Loneliness does not kill

Well, I have heard alot about loneliness being a terrible state of mind and it can adversely take a toll on an individual till he/she slips into depression where the worst could probably happen.

Everyone could suffer from being lonely irrespective of their financial or relationship status. Contrary to popular belief, one might think that the reason for their loneliness is due to the absence of material possessions or the lack of connection to others. In a deeper light, these reasons and more are entirely valid.

Time will come and go and you will have that dream job with a nice pay check. You would have also become a married person and probably a parent. But despite all these, you might still be battling with an incurable loneliness that seem to defy all remedies. Infact everyone in the world could be respectful, nice and accomdating towards you and you could still feel loneliness.

We have all heard stories of popular figures,who shocked thousands of their admirers when they confessed that they battle loneliness every other day. We all know one or two entertainment icons that slid into dangerous depression that cost them their lives. These were people we thought have everything going well for them .

So, Loneliness actually comes from not being able to define a passionate path that would light up your life again, irrespective of your past successes or your friendship with others, be it casual or serious

It's a flawed mindset to think that the reason of your loneliness is due to your inadequacies. You might think you don't have the face, the height, the money, the art or talent to make people attracted to you. Instead of wallowing in sef pity, one should use one's solitude as a source of strength because the solution of your loneliness is within you already.

Rapidly develop yourself in those periods and aspire to greater heights. Afterall, eagles fly alone. They don't fly together with other birds and that's why they are on top of the food chain. Soon enough, you'd be way above on the ladder that you soon forget about all those people you thought would have made you complete.

Your new power and position would lead you in meeting and making new friends and colleagues in thesame class that you are now. You would come to meet alot of important people that would need your help. Thank God for the internet, there are alot of fun things to do or learn which will not only shed loneliness but also bring you some level of financial freedom.

But It's quite unfortunate that alot of people tend to binge in their loneliness. Either on food(carbs and junks), screens and even on a terrible addiction just to past the time. Sometimes loneliness bring out the bad side of an individual. There's a saying: "An idle person is the devil's workshop". if not checked, one can delve into more destructive vices.

" The lonely one stretches his hands too quickly to anyone who's available".

Your Loneliness might not be due to the absence of a romantic relationship in your life. This is a very common belief which is only half true. One might feel desperately lonely especially when others around them already have a mate. And in an unreasonable and careless quest to change one relationship status, one might end up with a partner that they are not compatible with . what ever happens in the near future would lead to a worse feeling which might make you crave for your single but peaceful days.

Personally, during the school breaks, I sleep away my loneliness. Sleeping away the feelings is alot better than harboring unhealthy and unnecessary thoughts about one's life and the world in general. I don't mind sleeping three times a day when am alone, Lol. By the way, I'm not a movie or social media freak and most young adults in my neighborhood are not the kind I would consider a useful friendship with. I rather stick with old friends because I struggle so much to make new friends offline.

I might be wrong though, it could be that I have social anxiety. I am probably afraid that they might hurt me or I might inadvertently hurt them later on in the friendship.Too much familiarty breeds contempt you know. Solitude can also serve as a shield in this treacherous world. What people don't know or can't reach, they can't destroy.

Even though it may seem that I am lonely sometimes, I am never alone . Thank God for this online community. Regardless of the pay, I always have a fulfilled and glad day whenever I engage my time here. Sharing your thoughts and learning new things from good people who would make you grow in mind every day is really a beautiful experience that is capable of driving every shadow of loneliness.

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Thank you for staying with me ♥️