Marites: Loose Tongues Judge Individuals

The world is vast, and so are the gossips that travel fast in various places.

There is a risk in gossip. To judge someone based on anything they see or hear from some other person is nothing more than loose tongues that love telling gossips. It's not a pathetic life experience; rather, it's an exchange of ideas about someone else, which is most of the time opinionated and biased.

Many people talk about others behind their backs because they believe their lives are better than those of others.

When someone is gossiping, they are trying to make the listeners feel that they are superior than the person they are talking about. Furthermore, it is insecurity that motivates people to act in such a sneaky manner. Morally wrong and devious are only some of the adjectives that come to mind when you think about it.

Moreover, even if your words aren't malicious, it's still bad to spread rumors about other people. Even excluding someone from a conversation might be unpleasant if you're talking about them behind their back. It's made much worse by the verbal abuse.

It's okay to bring up current events as long as you don't bring anybody else up in the conversation or say anything that degrades someone. You don't have to say a gossip to speak about other people. Celebrities, for example, get a great deal of attention. When you attack someone, talk negatively about them, or attempt to modify someone's perception of them, it is destructive and evolves into nasty gossip.

There is a sort of negative consequences that may result from gossiping, not the least of which is the ability to inflict harm to others. This is a kind of bullying. So when you speak, question yourself whether you would be accustomed to making the same point at the front of the individual you are addressing.

It's important to remember that: those who like dragging others down with their gossip have an overinflated ego. When this is someone they despise for selfish purposes, they are doing this out of a feeling of insecurity. More than any other, this says a lot about them as a whole, not just about you.

Even your closest friends wouldn't trust a word they say about you. They wouldn't trust a word of it from those who are on your side.

However, know exactly where you stand to those people who used to be your pals but believe the rumors about you without a moments of thinking whether it is true or not.  As a result of this, you can no longer call these folks your friends since they were influenced by the talk about you rather than believing the facts about you.

What are the things to do then?

Great minds talk about ideas. It's both terrible and hilarious to know that there are individuals out there that like spreading rumors and making others feel bad. They are, in my opinion, less well-educated and more interested in the flimsy aspects of life. And the only way you'll be able to handle them is to just ignore them.

Go with your own instinct. People will be there for you if you do the correct thing. You don't have to prove yourself to everyone, particularly if you've already received your own approval.

Feed them with kindness. To feed them with kindness is one strategy. Your words may make them feel ashamed or confused, which may lead to their abandoning their efforts to defame you. Even if they don't, you'll establish a reputation as a polite person and no longer feel guilty about approaching them on a personal level.

Final Thoughts:

To sum it all, nothing good comes from gossip, which is a source of evil. Even if what you're saying is accurate, it's best to keep your words to yourself. Making people feel bad about themselves is harmful. It inflicts pain and might lead to a rift in society.

It's better to be a person who encourages people than to be someone who revels in others' downfalls.

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