress just to please him. At exactly 6:55pm, he was already knocking at my door, I was speechless looking at this wonderful creature, I quickly muttered you look great, he replied I get a lot of that, he looked at me ,held my waist and led me to his car………We had a wonderful night as he fumbled with my hand and tell me I love you and I’d like to date you,he doesn’t talk much but his look said it all. I was speechless and he muttered a word into my ear my place or your place….. He quickly get up and led me to his car and drove straight to his house, I kept my calm knowing he won’t hurt me in anyway, getting to his house everywhere was clean and tidy……He hurriedly rush towards me and planted a kiss on my lips being a weaker vessel, I couldn’t resist we ended up making love that evening. On waking up the following morning, I saw a note by the bed side saying ”my dear Tacha you’re the sweetest of all” see yourself out I’ve gone for a board meeting. Every weekend I find myself in Jones house with countless time of love making rampage, I was always too weak to turn down his advances as he shower me with love and gifts. All my thought was since we spent our weekends together then he really love and care for me. Jones was so smart and calculating that I never suspect he’s married with 3 kids. On a faithful Monday morning,I was on my way to the office when I receive a text message from an unknown number to stop dating her husband. I was confused because I’ve never dated a married man before, I ignored the text , two days later, I got the same text I was furious and I pick up my phone to call the number….. At the first dial a lady pick it up and call out my name and politely tell me I’m not the only side chicks, he has lots of them, I was about to ask who are you when she said I’m Rachael Brown, Jones wife….I was speechless as I manage to lean on my table, I feel wasted,used,it was as if my world has collapse. Seven years of relationship with a married man and I never suspected he's married with kids. The End

The foxes that destroy relationships and marriages pt 1 Staying in a relationship and marriage is a decision that you make for some reasons. Love is a choice we make, we need to know that no one is perfect, so in a relationship you "choose to love irrespective of faults and also choose to stay if you feel or believe you can tolerate the faults". Sometimes people ask me what are the reasons or things that break relationships/marriages. Truth is a bitter pill to swallow, but it has to be said not to criticize the negative aspects only but to open our consciousness to actions and attitudes that expose us to not only heartbreak, but destroying the things we love and those we love. There are so many reasons relationships fall apart, quite a number of people, even myself at a time, attributed breaks in relationships and marriages to Money,Pride,Lying and Cheating, of course this is true but in my experience, I had an opportunity to share,listen and learn with close study of some "irrelevant" reasons that led to separation, divorce,lack of romance and loss of interest in relationships and marriages. The word irrelevance is relative because, what may seem relevant to one person may be irrelevant to another. Basically what I am trying to bring out in the open here is "small things count. Quite a number of bad behaviors or attitude which we over look, lead to a steady or sometimes fast decline in a relationship. Romance isn't a bed of roses or set of pearl earrings you get on your anniversary only, it takes HARD WORK and conscious efforts to make things work. This article will help you point out some of the many things and habits that will destroy your relationship and marriage. More importantly, i'll provide you with some realistic tips and long-term solutions on how to avoid and finally overcome them. The "Monitoring Spirit or FBI" attitude Trust is a major requirement in any relationship, when two people want to make it work, trust is key, commitment is key, loyalty is key. Do you have confidence in your partner? Are you afraid to even leave their side for one minute? Any time their phone rings you jump and you are anxious to see the caller I.d. Some people come in with call records, saying that it can't be innocent when a partner calls a "friend" seven times in a week. Some people fear that a significant other is cheating on them and comb through their partner's email, looking for something that they can use as evidence of infidelity. This behavior can ramp up in the aftermath of an indiscretion, whether an outright affair or a discovered flirtation. People think that even if they forgive their partner for cheating, they reserve the right to look through their partner's phone forever after. This checking behavior can persist for weeks,months, even years after the partner's unfaithfulness and has nothing to do with anything that the partner is currently doing. As you can imagine, most people do not take too kindly to having their partner pore through their phone,reading all of their texts and emails and try to find proof of their misbehavior. Infact, some relationships end when a person find out that a partner was looking through their phone, precisely because they feel so violated. Phones nowadays are the repository for all of a persons private thoughts and feelings as expressed in texts to friends and family and knowing that a partner has been keeping you under constant, secret surveillance can be destabilizing and upsetting. Solution: have confidence in your partner and respect their privacy. Don't Snoop through texts,emails or bedroom drawers. No good comes out of this and innocent detail can be misinterpreted. Comparing your spouse attitude to your ex For those that can't seem to get over their ex. Remember the reasons they became your ex,let them stay as ex. Stop saying how clean your ex is, or how organized your ex is, or how intelligent your ex was. If they were that good,you would have been with your ex and not your present partner. Stop comparing your husband,wife, partner to your ex, it will lead to conflict,insecurity,hurt and eventually ruin your relationship or marriage if you are not careful. Constant criticizing your partner is a quick way to kill any loving feelings. Replace blame and criticism with love and understanding. Everyone has their breaking point when it comes to criticism, so it shouldn't surprise you if your spouse responds by leaving. "Being harsh or judgemental can cause a marriage to fail. Criticism takes a toll and your partner can start to feel like he or she is never enough". Wishful thinking and unnecessary comparison can ruin a marriage or relationship, especially when we tend to compare our marriage situation with others. For instance, you begin to compare and say "I wish my wife is prettier". "I wish my wife is not a nagger"."I wish my wife is a good cook" . These wishful thinking and comparisons are so unfortunate to hear. Little by little, such habit could poison the relationship. Then you begin to compare your spouse with your officemate or neighbor unconsciously. The only remedy to this problem is acceptance and learn to appreciate her. Stop doing stupid things like comparing your spouse with others. Remember that a "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other. Remember that your spouse is a precious gift that God has given you and always be thankful for her. It's not an easy journey, but it's a profitable one and I urge you to remain humble, patient and loving partner. Solution: move on first of all, then set ext that make sense. Your past is your past. Please walk away as comparison will only destroy things and make your partner hate you. They may also never get over the comparison so please stop. To be continued...