A Child Raised by the Parents or a Child Raised by the Grandparents

I was returning on transit on my way back home from the market. I couldn't help listening to the conversation if the driver and the other passenger at the front row. Their topic of discussion was about the level of indiscipline amongst the young people

The driver had suggested that he was planning on sending his two children aged 8 and 10 to go live with their grandma upcountry so that they could acquire a proper upbringing. He would them take over the responsibilities when they enter their mid-teens.

He was quite sure that his wife might not be able to do a good job of raising the kids in his absence. As a result,they could easily be influenced negatively by their peers and the contemporary society. He had observed that children who had spent part of their childhood with their grandparents had higher moral values.

Well, I believe that training a child involves both physical, financial, psychological and spiritual approaches. I don't think Grandparents still have the physical energy required. They are aged and there is an extent to how much they could endure.

In my parts of the world,most kids that have been raised by Grandparents tend to have better characters. Although I have seen kids who turned out to be spoilt brats under the care of their grandparents. You see, a father who loves his son so much would definitely love his grandson twice as much and would give him no restrictions just to make him happy.

On the flipside, there are a couple of "no nonsense" grandparents who would treat their grandchild with the same heavy hand that that use in moulding the child's parents into disciplined and responsible people. And wherever the child finds himself later on in life, he'd never forget his training just like his dad never did.

I have also observed that kids raised by their grandparents tend to have a broader perspective about life. They turn out to be more respectful, patient and humble as they had learnt alot about life through both real stories and fairy tales told to them by their grandparents. They are also more interested in the internal politics of the family and generally tend to become proud of their roots than kids who have been trained in the city by their parents.

However, kids who grew up in the house of their biological parents tends to have a higher IQ and learn very fast due to their better exposure to the media, social media and also from intelligent conversations with their educated parents. On the other hand, kids raised by Grandparents might possess a more archaic mindset which cause them to learn and adapt slowly to the ever evolving world.

Personally, I believe grandparents deserves rest after the long and tedious task nurturing their own children till maturity. They shouldn't be burdened again with the responsibilities of raising grandchildren not even when they ask for it, especially in today's world when parenting has become twice as difficult than it was decades ago. Unless in cases where the parents have failed in their duties as parents or have already made it clear that they aren't ready to be parents through a reckless and irresponsible lifestyle.

But ofcourse aged parents should enjoy the previledges of spending quality time with their grandkids especially during the holidays.