@Bilqees
Do it without complaining Sometimes, I am tempted to believe that having to complain is probably the easiest thing that anyone could do, reason why most people engage in it always. Little wonder why people who complain too much hardly have anything remarkable about them as they always appear ordinary and predictable in the general view. Psychologically speaking, people who complain too much are unaware that they do it excessively even though it's quite glaring to the people around them. Be that as it may, having to" complain" is an inherent trait since we are humans with feelings and not robots. People do have the undeniable right to complain about decisions, actions and other things they consider unfair. Nevertheless, it is easy to identify genuine complains when the intentions of the individual are pure and unselfish. Especially in situations where the individual is trying to point out a fault, neglect, or an hidden agenda that had been oblivious.
On the other hand,Chronic complainers would always want to criticize everything for the most inconsequential reasons especially when they feel victimized even though when that's not the case. An habitual complainer after complaining about a person or thing, would definitely complain about another and yet another..... thus making almost everyone sick and tired of them. No doubt, things tend to get worse and irritable after each grumble.
This habit makes one appears mindless, as they always want to exonerate themselves from every fault while passing the guilt and responsibilities on others, even when they are expected to perform a role.
Rather than always complaining about your job, relationship, conditions, country or government, one should atleast channel the energy into a working solution or atleast come up with a plan. And if you don't believe things might change for the better, you could always walk away and try out something else with someone or somewhere else. Nobody would stop you ! Complaining often could makes one develop a great dislike for others and even hate himself too. To such a person, Easy task would always appear difficult as this kills the confidence and can-do spirit in an individual. When we allow ourselves to become blinded by such a negative habit, we will fail to see the opportunity that could be salvage and utilised in every situation, no matter how hopeless or terrible it may seem. Somewhere in the rubble, there would always be a glow no matter how little, that we can always kindle to provide the warmth that we desire. And even if we later realize that there is nothing that could be done about the situation, always bear in mind that life is not always a bed of roses. There would definitely be ups and downs as we journey through. But regardless, instead of complaining bitterly, we should always find solace in the fact that no what terrible condition we are facing, someone else somewhere had already passed through worse and came out triumphant. No matter how enormous the obstacle might look, there would always be a way around it. There would always be light at the end of the tunnel. "***Smart people complain less and do more".*** ****************************** Thanks for reading. 💖💖
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Just enjoy what we are doing rather than complaining
It should be a crime, people who come to just complain, like us, contaminate the peace of others with our complaints, even harmful to us.
That's true dear mafer, such people could spread bad energy
If I can't do anything to solve shit, I don't see any sense in complaining. If you can't solve it forget it. If you can them fix it.
That's true Doc. Why worry about it if you can fix it. And if you can't fix it, just let it go
The question; "why complaining if you know there's no solution or why complaining when you could easily fix the issue?"... That's the question that I put at front any time I want to Lament over a situation. There shouldn't be any reason for complaining and murmuring when the issue is solvable, go for the solution. There's no need for complaining when you know that the issue is not solvable, just leave it and live on. I once had a roommate in school that complains over the money his brother sends for him for upkeeps and I usually tell him that he doesn't know that there are people Fending for themselves.
Thank you Kingsley, that's something very important I fail to mention. When we always manifest gratefulness, we wont have the time complain
Bilquees, you're right, I hope I start putting this into practice, because of a truth, I complain alot about things. I complain about this, I complain about that. Things that we've faced in life, no matter how great or small. Some people have passed through that and even worse but never succumbed to complains
Lol. Dear Ella, it's ok to complain or be uncomfortable sometimes, as a matter of fact, believe me when I say I complain more than you.. the issue there is when one fails to do anything about their source of complain rather than keep talking about it
Oh! Wow! Yes Bilquees, you're right. Doing something to alter the circumstances behind their complain. Now I see the picture. You're right Bilquees.
Dear Bilqees, I totally agree with you, people who are constantly complaining, and have a chronic moaning problem, are ruining our nerves. And the longer it goes on, the harder and harder it becomes to bear them.
Yea. And it's wise never to indulge them and they will get tired
Complaining is just like making excuse even when you make mistakes and not admitting your wrong. This is a problem that could hinder one's growth. The day I realize my complaint cannot undo what was done already, instead to channel into finding solutions. We shouldn't be complaining but to look for a way out.
Exactly. Women with strong character do not succumb to complains!
People who complain a lot, like flies, cause constant annoyance and always try to appear as the victim.. ah a headache
Lol. That's exactly how they could be. They tend to blackmail others emotionally too.. how did the cadavers section go. I remember the first day I visited the disection room, seeing those bodies made me cry . The supervisor was really angry and threaten to send us out. .. I and some other ladies just had to regain my composure 😁
Complaining doesn't solve anything, but sometimes we can't do much on some things but complain about it... At least the complaint might be a start to some serious change. Doesn't mean anyone should always play the victim card with complains either way.
That's true, we definitely would feel hurt by one thing or the other, but it's blore important for us to do something about it rather than grumbling.
Yes exactly, taking action not just blab about it and make no move to actually change anything.
The Wise complains little, because no matter how much the complains we give, it will never solve the problem. Instead of complaining, we should think on how we could find solution to any challenge we might be passing through.
That's always the best approach. Too much Complaining dampens the spirit and makes us reluctant to solve our issues
I adore you B for this. And complaining definitely makes us energy-suckers lol! And I read from a wise man before that we should always try to see the good in everything and appreciate them.
That's true sis. When we allow our minds to always look fo me the good in every situation. We would definitely be able to maintain our calm and poise.... Thanks alot!
You are very welcome B :) Enjoy your day!
I used to complain a lot for I am worrier. However, it drains my energy and those around me so better see the better side of things instead. Put our energy to good use.
Sure, energy put towards good use would always yield favorable results
There are situations in which complaining is good, like when you want to point out to a person that you're not having a fair share of a deal, but sometimes people abuse it and complain over any little thing, it can be very annoying