Never be under pressure to reveal your srcrets

well first, I think some people don't know that some important things about them should be kept as a secret. Although, what is considered as a secret might vary from individual to individual. A lot of folks out there are free with everyone they meet out there, and they never hesitate to talk tell almost everyone about their lives, relationship, careers, plans, fears and regrets.

I had this particular coursemate who revealed to me how much she hated her dad because she had witness several times how he had physically abused her mom and blatanlty cheated on her.

I really felt sorry for her anyway, but I saw no reason while she should be revealing such personal family issues freely to an outsider. It was not as if we were that close, maybe she saw me as someone she could trust and of course I appreciated that. But what made me more surprised and angry is when I discovered that she had also told other girls about it and I thought how unwise she was. Anything could happen tomorrow were she might have a problem with any of these girls . Her deadbeat father could be mentioned in the quarrel and then she would get the embarrassment of her life. By the way, women are naturally gossipy in nature and what you reveal about yourself today might be used against you even in your absence.

Now why would she tell anybody that sensitive aspect of her life? Is not as if the person can do anything to reverse what has already happened, neither will he or she start feeling the misery and agony that she has been passing through all this while. Its still her own cross and you would continue to bear it alone. Others care less.

Ofcourse, I know that some people have beautiful hearts and are very free with other people that they have known for sometime and even people they had just met. But it is also important for one to know that there are quite alot of wolves in sheep clothing out there who pretend as if they care. As soon as they have got you to reveal too many details about yourself, you would be wrapped round their fingers for good and be manipulated at will.

After getting to know their hypocritical nature, you become very timid around them and it would be too late to cut ties with such people since they already know too much about you. It means you would be at their mercy for a long time and wouldn't be able to confront him/her whenever they do something wrong to you else they would blackmail you and tell others about your secrets.

I have seen this happen several times. As soon as a person gets to know quite alot about what has happened in your life, he or she will no longer value and respect you as before. people tend to honor and love the person who doesn't talk much. Since they cant read you like the majority, you become sort of an unravelled mystery to them and believe me, this rare quality makes you a magnet of attraction to others.

Even when you are in a relationship, it is not advisable to tell the other person everything about you. Telling him/her about your exes or your weakness and insecurity would indirectly expose your vulnerability to them, and just maybe you wouldn't be as interesting to that person again after you have shared all your secrets with them. Unless Ofcourse, if the both of you are planning to get married, then there wouldn't be any more secrets between you both.

Never be eager to keep a conversation going by revealing too much to a person or friend about yourself. Just to past time, You could always talk about other stuffs even though they are boring topics for discussion. Always keep the discussion on an impersonal plane. Never try to impress people with excessive words else you might end up accomplishing the opposite." Its better to keep my mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and clear all doubts"

Thank you all so much for taking your time to read and I wish you all a beautiful week ahead 💗

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