Chronic borrowers

I got to realize this was actually an addiction when I became a student in the University, living on campus. We all know that there are alot of different personalities and characters one would encounter in a higher institution .

There are some individuals that when you see them coming or hear where their name is being mentioned, the first thing that comes to your mind is their terrible borrowing habit. Even when you get a call from such as person, you might instinctively assume that they want something and your guess would turn out right.

Most times, it's not as if they can't afford the needed item, but they find it more conveniently to take from others than to get their own,even if the item were very cheap. These items could be very common everyday stuffs like match sticks, seasoning cubes, buckets, laundry irons, perfume and even washing soaps.

What is more irksome is when such a person fail to return your stuff after they are done with it . You'd be forced to go back to their apartment and get your stuff back when it's time for you to use it again. This is quite a terrible attitude that might make you regret lending your stuff to such a person.

Sometimes, they might end up spoiling your stuff as a result of neglect or misuse. He or she might not even apologize for the inconveniences caused. And when you decide to bar such a person from using your things in the future as a result of their unpleasant behavior, You'd become an enemy and he/she might even slander or spread false hood about you.

I am not saying that we should close our doors to those in need of any form of assistance . From my observation, people who are always quick to ask for or use other people's stuff seem to be quite defective in self discipline and such people are never satisfied.

This is because I know of alot of young individuals from very humble backgrounds who have very little but do their best to manage the little they have for as long as they possibly can. It all boils down to self discipline and determination. And when such persons eventually comes to you for help for the first time, you'd know that they really needed it as the situation has now gone beyond their control. Infact, you'd feel honored helping such people. You wouldn't even mind to repeat the gesture some other time .

I for one find it difficult in asking some one else who is not a parent or a sibling of mine for a financial assistance. I'm not saying that I have never seek help or a favor from someone else before. That'd be a bogus lie and absolutely no one would believe me . But I know the kind of persons I would ask for an assistance.

Such a person would definitely be someone who I have assisted in their time of needs also. A close friend . And even if he or she couldn't help me out, I will definitely not feel bad about them neither would I regret asking for their help because I already know that if they were in a position to help, they wouldn't hesitate to help me too. I wouldn't hesitate to use that their stuff too when the need arises

I have a friend who was a compulsive borrower. There was absolutely nothing she wouldn't ask to be given to her, no matter how affordable it was in a nearby store. Ofcourse she likes getting familiar with people, and as soon as she have succeeded in making you her friend, she'd start using and misusing your stuffs even though the friendship was not even up to a week old.

It also turns out that she was a spendthrift who found it difficult to economize the modest monthly allowance that her parents sent her. She'd borrow money from everyone around and wouldn't want to pay no matter how much pressure her creditors put on her. whenever you ask her to pay up, she will always reply that she had "bigger debts" to pay and when she's done offsetting such debts, she would see what she could do about yours. She'd end up frustrating you till you forget about the money.

And if you want your money so bad, you'd have to involve the police to force her to pay up, but ofcourse you don't have time for that.

Strangely enough, she'd always succeed in convincing others to keep borrowing her money and I wonder how she does it. Who knows, maybe it's an esoteric skill that is innate and peculiar to chronic borrowers.

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